babylolaroy:


of course, why one woman will hate it will be different from why another will hate it. some women....religion aside...cant share anything, husband or not. besides its not exactly 100% palatable to know your husband shares his love for you, time and even bed with another. its hard buh with iman, one can come to not worry much...SAMI'NA WA ATA'NA....thats d scope

lastly he doesnt even av to share love...with the right character, Aisha rodiyaAllahu anha was the most beloved to the prophet and he loved others too....i believe we can co-exist when we view our patience as ibaadah

brief,surgical and precise.Jazakhallah Khaira.daretodiffer can learn a thing or two from you about tolerance,patience,perseverance and IMAN. Very rebellious geh

eherbal:
brief,surgical and precise.Jazakhallah Khaira.daretodiffer can learn a thing or two from you about tolerance,patience,perseverance and IMAN. Very rebellious geh

She claims that he doesn't have to share love , is it humanly possible to treat people equally when he love for one is greater than the love for another . Do you think it is fair to love a wife more than the other? Do you think the other wife or wives would be happy with you if they realised that fact?

Do not bring the prophet into this. You are not him and you can never be him. I am not like any of his wives and I can never be.



I mentioned it once and I am gong to restate it again.

Don't you think it is unfair of you to consider me intolerant, impatient and irresolute when you a so-called man cannot do likewise unto me, your wife

You are in no position to call me names because I disagree with your SELFISH stance on a PERMITTED NOT COMPULSORY action, which would have little or no positive impact in my life.

Mathna has nothing to with IMAN. Stop confusing the two and stop trying to mislead us. . There are so many activities I and my would-be husband can do to improve our Iman, why on earth would I choose mathna (unless if I never loved him )..........so many enjoyable and fulfilling alternatives biko to choose from


I am not rebellious however I am too wide-eyed to be hoodwinked into something a

Im guessing the op is yoruba. Cos that permision on more than one wife is like their most liked part of islam

1 wife perfect for me. Love her dearly

enieme:
Im guessing the op is yoruba. Cos that permision on more than one wife is like their most liked part of islam

Really? What about Atiku and other Hausa/Fulani men that have more than one wife?

Ignorant people everywhere.Smh

One even brought the tribal angle into the matter

Allaahu musta'aan

doveda:


Really? What about Atiku and other Hausa/Fulani men that have more than one wife?

well, birds of a feather.
And I'm not saying anyone should go against Allah's orders here.
I'm just concerned that you find a man who doesnt even enjoin salah in his home feeling marrying another wife is the next best thing to do to become more 'muslim'

AbuHammaad:
Ignorant people everywhere.Smh

One even brought the tribal angle into the matter

Allaahu musta'aan

drop your piece not go about calling pple names

enieme:

drop your piece not go about calling pple names

Hes saying to u indirectly to be his 3rd wife.....why u dey quarrel with him

Empiree:
Hes saying to u indirectly to be his 3rd wife.....why u dey quarrel with him

How are you sure he already has 2?
We are not quarelling na... , after all I won't ever restrict him from marrying 4 wives as long as that list doesnt include me.

..........[size=20pt]JOYFUL MARRIAGE[/size] ...............

Love is a disease and its only cure is to get married to the one you love!


The first thing Allah gave prophet Adam alayhi wasallam was knowledge and the
second thing was marriage! How important!

The house of the prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam was not a house of indomie
and spaghetti, it was a house of ibadah, as well as a house filled with love and
ecstacy! The prophet was very romantic and sweet to his wives!


It was narrated that, every morning, the rasul salallahu alayhi wassalam would
greet all his wives from one room to another with tasleem! How many men do
these today?


The ummahatul mumineen radi Allahu anhunna reported that, the prophet would
NEVER pass by any of them around the house witout doing something lovely to
that person (winking, kissing, hugging, poking, touching her jilbab, smiling), and if
he doesn't do any to one of them, it means the prophet is angry with that person!
# Subhanallah, he expresses anger wit silence



Aisha radiAllahu anha said, the rasul salallahu alayhi wassalam NEVER raised his
hands to hit any woman or slave (abu dawud)

The prophet never made any of his wives shed tears for even one day despite being
married to over 12 wives, today, some men cannot even make only one woman happy!

The rasul salallahu alayhi wassalam would race with his wives.
The rasul would drink and eat from the same cup and plate with them.
He salallahu alayhi wasallam would adorn himself for them and he was the most handsome man to ever exist!



Narrated Aishah (RA),

I used to comb the hair of Allah's Apostle during my periods.".. (Sahih Bukhari,
Volume7, Book72, Number808)....

The Prophet saallalahu alayhi wasallam would recite Qur'an while resting his head
on the laps of Aisha while she is menstruating! How many men go near their wife
when she is impure?


The prophet would kiss his wives after ablution! How many men do this?


Allah said, in the messenger of Allah is the best example for you to follow.
Seriously, many couples lack romance in their marriage today! They stop saying (I love you)
after maybe 2yrs of marriage! Say it forever even at the age of 100!


Race with your spouse! Teach your spouse how to drive! Cook together, play together, drop your phones and spend time together with FULL attention.

Buy gifts for each other, write (I love u) on a small note and hide it under your
spouse's pillow, bag, cupboard or pocket! Whenever he/she sees it, it will
definitely attract a smile☺


Make your house lively and lovely, not a library! To hell with valentiine, celebrate your own love everyday!

