trustonyi:

Leave the poor girl to stay with her mum since she feels comfortable wit her

lannre:

@ spikecylinder

I cant stop her from seeing her,all I said is that she should notify me and she can see her at my mums place, Anytime she feel like.

ifyalways:

U are paying for restricting ur daughter and ex meeting to ONLY ur mums house.[b]Kids are quite sensitive and shld be be given the opportunity to make their own choices.[/b]i suggest u let her stay with her mum for now,u and ur wife can still call her up once in a while to remind her that u miss her.She wud soon get bored of her mum and come back by herself and pls after that,let her be free to visit her mum at her place. . .NO matter how bad she might be.
The last time she ran away,how long did she stay?what made her come back(did u send for her b4 she came or she came of her own accord or her mum forced her to come)?

davidylan:

what "choices" is a 6-yr old making? If you cant control your daughter now when will you do so? when she's 32?
You better teach her serious discipline now, i think the girl feels alienated with her father and finds her mom's place a lot more comfortable . . . its up to the OP to rectify that.

He should discipline her for wanting unsupervised visits to her mother's?

chaircover:

She is 13 and not 6

davidylan:

what "choices" is a 6-yr old making? If you cant control your daughter now when will you do so? when she's 32?
You better teach her serious discipline now, i think the girl feels alienated with her father and finds her mom's place a lot more comfortable . . . its up to the OP to rectify that.

ifyalways:

what i meant by choices is,the choice of meeting with her mum at her house.what do u mean by control?u trying to say that u can stop(control) a girl from seeing her biological mum and in this case,a girl that already knows her mum?what discipline are u talking of pls?Forcing the daughter to accept that the mum is evil
Now that the man have made the choice for the girl,what do we have?running away from home at random?wud it not be better if the man allows mother and child to have a very healthy relationship Till theres cause for him to do otherwise.

spikedcylinder:

Indiscipline? David, have you considered that there is a step mother in the picture?

lannre:

Restricting ? Are you saying its normal for her to see her in my place? And her mum attitude is my fear.

spikedcylinder:

And might have been maltreated.

spikedcylinder:

My point is, you need to set aside your differences with your ex wife and allow your daughter to visit her mother.

spikedcylinder:

My point is, you need to set aside your differences with your ex wife and allow your daughter to visit her mother.

davidylan:

so that justifies running away every time? Dem never born that pikin well o unless she's not mine in which case that would be the last day she entered my house.

I don't blame your aje butter ass. If you see real suffering, you will run faster than your legs can carry you.

JJYOU:

it would be nice to know how a young girl ended up staying with the dad in the first place

lannre:

Thats a long story she was carried away with fornication ,so she never bother to think about the girl until now, I dont know her mission,learnt she was at my place last Wednesday ransacked and search for only Gods know what. I dont even know what she want again. She is just making life miserable, I have lots on my head. I pity the young girl. I know she has nothing to offer her. I know better. That is why I am avoiding serious contact until the girl is in the University then she will be a little mature to hear me well. I am not the one to tell her who her mother is,her attitude is enough.  

ifyalways:

@OP,From every indication,it seems shes running away cos u wont allow her to go see her mum However,If she comes back from this awol,sit her down and talk with her,let her know u wont tolerate her running away from home at random,shes got to take ur permission and inform u whenver she wants to go see her mum.
That said,u can hate/dislike the woman till eternity,it wont change the fact that shes the mother or ur daughter.