My mum died a long time ago. Since then my sister had more or less played the part of a mother to me.

I got married recently, and it was clear from the onset that my sister didn't like the lady.

Since then she's refused to step into our house. She often request for money though and I usually give it to her.

My question is, is her action right at all? Or is she waiting for me to invite her first? Perhaps she's waiting for baby naming time? I've never given the matter serious thought until now.

She didn't approve of the lady because of her age. We've been married for over a year.

I guess she's still upset you went against her wish, just give her time, she will come arnd

Whats her problem nw,is she d one living with her?i dont kw some sisters-inlaw self,is she nt up 2 marriagable age?sorry 4 sounding dis way but i dont like such acts,anyway call her as sister,find out her reasons 4 doing such and let her kw dat 4 d fact u a married,u can handle ur family and u a no longer a boy,(but talk to her with love and respect ok)

If u know ur sis n wife no de too gree,den don't force ur sis to ur house.
If she visits, make sure u defend ur home and also ensure peaceful atmosphere for dem both. God"s wisdom bro

Some people are too close knitted that they find it difficult to let go.
Give her time and then invite her.

Nb, when my brothers married I even behave as if the wives no de exist. Snubbing my brother, the wife or everybody for no just cause. It makes me feel good in a wrong way, until I start accepting the " stranger " in our family.

Invite her first before concluding that she refused to come.
It may not be out of dislike for your wife but out of respect for your marriage.
Maybe she's just giving you guys space as a newly wed couple.
Maybe trying to keep her boundaries and hoping you and your wife extend the hand of friendship for her to feel free to visit.

Remember you have a wife now. Not a single man. So you can't expect her to walk into your house like she used to without invitation.

Don't invite her

Ppl just stress up over non issues. Shebi u are doing well? Why shld this matter bother u?

Yes!
Her action is right because it is her choice!
YOU have to deal with YOUR SISTER, not YOUR WIFE!
Deal with them SEPARATELY.
Simple.

Just let your sister be, you know she dislikes the woman you married, why would you even bring her closer,

As long as you talk to her on the phone frequently, time might solve the issue if not, life has to continue.

Miami11:
Just let your sister be, you know she dislikes the woman you married, why would you even bring her closer,

As long as you talk to her on the phone frequently, time might solve the issue if not, life has to continue.

We talk once in a while.

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I don't believe I need to invite her. My wife is due to deliver soon. I'd inform her when she's delivered and see what happens next.

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By "refuse" I take it you mean she refused your invitation or an event occurred that should have brought her to your house and she didn't come.
I think she is still letting out steam for going against her preferences.
Carry on as if it does not bother you and invite her if the occasion arises.