Teach your wife the deen, buy her niqabs, jilbab, socks and gloves that matches the same color! #MA_SHA_ALLAH


Help her when she is dressing up, learn how to tie nikab for her! Spray perfume on her when she is at home. Do balloon fights, play games, hide and seek, gym together, do boxing, do the chores together! Wake her for tahajjud with a peck!


Send her text messages from your work place! When you travel, chat with her on
whatsapp/BBM. If u have more wives, then a GROUP CHAT will be a good idea!



[size=20pt]Sisters Too[/size]

One day, When your husband has gone to work, rush all the chores, clean all the
cleanables and dust all the dustables, prepare his favourite meal, on the fans and AC! Prepare the bedroom. Pink background colour is not a bad idea!

Go take your bath and wear a seductive swaggerlicious attire! Then spray perfume and sit in the center chair in the sitting room waiting for him!

So that when the young man returns from a hard day's job sweating profusely, as soon as he opens the door into the house, the first thing he sees is his angel cross legged looking "pepperistically" smashing and smiling on her face. His love for you is sure to increase!


Save your marriage from divorce, don't ignore the little things that can strengthen your love, there is NO shyness between spouses! Dance for him if you are able to!


Bath together! Escort him to the car.

enieme:

well, birds of a feather.
And I'm not saying anyone should go against Allah's orders here.
I'm just concerned that you find a man who doesnt even enjoin salah in his home feeling marrying another wife is the next best thing to do to become more 'muslim'

What are you on about?

You are a bigot and I called you out. So what are you trying to say?

AbuHammaad:
Ignorant people everywhere.Smh

One even brought the tribal angle into the matter

Allaahu musta'aan

You are a coward

daretodiffer:


You are a bigot

daretodiffer:


You are a coward

you, my dear have serious issues.

enieme:


you, my dear have serious issues.

Yes, I know

My issue (not issues) is that I am not afraid to tell as it is. For example I am not afraid to call you, a bigot because that is what you are.

daretodiffer:


Yes, I know

My issue (not issues) is that I am not afraid to tell as it is. For example I am not afraid to call you, a bigot because that is what you are.

Well, every one has a right to freely express his/her opinion which may be incorrect assumed or justified.
I won't argue with u over that.

enieme:

Well, every one has a right to freely express his/her opinion which may be incorrect assumed or justified.
I won't argue with u over that.

It is not an opinion

It is a fact!

Im guessing the op is yoruba. Cos that permision on more than one wife is like their most liked part of islam

daretodiffer:


It is not an opinion

It is a fact!

and if I called you a raging teenager, would that be an opinion or a fact?

daretodiffer:


It is not an opinion

It is a fact!

and if I called you a raging teenager, would that be an opinion or a fact?
For the record, I'm Yoruba myself.

daretodiffer:


It is not an opinion

It is a fact!

and if I called you a raging teenager, would that be an opinion or a fact?
For the record, I'm Yoruba myself And I think anyone can easily diff btw sarcasm and straight talk

enieme:

and if I called you a raging teenager, would that be an opinion or a fact?
For the record, I'm Yoruba myself.

That would be an opnion because I am not a teenager and my rage in this context is more of a personality. You are welcome


It doesn't change the fact that you are. If it were sarcasm you won't have replied with those statements.

enieme:

and if I called you a raging teenager, would that be an opinion or a fact?
For the record, I'm Yoruba myself And I think anyone can easily diff btw sarcasm and straight talk

I am sorry.

Lol.....^^^^^ you two.

Anyway, I won't mind marrying a second wife,although I know it would be difficult for my first wife to stomach.

However,there are some woman who won't mind having a co-wife and that's an added advantage.

In essence I would be comfortable with just 1 wife but the probabilty of me marrying a 2nd wife is not certain and would be out of convinience not some moral grounds.

daretodiffer:


I am sorry.

it's alright sis, no hard feelings.

doveda:


Really? What about Atiku and other Hausa/Fulani men that have more than one wife?

doveda just gave herself away as a Yoruba geh

It's understandable for ladies to be jealous of their man marrying up to four. But letting this jealousy go extreme to such extent as to prohibit what Allah has permitted makes that Muslimah's Islam questionable.

“. . . And whoever does not judge by what Allaah has revealed, such are the kaafiroon (disbelievers)” [al-Maa’idah 5:44].

Allah knows best why He permitted polygyny and let's remember we'll all account to Him. Saying some men want to marry more wives and are yet to fulfil other obligations....are you their judge?

And we are to do justice as much as we can! Allah will not punish us for what we can't do. For example, it's impossible to love two wives equally.

“You will never be able to do perfect justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire”

[al-Nisa’ 4:129 – interpretation of the meaning].

Even if our forefathers did it (polygyny) wrong, i still love the patience our mothers had. And this patience, humility and steadfastness found in our mothers of old have eluded the present crop of women probably due to civilisation cum westernisation and that foreign idea that "men = women''.
Also the notion that the population of men and women are almost equal is true. But the ratio of marriageable women far exceeds that of marriageable men! We have virgin(non-married) ladies, divorcees and widows who all wish to at least have the pleasure of having a man in a halal way. How will you feel if you are in their shoes? as a young divorcee? or a young widow? May Allah grant us the best.