Each of us has his or her own expectations about how a partner or spouse should behave, what needs should be met, and what a relationship should be like. We have been subconsciously programmed by our background, parents, up-bringing, society, the media, and daily routines / stresses of life. This is one major reason why couples find themselves in the habit of grumbling, criticizing, dissatisfied by each other.
ONE KEY ELEMENT IN A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP IS ACCEPTANCE.
We each long to be seen and accepted for who we are, not what we do, how much money we earn, or how well we cleaned the house. Note that each person is unique and different from the other. In fact its our unique difference that necessitates marriage. Acceptance is appreciating your partner’s uniqueness, and valuing what they bring to the relationship. Acceptance is acknowledging the reality as it is. To accept another means letting go of preconceived expectations and judgments. It involves being satisfied with what is and taking him / her for who he / she is. When we are not alright with current reality, we are in resistance, which creates tension and trouble in the marriage.
To pressure your partner to be anything different than he or she is, means you are courting with disaster!
THE TRUTH IS THAT YOU CANNOT CHANGE THE OTHER PERSON, YOU CAN ONLY CHANGE YOURSELF!
Instead, try the following:
• Acknowledge what you value and appreciate about your partner.
• View differences and diversity in your relationship as a plus not a minus.
• Let go of preconceived expectations and recognize where they came from (family, friends, society, the media).
• Be amused rather than irritated by your partner
• Be compassionate and forgiving towards your partner.
• Love your partner unconditionally for who he / she is in the moment.
As you let go of old programming around relationships and what partners or spouses are supposed to behave like, you will grow to appreciate your partner’s uniqueness, and value what they bring to the relationship. Your partner will feel relieved, accepted and loved, and this will have a positive effect on the relationship.

U never see partner weh go make life tire you

Yup!
Acceptance of DEFEAT!

My friend complains about her BF/fiancé to me
But at the end of the complaint she always say...
"Above all these he is amazing"