delishpot:
Your wife is now WOMEN? So can we also blame you for the crimes of another woman's husband?

Ferraricash:
you should understand what I mean, some women are party freaks and they can too disturb their husband for cloth money, bag money, shoe money , gele money infact dance money. Abeg person wife ,U don't have to be everywhere

delishpot:


Hahaha, I dey help women fight this war wey naija boys dey wage against them na. Too many women this, women that. I get daughter na, if we no wage this war, my daughter could end up marrying a bad apple

Cutehector:
Is she yoruba?

Ferraricash:
so u be person papa not person mama, bros u should know it's high time our Nigerian wives needs to understand that the economy is not smiling on anyone, I recently told a family friend who stays abroad that, If you want to commit suicide just get on a plane and land in nigeria at the current state of economy,that's suicidal

delishpot:
Your wife is now WOMEN? So can we also blame you for the crimes of another woman's husband?
There are lots and lots of women out there living peacefully with their husbands and praying for them. So YOUR WIFE does not represent all women. Likewise there are crazy husbands out there who abuse the love and faith of their wives but there are also those who love and cherish their wives.
Eh, as for your woman, keep your heart open, do not say no when she asks for something, women do not fancy negative responses. Talk with faith, tell her to pray that God provides for you before then so that she will go. Now, sit her down and tell her what I just told you

Moana:
Does your wife have her own source of income?

Ferraricash:
we just had plans in getting her started with something soon

Moana:
I hope you speed up the process. Make sure its something you can afford to start up too. Once she knows how hard it is earn something she will start spending wisely

Moana:
I hope you speed up the process. Make sure its something you can afford to start up too. Once she knows how hard it is earn something she will start spending wisely

Ferraricash:
we just had plans in getting her started with something soon

Ferraricash:
Thanks moana,delishpot,chidoks.you guys rocks. It worked

thorpido:
You guys should communicate more.If she had plans for such a wedding,she should have notified you earlier so you can make plans towards it or let her know your current situation that you can't afford extra expenses.Moreover she's not working so she should be frugal with cash.
If you can afford the expense,then provide for the wedding but if you can't,tell her no and that if things change before the wedding you can still provide.

By the way,a lot of wives are understanding.

thorpido:
You guys should communicate more.If she had plans for such a wedding,she should have notified you earlier so you can make plans towards it or let her know your current situation that you can't afford extra expenses.Moreover she's not working so she should be frugal with cash.
If you can afford the expense,then provide for the wedding but if you can't,tell her no and that if things change before the wedding you can still provide.

By the way,a lot of wives are understanding.

delishpot:



I thought of this but I know some women with this I dont care mentality will still hide their own income and demand from their husbands the full amount they need for partying. But yes, she should get busy too.

Moana:
that's true but he will just have to learn to be firm with her, come up with a budget and stick with it

Ferraricash:
bros yes o

PresVA:
I agree with all you guys have said but my only problem with the op is that he comes off as one who does things for outsiders while hoping his wife/family manages with him...
He's helping a widow..He's helping a friend. .. but a tfare for his wife to attend wedding seems hard to him; suddenly he remembers all his problems. .. his wife probably is a housewife and stuffs like wedding is the only way she goes out to atleast socialise and have fun..
Your wife sees you helping people and you tell her no money for tfare? How do you expect her to believe you?

I think they need to communicate better. ..and maybe incorporate her into his finances. . She may not even know his financial capability. ..
Better still, she starts earning hers so that she doesn't have to beg for t.fares...

Cutehector:
lol u r finished.

Ferraricash:
I see your view as a point but not in my case, she gets all she wants, I love giving even with the last penny on me because I'm always blessed in return. you need to know that she comes first likewise my daughter and helping others who need a help is a task for every human who has little or more to share. The truth is she has been getting everything and she just visited her brother recently and its becoming often to the extent that he sometimes just call and order she visits him and she might be gone for long that's when our child is on break. Sometime u need to curb something as a man of the house before it gets out of hand, her brother is married as well and there has never been a moment her wife visits us. Family family things can destroy a home that's another topic to talk about . I met home who was telling me how is mum got broken due to family ordering his wife to come over each time there is a party or someone gives birth and she will be gone for long, it's wrong and there should be limits too. But I wish My pocket is large at the moment, we were suppose to go for the wedding

Ferraricash:
abeg your wife Na ibo, make we exchange ? It seems you don't like Yoruba women when it comes to stories like this

blesoh:
If she can't understand with you,let her sponsor her trip.

Ferraricash:
After the whole struggles through the weekdays and surviving with the little that could sustain me and my family and during the week I had to support a widow from the little I have and as well a friend of mine who stays in kaduna. I woke up this morning and my wife raised up issues of how she will be attending a wedding of a relative of hers despite she knows my car has been faulty for a while now and I've spent a lot on taxi for her and our child when she visited her brother on several occasions this year, the child's fees is yet to be balanced, I'm sure she's not thinking about that. She called her aunt this morning concerning the wedding, I was expecting her to give her reasons why she won't make it up to the wedding nextweek, I was sitting close to her and whispering to her ears on excuses to make, she suddenly changed her face and got angry with me leaving me and the kid right where we were sitting. I know that's another palava for the weekend, I noticed she started yelling at our little child. Is it right for women not to be understanding not even in this economy crisis, lots of bills to be paid everyday and I don't even want to dig deeper on our everyday survival. Please how do you handle your wiv0es in this situations. We are just young couple

blesoh:
If she can't understand with you,let her sponsor her trip.