bolseas:
I initially wanted to scream BLOODY Coward, but when I read your story further, I realised that you have tried a lot of things but the outcomes are not what you expected.


People have written, advised you.....

I am happy you now have a rethink. A problem shared is a problem half solved. But in your own case, it is a problem fully solved. Sometimes it is good to open up.

What I keep thinking is that what if after killing yourself, those places where you went for interviews called you to offer you the job. I mean about 3/4 companies called almost at the same time.


You are a hard-working and honest person, your command of English is soooo on point.

I believe that we will congratulate you soon.

Thank you very much ma'am. I really appreciate you taking time out to view and still drop a comment. I know with the kind-hearted,beautiful-minded people,that have so far commented and given different suggestions,I now have a new lease of life,armed with so much vigour,zeal and hope.

Thank you once again ma for your prayers.

Blade21:
guy calm down you were brave and overcame doesn't mean everyone Is that tough, we are all wired differently so be nice and if you can't be move along haba all of these shuu

Thank you sir for the clarity and your maturity.

elijah101:
them tell you say na soft hand them dey use take care of pikin , if you pamper the pikin .. the pikin go spoil .. use strong hand .. and the pikin no go spoil for your hand but e fit come spoil outside .. una dey pamper am .. that one is speaking english .. Employ him with your english na .. or give him money to invest .. you will not tell him the truth .. you are encouraging him .. you better tell him to die if there is no way out ..

Nobody came to my rescue ... I find rescue go him house ...

Mr man, I think you need to read all you wrote and ask yourself if you made any sense, you wanna make a point, do so in love and encouragement or rather shut the fvck up and pass,silly man.
Quote me and I'll bite you. Lcccck

endehT:



Thank you very much ma,but at age 34(in a few days), it really hurts to know i can't boast of 100NGN(one hundred) in my account!!!

I really love my family,and would rather be dead than see them suffer for a day. I can't stand it. It gets really worse when people start distancing theirselves from you ,not picking up your calls etc,because they presume your calls come with a request.

It is shameful and hurtful. I will rather be selfish,and end it all,than being 'generous',with nothing to show for it.

Thanks once again ma.

Millions of people at age 40 cannot boast of 50K in their acct. Even Nigeria is owing money. All these billionaires owe banks money though they're paying back regularly.
You're not the first, and won't be the last to be in dire financial crises.
However, people have been known to tough it out. No job should be too small now, your wife may also need to add some additional job to her seamstress work when she has no cloth to sew.
You need to try to look for old contacts, school mates etc that can help you with a job, ideas, or something. Start disturbing anyone that can help in your family too. Its just gonna be for a short while so hang on in there.

eyinjuege:


Millions of people at age 40 cannot boast of 50K in their acct. Even Nigeria is owing money. All these billionaires owe banks money though they're paying back regularly.
You're not the first, and won't be the last to be in dire financial crises.
However, people have been known to tough it out. No job should be too small now, your wife may also need to add some additional job to her seamstress work when she has no cloth to sew.
You need to try to look for old contacts, school mates etc that can help you with a job, ideas, or something. Start disturbing anyone that can help in your family too. Its just gonna be for a short while so hang on in there.

Thank you very much for your kind words Sir/Ma.

uwemjack:


Location is elegushi area in ibeju-lekki axis, call me tomorrow by 4pm so we can arrange for Tuesday as am not going to site on Monday.

At this point I need to stress the importance of one learning a 'handwork' that one can fall back on at anytime if white collar 'fall hand', like this case. As your kids are going to school register them also to learn a trade maybe after school or on weekends. You never know the trade they learn may become their main source of income latter on, you never know.

Thank you sir for the audience. I will act on what we just discussed.

Thank you very much sir.

endehT:
Hello all. Been a guest on NL for years,but based on recent happenings and goings-on in my life,I have decided to do a parting-shot-kinda note.

Straight to the point!
I lost my job with an MNC sometime in May 2015,due to 'restructuring'. Slightly before the down-sizing happened,I got a soft loan from one of the financial institutions,which I had been servicing monthly.

Since May 2015,my life has NOT been the same. I Attended series of interviews,but nothing was forthcoming. Eventually,around September 2015, I got a job with a firm(with a staff strength of 4people). For the 3 months i worked,I was not paid a dime,as the CEO kept giving one excuse or the other,which meant I was transporting to n fro from the little proceeds from wife's income(seamstress),and the little hustlings i could get around.

I have been doing some menial jobs since January 2016,but they haven't been able to take care of the family's pressing needs. I have a 2year old baby,and it's really been tough providing his needs. I go days without food,just to have enough to get baby's needs.

