MOTHER OF THE HOUSE
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Dear wives,
While you enjoy being the first lady and only lady in the kingdom of your matrimonial palace, what do u have to offer as a wife/mother to ur marriage?
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-Is it just about u cooking 3 times everyday?
-Is child upbringing just about sending kids on errands?
-is motherhood only about going to the market every 3 days?
-is being a wife just about being pregnant every 2 years?
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As much as this issues are vital and dey signify d blessings in every marriage, why did u allow them to distract u from ur husband?
What happened to the "loving wife" you used to be?
Don't u remember the prophet salallahu alayhi wassalam said:
The BEST of women are those who are "loving" to their husband and bears children.. (agreed upon)
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If the once romantic house becomes "dry", then d wife needs to do her homework.
When was d last time u sent ur husband a text?
When was d last time u sang a goodnyt melody for him wit a sonorus voice?
Wen was d last time u gave him a massage after a hard day's work?
Wen was d last tym u fed him or do u just tell him: ur food is on d table o.
Why do u welcome him at d door step while ur body is smelling maggi?
Your husband is sitted beside u for like an hour, and u r nt even paying much attention to his gists because ur attention is focused on ur favourite TV show?
You watch different romantic indian films all day, yet u don't know how to show love to ur husband?
U wear rags at home like a 90yrs old woman yet he upgrades ur wardrobe everymonth, u only appear tantalizing when going for occasions?
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Yet when he gets frustrated and wants to take another wife, that's when u suddenly start doing all d things u neglected.
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You are a woman, you are always at home, rather than watching soap operas, use dat time to think of new ways to strengthen d fun in ur home, surprise him everyday wit something new and he wil never have d time to think of another woman, not even his mother. Lol
If ur husband just came in from work, and u don't even bother to stand up to welcome him, because u are busy posting:
"Pictures of food" on facebook, then there is a problem!
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In marriage, Love increases and love reduces, attimes it dies, and its all a test from Allah, its d mercy and understanding dat wil sustain d marriage in such situations.
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Why should u snub him in front of his visitors?
Why is ur voice louder than his own attimes?
Why do u welcome him at d doorstep wit a new "wahala" everyday, attimes he is even afraid of coming home after work
Why do u always quarell wit his mother yet when ur own mother visits, no problem.
How do u feel comfortable sleeping in d night whereas ur husband is awake because he is angry wit you?
Yet u keep admiring d fictitious marriages of malaysian movies.
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You see, all the romantic novels u read before ur marriage didn't avail u anything because u forgot to read about d fiqh of marriage and from the seerah of our pious predecessors.
Instead of studying d tafseer of verses about nikaah, u were busy watching movies
Instead of listening to lectures on nikaah, u were busy listening to gossips about other people's fake marriage.
Your own marriage is failing and u are still busy reading other people's divorce stories on facebook, ur problem is bigger than cameroon mountain.
Hello, for a man to pay ALL your bills 24hrs everyday till the day you die, then the least you can do for him Is to show unconditional respect and gratitude.
Na small thing to take care of another person daughter?
Even after ur death, he still pays ur bills incase u have any debt at the time of ur death. So, respect your amir.
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If you drank garri wit ur husband when he was poor, u deserve to be spoilt when he becomes rich, for you showed him love in its purest form.
But if u have a man who hardly quarrels wit u, always wears a smile, listen to u, laughs wit u, and doesn't beat u or hurt u wit words, even if u are not able to bear kids, count ur blessings and u will never be able to count them
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There are some other women who bear a lot of kids, but their marriage is hell on earth, d only reason why dey don't want to seek for divorce is because dey don't want the kids to suffer, would u rather prefer such a marriage? Forget other people's own and say ALHAMDULILAH for ur own.
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Perhaps u dislike a thing but in reality its good for u, and perhaps u love a thing but in reality its bad for you, Allah knows, while u don't know (baqarah)
May Allah bless our marriages, amin