TaiKuun:
you obviously lack this thing we talking about bro. If you are not a teenager, then you must be a phoolish phool.

u demented fooool..isn't the lady wasted ni? Abi this one senseless ni?? Quote me again and I will send you to the pits of hell

UyiIredia:
Nicely written.

GlorifiedTunde:
Marriage to anyone without the fear of God may most likely end in divorce... Except the disadvantaged partner decides to stay there no matter what.

Why?

Every man/woman must have an addiction/habit like those stated above.

It is only those who have the fear of God (not Church goer) that are rid of these habits... I'm speaking from experience.

Like I usually tell ladies, nobody can control a man, not you, your/his parents, friends... Nobody!

Its only the God that he fears that controls him.

But unfortunately, ladies feel most spiritual guys are boring... So you manage what you have

agarawu23:
i am one, nice meeting me

McKc22:
in tekno voice love is wat I c wen I look at u

ForesightLTD:
Lovely write up

Laveda:
Nicely put.
Good one Op

Bussme:
Good one. Well done

Dimejidude:
Controlling
Usually, the onus falls on women. One thing about men is that they all have an ego, that is how they were created and so in marriage, you have a woman who wants to always control the man,it doesn’t last.

Izen:


And you think a marriage where a man wants to control a woman will last?

Lovelynature:
Compatibility remains the best ground for lasting marriage. Though no two people are completely compatible, but to certain level is quite ok

Dimejidude:


None will last

Riderboy:


IMO there is nothing like compatibility in marriage. Just as we all have different finger prints, our personalities that shapes us are different. It is in how we manage our incompatibility through understanding and preservarence. understand that your spouse is different in personality, upbringing and character and flaws and preserve with the personality.
That's why it is advisable to marry what you can Cope with.

Izen:


And you think a marriage where a man wants to control a woman will last?

GlorifiedTunde:

No man should control his wife, not even domineer.
However the husband is the leader, the captain in the home. This is a position of responsibility - he should be blamed for whatever goes wrong with the family.
But ladies of today feel they must be in charge, it is impossible! There cannot be two captains in a ship. A husband passes every decision in the home ( after consulting with his wife of course).
But whatever the man says is final, if he's wrong, then the wife should enter the "war room" and God will definitely touch his heart.
But if a wife decides to drag authority with the man in the home, its gonna end sour, and its even against the scriptures.
So the [b]counsel for ladies is that they should marry man who would listen to them and respect their views [/b]while reflecting it in the decisions of the home.
If God has said the man is your head and you are the support, better get a man you can entrust your life with else submission will be difficult.

GlorifiedTunde:
Marriage to anyone without the fear of God may most likely end in divorce... Except the disadvantaged partner decides to stay there no matter what.

Why?

Every man/woman must have an addiction/habit like those stated above.

It is only those who have the fear of God (not just a Church goer) that are rid of these habits... I'm speaking from experience.

Like I usually tell ladies, nobody can control a man, not you, your/his parents, friends... Nobody!

Its only the God that he fears that controls him.

But unfortunately, ladies feel most spiritual guys are boring... So you manage what you have

juhan:
lol nice meeting you

GlorifiedTunde:
Marriage to anyone without the fear of God may most likely end in divorce... Except the disadvantaged partner decides to stay there no matter what.

Why?

Every man/woman must have an addiction/habit like those stated above.

It is only those who have the fear of God (not just a Church goer) that are rid of these habits... I'm speaking from experience.

Like I usually tell ladies, nobody can control a man, not you, your/his parents, friends... Nobody!

Its only the God that he fears that controls him.

But unfortunately, ladies feel most spiritual guys are boring... So you manage what you have

juhan:
yeah omo yoruba ni mi

GlorifiedTunde:
Marriage to anyone without the fear of God may most likely end in divorce... Except the disadvantaged partner decides to stay there no matter what.

Why?

Every man/woman must have an addiction/habit like those stated above.

It is only those who have the fear of God (not just a Church goer) that are rid of these habits... I'm speaking from experience.

Like I usually tell ladies, nobody can control a man, not you, your/his parents, friends... Nobody!

Its only the God that he fears that controls him.

But unfortunately, ladies feel most spiritual guys are boring... So you manage what you have

ayorwizz:
gba knuckle e ojare, omo"ya mi

GlorifiedTunde:


No man should control his wife, not even domineer.

However the husband is the leader, the captain in the home. This is a position of responsibility - he should be blamed for whatever goes wrong with the family.

