Please share with us on what has kept your relationship going these days

In these days of escalating break ups due to violence,infidelity or excess social media digest.

Please tell us how your relationship has kept it's head above the waters.

Most preferred are comments from married couples or partners who have weathered the storm from 3 years and above.

Thanks,we really appreciate.

Money

Love and trust

Every is just saying money,money, money

JudgementHammer:
Money

Money,Trust,Care Nd Good Good SEX................

Love alone cant rock d boat of relationship anylonger, The basic ingridient is TRUST.

God & sweeping so many things under the carpet..

Well, I can only say its by the Grace of God Almighty! Me and my Fiance just celebrated our 8yrs of Relationship recently! And hoping to Get married Next month by the special Grace of God. My Dear, I would say its God! Especially when its a Long Distance Relationship Like ours. We built our Relationship on solid foundation with True Love, TRUST and understanding. I would say I'm lucky to find someone that we are both compactable! It doesn't take rocket science to know when you truly love each other. Most importantly, if you make Sex your priority in your relationship, it won't work! We spent 3yrs plus without Sex! And we were very much commited to each other with the Highest Level of Trust coupled with constant communication. My Dear, what works for me, might not work for you! I don't think there's a single theory that guides Relationship. I think its quite relative. True relationship goes with a lot of sacrifices. One of the partner must be willing to sacrifice his or Her right to make sure there's Peace. You can't always have your way. You must be tolerant and very contented with each other. We attempted break up for several times! But never worked out!! We loved our selves so much that we can't stay apart from each other for just one day even after serious misunderstanding. Well, I'm her first love and she's also my First and last. My Dear, true love is sweet when you find the right person. Finnaly, patience is a virtue! I know a lot of guys that would readily crash out of the relationship once their partner says NO SEX! This is just one common issue with most guys! What helped me was that I actually saw my fiance as just a friend at the initial start of the Relationship. Till today, she remains my Best friend and partner. We are not perfect! I'm truly Grateful to God.

Wow,this is so touching.

I'm feeling the part of the first, and last and only true love.

A no sex relationship always goes a long way in solidifying the relationship.

These days people feel that infertility is on the rise, so they rest her for fertility by getting her pregnant but at the end of the day, they turn to baby mamas.

Your comments are sincerely appreciated.

More lessons learnt.

@mrking3

1acre:
Wow,this is so touching.

I'm feeling the part of the first, and last and only true love.

A no sex relationship always goes a long way in solidifying the relationship.

These days people feel that infertility is on the rise, so they rest her for fertility by getting her pregnant but at the end of the day, they turn to baby mamas.

Your comments are sincerely appreciated.

More lessons learnt.

You are so right at sweeping things under the carpet!!!!

Sanmel:
God & sweeping so many things under the carpet..

Trust in these days of social media is becoming very tangible coz it can't be measured.

Solidkay:
Love alone cant rock d boat of relationship anylonger,
The basic ingridient is TRUST.

Love, tolerance, trust and hope

Very very true boss

yorex2011:
Love, tolerance and hope

- complete honesty
- the ability to adapt/change

Money, loyal side chicks and good food........

love, trust, transparency and complete honesty

Awwww,your words,are so powerful and strong.

Feels good to hear some serious words on nairaland.

jashar:

Fighting fair.
Dealing with issues as they arise and once dealt with, no bringing it up again.
Having a book where we make and write decisions together and stick by them.
Effective communication often.
Honesty and transparency. No secrets allowed. Cuz secrets have away of causing things to fester.
Removing our focus from sex and focusing on more important issues that will arise in marriage ; like school fees lol, raising godly children
Having a vision for our union and doing what we can by God's grace to hit the target.

1acre:
Awwww,your words,are so powerful and strong.

Feels good to hear some serious words on nairaland.

Thanks.

More lessons please.

funlord:

Money, loyal side chicks and good food........

You no well.

Na wa o

dmcdad:

You no well.

Really appreciate you people comments and lessons learnt from your expreiences. Thanks alot.

Like mrking3 I have been in a relationship for close to 8yrs and I can categorically tell you that love isn't enough to keep a relationship. To me the key ingredient is Tolerance because my boyfriend can be so annoying sometimes and being contented with who you are with.

Nursy:
Like mrking3 I have been in a relationship for close to 8yrs and I can categorically tell you that love isn't enough to keep a relationship. To me the key ingredient is Tolerance because my boyfriend can be so annoying sometimes and being contented with who you are with.

I hail you sister.

mrking3:
Well, I can only say its by the Grace of God Almighty! Me and my Fiance just celebrated our 8yrs of Relationship recently! And hoping to Get married Next month by the special Grace of God. My Dear, I would say its God! Especially when its a Long Distance Relationship Like ours. We built our Relationship on solid foundation with True Love, TRUST and understanding. I would say I'm lucky to find someone that we are both compactable! It doesn't take rocket science to know when you truly love each other. Most importantly, if you make Sex your priority in your relationship, it won't work! We spent 3yrs plus without Sex! And we were very much commited to each other with the Highest Level of Trust coupled with constant communication. My Dear, what works for me, might not work for you! I don't think there's a single theory that guides Relationship. I think its quite relative. True relationship goes with a lot of sacrifices. One of the partner must be willing to sacrifice his or Her right to make sure there's Peace. You can't always have your way. You must be tolerant and very contented with each other. We attempted break up for several times! But never worked out!! We loved our selves so much that we can't stay apart from each other for just one day even after serious misunderstanding. Well, I'm her first love and she's also my First and last. My Dear, true love is sweet when you find the right person. Finnaly, patience is a virtue! I know a lot of guys that would readily crash out of the relationship once their partner says NO SEX! This is just one common issue with most guys! What helped me was that I actually saw my fiance as just a friend at the initial start of the Relationship. Till today, she remains my Best friend and partner. We are not perfect! I'm truly Grateful to God.

wow...so impressive especially coming frm a guy...May God bless ur intended Marriage

Let’s revamp our thread !

Let’s revamp our thread

Understanding, tolerance, sincere and genuine love, then trust.

blind trust, commitment, hope and longing because it's a long distance relationship

[quote author=mrking3 post=40438032]Well, I can only say its by the Grace of God Almighty! Me and my Fiance just celebrated our 8yrs of Relationship recently! And hoping to Get married Next month by the special Grace of God. My Dear, I would say its God! Especially when its a Long Distance Relationship Like ours. We built our Relationship on solid foundation with True Love, TRUST and understanding. I would say I'm lucky to find someone that we are both compactable! It doesn't take rocket science to know when you truly love each other. Most importantly, if you make Sex your priority in your relationship, it won't work! We spent 3yrs plus without Sex! And we were very much commited to each other with the Highest Level of Trust coupled with constant communication. My Dear, what works for me, might not work for you! I don't think there's a single theory that guides Relationship. I think its quite relative. True relationship goes with a lot of sacrifices. One of the partner must be willing to sacrifice his or Her right to make sure there's Peace. You can't always have your way. You must be tolerant and very contented with each other. We attempted break up for several times! But never worked out!! We loved our selves so much that we can't stay apart from each other for just one day even after serious misunderstanding. Well, I'm her first love and she's also my First and last. My Dear, true love is sweet when you find the right person. Finnaly, patience is a virtue! I know a lot of guys that would readily crash out of the relationship once their partner says NO SEX! This is just one common issue with most guys! What helped me was that I actually saw my fiance as just a friend at the initial start of the Relationship. Till today, she remains my Best friend and partner. We are not perfect! I'm truly Grateful to God. [/quot


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