i will go straight to the point and not bore you guys with unnecessary details. i had to open a new account so not to draw unnecessary attention from those that know me with my username either from the office or otherwise

i work in a federal establishment earning about 100k per month. my establishment is about to send some people to the US for a convention though they wont be footing the bills. All they will do is make you get your papers easily by presenting you as their own. fortunately, i am among the few selected interested ones.

now my dilemma is that i think it is not wise to use my years savings in footing a trip which i wont benefit from economically considering my financial status. using all my savings in going to the State just to stay for about a month and come back to the country broke. i am actually interested in going and disappearing and try to make a life there. but my parents have advised me that it is not wise to leave my job to an uncertain future. To make matters worse i don't know anyone there who can accommodate me and put me through. No contact whatsoever to take shelter with.

i am torn between taking the risk and staying back entirely and hustling it out in Nigeria as a civil servant but i don't see myself making it big in civil service except i get the opportunity to dasukigate some funds from our government. lol

please i need the best advice i can get and i trust my nairaland family.
lalasticlala and the mod here abeg help my ministry

I see. To me, its better u stay home. hardly do people make it out there.

Bisiebae:
I see. To me, its better u stay home. hardly do people make it out there.

but staying home and with this our current state of our economy is not just encouraging... my salary have very lil purchasing power. its just frustrating

mrego:


but staying home and with this our current state of our economy is not just encouraging... my salary have very lil purchasing power. its just frustrating

Nigeria is a lot better. No matter what, ur family is here, u still av people u can trust. I've been abroad its not a bed of rose. Especially with all ur savings, u can start something productive with it.

Bisiebae:





Nigeria is a lot better. No matter what, ur family is here, u still av people u can trust. I've been abroad its not a bed of rose. Especially with all ur savings, u can start something productive with it.

sis, this family dont respect you except you have got some money to throw around. so its not about family... i just want to make it big and start my own family too.

are u saying Nigeria is a better option to yankee?

Assuming you have someone there it would have been a different ball game, but as a matter of fact don't you think it's gonna be a risky game putting your job behind and leaving your employer at risk or something.
But if you feel it's worth taking the risk then summon courage and take the leap. I wish you the very best which ever decision you take at the end. Shalom!

mrego:


sis, this family dont respect you except you have got some money to throw around. so its not about family... i just want to make it big and start my own family too.

are u saying Nigeria is a better option to yankee?

It's only when u are absolutely assured u would get a good job over there that it is better than Nigeria. I'm saying my part, the decision is yours, but the consequences are not reversible.

Why don't you try applying to go to school? That really is your only sane option.

TWoods:
Why don't you try applying to go to school? That really is your only sane option.

people seem to be saying that a lot

mrego:

people seem to be saying that a lot

Because its frankly the easiest route unless your parents or spouse is a US citizen or permanent resident.

Bisiebae:





Nigeria is a lot better. No matter what, ur family is here, u still av people u can trust. I've been abroad its not a bed of rose. Especially with all ur savings, u can start something productive with it.

Bleh bleh bleh
Naso e easy

Poster here are some questions for you

1. who do you know in America that can help support you seeing as you want to be illegal
2. where are you planning to stay while making your way if you do decide to disappear
3. how long do you think your savings can carry you? as in do you think you can stay in a cheap hotel for 3 months?
4. after you disappear, what is your plan?
5. where do you think you will start looking for a job
6. what are your plans to get document to work legally?
7. have you decided on the city you plan to go stay?
8. how long are you willing to go if things are hard before you leave? (what is your escape plan?)
9. Are you hoping to find someone to put you up in their home? and how long do you think you will be staying before you wear out your welcome?
10. what type of work experience do you have?
11. how much are you willing to collect as pay being an illegal immigrant with no employee rights?
12. can you take a leave of absence from work to try?
13. why didn't you consider what your parents advised?

i have many more but these are some questions to seriously ask yourself. I am not discouraging or encouraging you i am just asking that you ask yourself these questions and if you have concrete answers to them then...........

@OP

The desperation to "make it big" that oozes from your posts is disgusting.

I don't think you need any advice....change your line of thinking first.
Or follow the 11th commandment : "Se ife inu e".

Op

Is better you follow your mum's advice and stay here, rather than going to an uncertain future....you just stated that you don't know anybody in the US......do u want to be walking up and down on the road?

Bro, stay back and continue with your job.

charlie, if you have the opportunity to disappear from this Zoo called Nigeria, Vanish for Good, there is nothing special in this God forsaking zoo called Nigeria

kingsilly:


Bleh bleh bleh
Naso e easy

No mind her....I tire Oooo

your questions provokes deep thoughts and frankly i've been unable to provide satisfactory answers to most of them. i have rethought my steps and would see if i can put some necessary things in place which will make life easier...if i cant i will have to stay back.thanks.

omega25red:
Poster here are some questions for you

1. who do you know in America that can help support you seeing as you want to be illegal
2. where are you planning to stay while making your way if you do decide to disappear
3. how long do you think your savings can carry you? as in do you think you can stay in a cheap hotel for 3 months?
4. after you disappear, what is your plan?
5. where do you think you will start looking for a job
6. what are your plans to get document to work legally?
7. have you decided on the city you plan to go stay?
8. how long are you willing to go if things are hard before you leave? (what is your escape plan?)
9. Are you hoping to find someone to put you up in their home? and how long do you think you will be staying before you wear out your welcome?
10. what type of work experience do you have?
11. how much are you willing to collect as pay being an illegal immigrant with no employee rights?
12. can you take a leave of absence from work to try?
13. why didn't you consider what your parents advised?

i have many more but these are some questions to seriously ask yourself. I am not discouraging or encouraging you i am just asking that you ask yourself these questions and if you have concrete answers to them then...........