Am from a family of four and just one sibling being my elder brother but I noticed of late my brother is always jealous and angry over me because people think am better than him which I don't think so?
whenever anybody ask him about me. He tries to trow me in the mud.
even his fiancee he is about getting married to was after me but i turned her down because my brother said he loved the girl.
when ever he is broke he comes out with a friendly smile to rip me but if i turn broke he starts the not talking to you attitude .
My parents thinks he is just being frustrated because he thinks i will override him later in future
i did my llm in nigeria but they took him to oxford for his llm. We both are lawyers tho.
whenever am in London he rallies his self around me so he could suck me then if am back to nigeria he stops calling .

i really need help because this is killing me inside as he is my only siblings and can't change that .

You all sound successful, maybe your older brother has insecurities, don't feed to them

Try to be the sane one, ignore him, try to reach out, he will pick the signs that you are brothers and no competitors

I fall out with my siblings all the time, but each time I try to be the mature one and make amends

Because family is all you have, they are worth your time and energy, so overlook everything and try make amends.

Miami11:
You all sound successful, maybe your older brother has insecurities, don't feed to them

Try to be the sane one, ignore him, try to reach out, he will pick the signs that you are brothers and no competitors

I fall out with my siblings all the time, but each time I try to be the mature one and make amends

Because family is all you have, they are worth your time and energy, so overlook everything and try make amends.

I have tried and always plead to forgive even when am not at fault

Jst play along wit him, there'll b a tym wen e himself would regret his actions towards u

In dis lyf karma is always a b!tch!!!

Gudluck

If only you knows how to pray,there is no secrets concerning both of you that God cannot reveal to you...every night at exactly 12 mid night for 7days,pray with these scriptures:
jeremiah:33:3.
Daniel:2:22
And follow the leading of His revelations.

flejnr2:


I have tried and always plead to forgive even when am not at fault

If that has not worked just play along as someone has said, act a fool, then ignore his rhetorics completely,

Act as if he does not exist, he will tire and come around

U sounds like a good person, don't ever change cos of anyone, treat him with respect and like a brother that he is, don't allow his negativity get to you. Insecurity and inferiority complex is his major problem.





Be nice to people irrespective of how they treat you, cos the amount of love u give to people will surely come back to u in many folds, and who knows maybe it's this your nature that has been helping you.

are you truely sure he is your brother?are you blood related?you had better ask this of your parents?

geez18:
are you truely sure he is your brother?are you blood related?you had better ask this of your parents?

This happens a lot in most families, nothing new

Do your parents know about this?If they don't,I think you should discuss this with them.
Do your thing.Don't let your brother's behaviour get to you.You don't live together so it's easy to ignore his tantrums.
He'll come around in the future when he sees you're not his competitor.

Guy forget your brother abeg.jealously day worry am

thorpido:
Do your parents know about this?If they don't,I think you should discuss this with them.
Do your thing.Don't let your brother's behaviour get to you.You don't live together so it's easy to ignore his tantrums.
He'll come around in the future when he sees you're not his competitor.

Some parents are never helpful with such situations

Some play favors and even fuel more division in kids

Trust me my own mother cannot handle a family feud.

Miami11:


Some parents are never helpful with such situations

Some play favors and even fuel more division in kids

Trust me my own mother cannot handle a family feud.

You're right in some cases parents take sides especially if they have a favourite.

flejnr2:
Am from a family of four and just one sibling being my elder brother but I noticed of late my brother is always jealous and angry over me because people think am better than him which I don't think so?
whenever anybody ask him about me. He tries to trow me in the mud.
even his fiancee he is about getting married to was after me but i turned her down because my brother said he loved the girl.
when ever he is broke he comes out with a friendly smile to rip me but if i turn broke he starts the not talking to you attitude .
My parents thinks he is just being frustrated because he thinks i will override him later in future
i did my llm in nigeria but they took him to oxford for his llm. We both are lawyers tho.
whenever am in London he rallies his self around me so he could sick me then if am back to nigeria he stops calling .
i really need help because this is killing me inside as he is my only siblings and can't change that .

How do you know he feels you are better than him?

Be careful not to sacrifice yourself in the process of being the good brother if you keep trying to please him to keep everything happy I hope you don't boil over one day. Looks like some boundaries are required from your own end.

andromida:


How do you know he feels you are better than him?

Be careful not to sacrifice yourself in the process of being the good brother if you keep trying to please him to keep everything happy I hope you don't boil over one day. Looks like some boundaries are required from your own end.

Pleasing him is an oath am to bind with and can't stop.
Blood is blood

geez18:
are you truely sure he is your brother?are you blood related?you had better ask this of your parents?

He is my senior brother of same parent. Just me and him in this world

Op, if I were u, I'll stay far 4rm him. Probably be based in Nigeria, den just call him 4rm time 2 time just 2 keep in touch, like say once in 2wks. Its best u keep ur distance, so he takes his mind off u 4 sometime, pending d time he is mature enof 2 handle situatns properly.

flejnr2:


He is my senior brother of same parent. Just me and him in this world

a true brother can't be acting so bitchy like this! methinks he knows something you don't.talk to your parents;heart to heart.believe it when i say the truth will set you free.

flejnr2:


Pleasing him is an oath am to bind with and can't stop.
Blood is blood

From your story it seems you are the only one bonded by the oath. You are feeling bad about the way you allow yourself to be treated how long will you keep pleasing him and feeling sorry for how you allow him to treat you. Even as blood is blood relationship is a two way street.