QUESTIONS TO ASK BEFORE BREAKING UP
…this is in addendum to my friend’s (Rammy) message. May Allah continue to strengthen her.
Generally, marriage should be enjoyed and not endured. At the same time, we must never forget the fact that we are for better, for worse.
All we need to consider each for a relationship are not much:
i. It’s he/she is already making money or he/she has the potential to make it. A good couple is industrious. If the income of the guy is not enough today, u can look at it together so that you can improve it. Wallahi, tallahi, thuma billahi, it’s very difficult to get a committed partner. I mean a faithful one. If you have got one, but because his income is not enough and you send him away, you knw the implication until that guy returns in few years with a beautiful woman who had a foresight to tolerate him.
ii. As Rammy taught us, before u break up in a relationship, please, identify the problems first and trace their causes. After that, sit down with your partner and have a discussion tête-à-tête. Calling for a discussion to resolve a problem is a way of convincing him/her that u don’t want to break up. If you want to have a happy home, don’t see a BREAKUP as an option. That’s why our parents are still together happily today. Resolve to solve every problem that comes.
iii. Don’t ever forget you will be treated in the way you appear and to whom much is given, much is expected. In a relationship from day1, continue to show him/her how and why she cannot do without you so that in the days of crises, he/she can always have good reasons to come back to you. If you truly love him/her, BREAKUP is not a little option.


GENERAL FORMULA TO PREVENT BREAKUP
I. The two of you must love each other, otherwise, that relationship should never exist(or get deep)
II. If you actually love each other, you will take care, tolerate, support and understand each other.
III. Respect must remain reciprocal.
IV. Cancel BREAKUP from your dictionary because you will fight one day. If you know there is no breakup option, you will be resolute to solving your problems peacefully


This is to my sisters:
Why do you often forget how strong you are? If you say this relationship will not breakup, I am sure it won’t and if your determination is breakup, it will. You are naturally endowed with strategies to control a man in a friendly manner. With your interest, breakup can be reduced to zero.


And to brothers:
I think two major things are fundamental to buy any sister: take care of her and give her adequate attention. Even if she is having plan B, C, etc, she will cancel it herself. Take that lady for your mum. Make her feel the way you want your mum and sister to feel.

Remember, Family before any other thing or any other one
That is my submission

may Allah bless u . masha allah

Thank you ma.


May Allah SWT enrich your eeman.


cc: ladyshawlecx

ademoladeji:
Thank you ma.

May Allah SWT enrich your eeman.

cc: ladyshawlecx

......... ameen and you too