All the while,the loan I was servicing had to stop,as there was no constant flow of income any longer,and the savings I had,had to go for rent,utility bills etc.

Just today,I had an interview,and while I was there, my wife called me and told me my Creditors were at home,causing a scene within the compound(because I had not paid for 2months). This is coming on the heels of me, constantly keeping in touch and updating the account officer about my job status.

I was disorientated and confused when my wife called to inform me. Got back home and met her(wife), crying and feeling highly downtrodden.

I thought about the whole thing, and I could only think about Death as a succour. And Since my Birthday will be coming up in a few days,I have decided to end it all on that very day.

I have never,until now felt this whole suicide urge come over me!!!

It's a shame,' am aware, but I apologise to my wife,my family and most especially,my baby,for not waiting for him to know me proper,before I ended it. I always want the best for my family,and since I cannot provide it any further,I would rather do the honourable thing. I seek for God's forgiveness over my decision,sins and soul.


Adieu

What if you are called a day after u die to come pick up the appointment letter for your dream job.

Suicide should not be an option.
It's a very bin sin.
God has a reason for keeping you alive this far.
Why do you think he kept u alive till now?

medacares:



What if you are called a day after u die to come pick up the appointment letter for your dream job.

Suicide should not be an option.
It's a very bin sin.
God has a reason for keeping you alive this far.
Why do you think he kept u alive till now?

Thank you very much sir. I appreciate your kind words.

Siena:


Jack, God bless you for your kind offer.

Good evening sir. Please, have you been able to conclusively nominate someone for the verification exercise sir, as it looks like one or two people would really like to have this 'authenticated', before taking further decision(s) sir.

Thank you very much sir.

salsera:


What's your wife doing to bring in funds
If she's not working then pull your daughter out of school. She's 2years old its not necessary.
Is she also sourcing funds or are you doing this solo.

My questions maybe intrusive but its necessary.

Cos you're doing labourer work so that's like day rate 2500

Jobs are scarce and you're competing with recent grads too. Take it from me I've been on this 2years plus.

Dig deep and pull out other talents you have.
You write well so consider proofreading. article writing, research, project work. It may pay 5000 or less but that's more than your day labourer work.

You need different hustles because you are servicing loans here. So combine all you have.

Good evening ma'am. So sorry to disturb you at this hour of the day,but i would like to know if you eventually found someone time-tested,for the verification and confirmation purpose ma?

Thank you for your concern.

It is unlike me to respond to such topics but I felt to tell you not to do it. Your child will not be proud to hear of this in future. You have been trying your best and God will reward you and make a way for your family, please dont destroy your body because it does not belong to you, nature will ask you for repayment. Dont owe a debt in life and after life. Suicide is not a solution.

endehT

Thorpido has seen you so that's good for me.

I'd say anyone else who wants to help can pm you.

Keep us updated on the cv stuff when you get any response

MurderX:
It is unlike me to respond to such topics but I felt to tell you not to do it. Your child will not be proud to hear of this in future. You have been trying your best and God will reward you and make a way for your family, please dont destroy your body because it does not belong to you, nature will ask you for repayment. Dont owe a debt in life and after life. Suicide is not a solution.

A good morning to you sir. I do appreciate you taking time out to view the thread,and for even going the extra length of commenting,I say a Big thank you to you sir.

Thank you for your words too, and just like most people(on the thread) have also shared soothing,comforting words of wisdom,yours is highly appreciated also.

Thank you sir.

salsera:
endehT

Thorpido has seen you so that's good for me.

I'd say anyone else who wants to help can pm you.

Keep us updated on the cv stuff when you get any response

Mysticgal
Breadfruit
Siena
Penandpaper
Idisuleourown

Thank you very much ma'am. I will keep the house posted on newer developments. Thanks once again

dont be suicidal. be a man secured your family. this is what make man.

my advice for you is to do menial job. sometime this menial paying NGN2,500/5,000 per day when aggregate them for a month gives around NGN60,00/N120,000 per month which is average pay for most white collar job.

the fact is that u need to have savings culture whenever u are doing this menial job. Like during my school days, i did a lot of menial job where i got money for payment of my school fee and ICAN professional courses. i achieved this because i saved any dime that come to my way. there is many opportunities in Lagos. Dont hunt for job from Monday to Saturday but find a menial job at any construction site and work there.

this is challenges every man face in life. thank God ur wife is supporting u.