But ladies of today feel they must be in charge, it is impossible! There cannot be two captains in a ship. A husband passes every decision in the home ( after consulting with his wife of course).

But whatever the man says is final, if he's wrong, then the wife should enter the "war room" and God will definitely touch his heart.

But if a wife decides to drag authority with the man in the home, its gonna end sour, and its even against the scriptures.

So the counsel for ladies is that they should marry man who would listen to them and respect their views while reflecting it in the decisions of the home.

If God has said the man is your head and you are the support, better get a man you can entrust your life with else submission will be difficult.

Izen:


You people keep saying women want to be in charge, how exactly? Women around me want to have a say, not be in charge. It's like wanting to have a say in what concerns your life now equals wanting to be in charge. And sometimes, you shouldn't quote scriptures to make your point. Not everyone is a Christian or Muslim, thanks. Y'all make submission sound so easy, you never talk about how to love wives. If women are loved the way they should be, there wouldn't be any need to discuss submission. Play your part as a man and stop this one sided argument. Even kids are asked to honor their parents. We rebel sometimes but our parents never stop loving us. You men have been asked to love and honor your wives, do you know you must love irrespective of whether your wife submits or not? Because that is what love is. How many men can actually do that? Do you see us shouting it down your throats? You say the only solution to a woman's problem is the war room right? How about a man's? Do you go to the war room when your wife does something wrong? Whatever a man says is final? Lol. Pray and God will definitely touch his heart? Are you even married? Married women will tell you otherwise. Being in a marriage where all I worry about is being in a war room so that God will change my husband's mind is not what I dream of. Some women have spent their whole life praying, and to what end? Please let us all be realistic for once. Women are whole human beings with feelings, we are not robots. We are adults who can make decisions for ourselves too. We didn't come to this world just for the sake of men & kids. We love you but we also love ourselves. Always put that into consideration please.

GlorifiedTunde:


There is nothing you have said that is not reflected in what i said initially.
When I say ladies of today wanna be in charge I know what I'm saying.
How many ladies put it the way you did these days? They don't say "air my views", they say "I'm not up for any man's control", "why must I submit to a man?", "there's no such thing as the man being the head" etc.
There are too many ladies today who enter marriage with a mind set of not submitting - so how will such a home work?

I am not saying men are not wrong also, but the rate at which gender equality is being crusaded, its already breeding women who will not find submission easy.

The world has become unfair - every empowerment and enlightenment is towards the female gender, and you forget their male counterpart - those who will be married to them.

Why teaching the girl child how to be confident and have a good self esteem, why don't you also teach the boy child how to respect and care for a woman? This is an anomaly that will keep the current situation lingering.

Sorry about the diversion there.

At the end of it all, its better a lady gets married to a man who has an understanding of love, affection and care for a woman; and a man marry alady who uunderstands respect and reverence of a man as the head.
This is the balanced equation. A failure in one is a failure of the union. No one should take advantage of the other. Why?

Just like a sensible man will find it easy to love a submissive woman, so also will a sensible woman find it easy to submit to a loving man.

Note the word "sensible"

Izen:


I agree with most of what you said except the 'control' part. Machines are to be controlled not humans. The word 'control' shouldn't even be used on kids. 'Lead' would be a better word.

GlorifiedTunde:


There is nothing you have said that is not reflected in what i said initially.
When I say ladies of today wanna be in charge I know what I'm saying.
How many ladies put it the way you did these days? They don't say "air my views", they say "I'm not up for any man's control", "why must I submit to a man?", "there's no such thing as the man being the head" etc.
There are too many ladies today who enter marriage with a mind set of not submitting - so how will such a home work?

I am not saying men are not wrong also, but the rate at which gender equality is being crusaded, its already breeding women who will not find submission easy.

The world has become unfair - every empowerment and enlightenment is towards the female gender, and you forget their male counterpart - those who will be married to them.

Why teaching the girl child how to be confident and have a good self esteem, why don't you also teach the boy child how to respect and care for a woman? This is an anomaly that will keep the current situation lingering.

Sorry about the diversion there.

At the end of it all, its better a lady gets married to a man who has an understanding of love, affection and care for a woman; and a man marry alady who uunderstands respect and reverence of a man as the head.
This is the balanced equation. A failure in one is a failure of the union. No one should take advantage of the other. Why?

Just like a sensible man will find it easy to love a submissive woman, so also will a sensible woman find it easy to submit to a loving man.

Note the word "sensible"