My wife put to bed a set of twin recently, a boy and a girl. They are our first. You can only try to imagine the joy we both feel about them - I, especially, as I always dreamt of fathering a set of twin since I was a teenager.

We've been very lucky as our mothers have always been around to tend to them and assist with other things. These babies always shortened their sleep despite each of our mothers tending to each twin all night. Sometimes, from our bedroom, I hear the cries of our babies signalling a long night to both grandmothers.

My mother returned last week and my wife's mother is returning next week. We are spending our first weekend alone with the babies as my mother-in-law is out all weekend to visit her in-laws before returning home.

I'm a businessman and have ample time for my family. I also have some church obligations that I've vowed to keep. I'm currently working on a new line of business and I need all the concentration I can get.

My problem is this: Last night wasn't funny at all, we barely slept straight one hour. I'm not really comfortable with the idea of a house help. Last night is a sign of things to happen in the coming weeks when my mother-in-law must have left. My duty to God, my family/family responsibilities and my business are the top three most important things to me right now.

How do I balance all these without being selfish or letting my babies slow me from fulfilling my duties? My wife is trying so hard to meet up and she's handling things well. But sometimes I feel her frustration.

If you've been in this kind of situation before how did you manage it?

Na who no open mouth talk dey die in silence.


HELP!!!

SELL ONE

My mum and dad were in this exact situation when they had my twin brother and I.

I dont know how they managed it, but they coped. It all boils down to Synergy. That's what helped them, and that's what I believe would help you aswel.

Regards to wify and twinnies

ThePeacemaker:


SELL ONE

And you be Peacemaker o

VickyRotex:


And you be Peacemaker o

That's exactly what I exhibited ''PEACE''

SELL ONE SO THE WONT BE LIKE PSQUARE

VickyRotex:
My mum and dad were in this exact situation when they had my twin brother and I.

I dont know how they managed it, but they coped. It all boils down to Synergy. That's what helped them, and that's what I believe would help you aswel.

Regards to wify and twinnies

Help me find out from them how they managed the situation o.

Hehehe...u will cope,there's no particular formula or strategy..just make up your mind to be a loving father and hubby..to your wife and kids..
u can hire someone to do the main chores....while you take care of your babies...
wish you the best

deekseen:
Help me find out from them how they managed the situation o.

Hehehehehe. Like someone just said, there's no particular strategy. What worked for my parents may not work for you.
Just synergize, you'll adjust and cope. It's okay for you to freak out like this at first, but with time, you will get used to managing your 3 major concerns. (Family, Church, Business)

ThePeacemaker:
That's exactly what I exhibited ''PEACE''

SELL ONE SO THE WONT BE LIKE PSQUARE

You're Evuuulll

nanalady:
Hehehe...u will cope,there's no particular formula or strategy..just make up your mind to be a loving father and hubby..to your wife and kids..
u can hire someone to do the main chores....while you take care of your babies...
wish you the best

The hardest part is the "forced vigil" at night. I can't hire someone to sleep with my babies.

deekseen:
The hardest part is the "forced vigil" at night. I can't hire someone to sleep with my babies.

ahh..no..what i mean is..u can hire someone to do the chores at home..eg washing clothes...etc,so that you and your wife are not stressed..
as for the vigil ....there is nothing you can do about it...for the next 6months..infact you will get use to it
...

God i want twins too a boy and a girl please God hear my humble nl prayers

IMHO
U need a nanny ,if u r a gud husband
U need a nanny and maid if u r an exceptional husband
If u dont want u /wify to die slowly

First of all congratulations on your bundles of joy. I wish I had had boy girl twins. I know it's really hard right now but it will get better. As someone above said please hire a house help that comes during the day and leaves at 9pm. Let her do all cleaning, washing, tidying etc etc. So that your wife will just cook and focus on the babies until they get older and sleep through the night and are more manageable.

As an expectant daddy,i still dont know how i will cope,cos i saw the stress my neighbour went tru for a year. And here you are,having twins. God that gave you,will give you the strength to cope.

U definitely need someone to assist with chores during the day. For the vigils, as a nursing father, u've got to adjust,since u av a private business, try catch some sleep during the day to make up for the vigils. Trust me, u will enjoy them.

Pele dear, just be patience, they will soon out grow all that in a couple of months. Congrats baba beji

blessedtwins:
IMHO U need a nanny ,if u r a gud husband U need a nanny and maid if u r an exceptional husband If u dont want u /wify to die slowly

Nanny and maid? We Will try.

fem29:
First of all congratulations on your bundles of joy. I wish I had had boy girl twins. I know it's really hard right now but it will get better. As someone above said please hire a house help that comes during the day and leaves at 9pm. Let her do all cleaning, washing, tidying etc etc. So that your wife will just cook and focus on the babies until they get older and sleep through the night and are more manageable.

Thank you.

Yomieluv:
As an expectant daddy,i still dont know how i will cope,cos i saw the stress my neighbour went tru for a year. And here you are,having twins. God that gave you,will give you the strength to cope.

Amen and thanks.

harbeordune:
U definitely need someone to assist with chores during the day. For the vigils, as a nursing father, u've got to adjust,since u av a private business, try catch some sleep during the day to make up for the vigils. Trust me, u will enjoy them.

Definitely.

JustHere2Observ:
Pele dear, just be patience, they will soon out grow all that in a couple of months. Congrats baba beji

My dear, I just wish they could start talking soon. It's not easy trying to guess what they want at night.

halfricanadian:
God i want twins too a boy and a girl please God here my humble nl prayers

How can God "here" your humble nl prayers?




Na yyoke o

VickyRotex:


How can God "here" your humble nl prayers?




Na yyoke o

Hear i meant tank u

halfricanadian:


Hear i meant tank u

You're welcome

JustHere2Observ:
Pele dear, just be patience, they will soon out grow all that in a couple of months. Congrats baba beji

Can he also be Jonathan?


It's a joking sturvv o

fem29:
First of all congratulations on your bundles of joy. I wish I had had boy girl twins. I know it's really hard right now but it will get better. As someone above said please hire a house help that comes during the day and leaves at 9pm. Let her do all cleaning, washing, tidying etc etc. So that your wife will just cook and focus on the babies until they get older and sleep through the night and are more manageable.

Hello fem. long time. How are the cute twins doing?

babygirlfl:


Hello fem. long time. How are the cute twins doing?

Hi hun. It's been a while . How are you and the family. We are ok here in Jesus name oooo. Been in a bit of a funk but feeling better now.

fem29:


Hi hun. It's been a while . How are you and the family. We are ok here in Jesus name oooo. Been in a bit of a funk but feeling better now.

Oh, you had a set of twin too? What sex? How old are they? In fact, I should be getting tips from you. Congratulations o!

deekseen:
Oh, you had a set of twin too? What sex? How old are they? In fact, I should be getting tips from you. Congratulations o!

Yess ooo .Thanks. They are 5 now. It has been a tough journey cos there is no help here but at least in Nigeria you can get as help affordably. My advice is get as much help as possible and take them out to do activities as much as possible to tire them out . Though actually getting out of the house is a military operation.

fem29:


Hi hun. It's been a while . How are you and the family. We are ok here in Jesus name oooo. Been in a bit of a funk but feeling better now.

Fine thanks. Yes its been a while. a bit busy at the moment. Family is fine. Glad you are fine. Look after yourself and the girls for us as always.