BE A MAN, DONT RUN AWAY FROM YOU RESPONSIBILITY. DONT BE CORWARD. FACE UR PROBLEM SQUARELY

galantjoe:
dont be suicidal. be a man secured your family. this is what make man.

my advice for you is to do menial job. sometime this menial paying NGN2,500/5,000 per day when aggregate them for a month gives around NGN60,00/N120,000 per month which is average pay for most white collar job.

the fact is that u need to have savings culture whenever u are doing this menial job. Like during my school days, i did a lot of menial job where i got money for payment of my school fee and ICAN professional courses. i achieved this because i saved any dime that come to my way. there is many opportunities in Lagos. Dont hunt for job from Monday to Saturday but find a menial job at any construction site and work there.

this is challenges every man face in life. thank God ur wife is supporting u.

BE A MAN, DONT RUN AWAY FROM YOU RESPONSIBILITY. DONT BE CORWARD. FACE UR PROBLEM SQUARELY

Thank you sir for your advice. I appreciate

Dear all,
I have met with the OP, as a matter of fact he is on our site working as a labourer.
Him no be scammer.

uwemjack:
Dear all,
I have met with the OP, as a matter of fact he is on our site working as a labourer.
Him no be scammer.

Thank you sir, it was really nice meeting you.
God bless you and your fam.

OP, maybe you should create a new email and drop here for those who might want to get in touch with you but don't do PMs.

Siena:
Brother, my heart goes out to you.

But...I feel what you propose to do is NOT going to make things easier for your young family. This is Nigeria, where creditors can chase your next of kin for a debt. Don't do this to your family, rom what you're proposing, there is no going back.

Make a list of your immediate debts, in order of priority, and give the total. I am willing to help, and I'm sure the good people of Nairaland will chip in. Of course there will be some verification details to take care of, but first things first.

You are absolutely right and your kindness is heart warming. Thanks for proving that we still have humane people around.

@Op, the situation is desperate but there is hope. You are alive and healthy. Debts can be paid and jobs can be found. Hold on, take each day as it comes and we will see you at the top someday. Meanwhile, BUA group is hiring. I'll make a call and get back to you here.[sub][/sub]

elijah101:
You people are even going to see him to verify shit .. At his age .. with the whole school wey him go ..

Having been through such difficult times, I would expect empathy from you.

endehT:



Thank you sir, it was really nice meeting you.
God bless you and your fam.

Could you pm me your number and I'll add you on whatsapp.

endehT:



Thank you sir, it was really nice meeting you.
God bless you and your fam.

It was nice meeting you too sir. Amen and you too

Good to see that things are looking good for the OP.

I have my reservations when folks threaten suicide in the face of difficulties.

All the best OP, may favour and grace locate you and your family.

ifyalways:
Good to see that things are looking good for the OP.

I have my reservations when folks threaten suicide in the face of difficulties.

All the best OP, may favour and grace locate you and your family.

Thank you very much ma'am for the prayers.

shaybebaby:
Could you pm me your number and I'll add you on whatsapp.

Thank very much ma. I just sent you a PM. Apologies for the late response.

chival:


You are absolutely right and your kindness is heart warming. Thanks for proving that we still have humane people around.

@Op, the situation is desperate but there is hope. You are alive and healthy. Debts can be paid and jobs can be found. Hold on, take each day as it comes and we will see you at the top someday. Meanwhile, BUA group is hiring. I'll make a call and get back to you here.[sub][/sub]

Good morning ma,and a very BIG thank you for your words of encouragement. I do appreciate and value your words of advice through and through.

Thank you ma for your effort towards the job offer as well,God bless and keep you.

InformedLola:
OP, maybe you should create a new email and drop here for those who might want to get in touch with you but don't do PMs.

Thank you very much ma. I will get that done and post it up here very shortly.

Thank you once again.

PS: Apologies for the late response.

I just tried to email you back but said I couldn't email a non existent member. Might be a glitch on the website. What's your whatsapp contact,I'll add you up and you can delete after.

InformedLola:
OP, maybe you should create a new email and drop here for those who might want to get in touch with you but don't do PMs.

Here's the new email ma.

endeht1@gmail.com

Thank you ma.

shaybebaby:
I just tried to email you back but said I couldn't email a non existent member. Might be a glitch on the website. What's your whatsapp contact,I'll add you up and you can delete after.

Sorry about that ma. I just successfully PM'ed you my whatsapp number.

Thank you

endehT:


Sorry about that ma. I just successfully PM'ed you my whatsapp number.

Thank you

Seen it, will send you a message in a bit, about 10 mins.