Abigail was married to a scoundrel. She knew it but she still submitted to him. He annoyed King David who was going to come wipe out his family. Abigail prepared herself with foodstuff and met David on the road, begging him not to soil his hands with blood. She spoke so softly and with wisdom, that David's anger was appeased. It was God who killed Abigail's husband, Abigail didn't even have to speak critically of him. David did not waste time to send for Abigail. She deserved to be a king's wife. She was a wise woman.

David's first wife was a Princess, as her father Saul was the first king of Isreal, she ought to have learnt how to speak to a king; with respect. But she was so upset at how David danced recklessly with his robes falling off him in front of other maidens, she criticized him. It was God who cursed her. She was barren for the rest of her life and lived in solitude and sadness. David did not have to punish her himself. She was not a Queen!

Woman! Be wise. Your man has problems and you are his solution. RESPECT him. God will fight your battles. A man who does wrong will forever love the woman who supports him, than the one who abandons him or constantly criticizes him. Don't be the one to push your husband to drinking or other women. Men today are under so much pressure than ever before. Be his cheer-leader not his critic. Be his back-bone not his oppressor. Listen to what he doesn't or cannot even say. Be an encourager not a nag. Even if your husband never changes, you married him for better for worse. No man is perfect. Speak what you want to see into reality, call your husband who you want him to be and not what he is today.

God saw that Adam was good but it was not good that he was alone. Your husband is incomplete without you. Be his missing rib and not a thorn in his flesh.

I pray for God's wisdom today for every wife. Regardless of what your home looks like today, there's absolutely nothing impossible for God. You will reap the fruits of your labor and your husband and children will call you blessed.

Selah!

I am Olajumoke Alawode-James

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