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My Husband Is Selfish by 3sexy: 3:14pm On Jun 06, 2016
I am a married woman with a lovely kid , I love my husband but he is too selfish in bed , to him, lovemaking means" penetration" , no romance no fore play , all he is interested in is just to penetrate me ! he doent even care if I,m wet or not .this is really getting frustrating because it is painful and sometimes I end up having blisters.
Most tines I try to initiate pre-intimacy and make him slow down a bit he gets impatient and angry ,and I just let him have his way , and the worst part of it is that when he is done he will fall asleep immediately !
Pls matured minds how do I make him change without hurting his feelings , for over 5 years now i have not had a pinch of climax, I love him dearly but I also want a normal sex life in my marriage .

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Re: My Husband Is Selfish by mhizeva(f): 3:37pm On Jun 06, 2016
You are one of many seeking a solution to this case... But something you should know that right now you are trying to deal with a mans mentality here...

Communication is the key and seduction is a second key... Communicate your feelings to him, tell him how you want him to make you feel during sex drop all shy or proud acts and hit the nail on the head... (depends on how close you both are in the marriage)

After having this sensual talk with him, if you two dont have immediately then here is your chance to use seduction...

Create a day (a perfect day) when he comes home and enters into his room and sees you lying seductively in the bed... While he is ready to penetrate... Tell him what you want and make him imagine how much pleasure you will give to him if he gives you what you want....

You can do more by seeing a therapist... or you can just go with this advise....

Stay Healthy, Stay Wise

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Re: My Husband Is Selfish by nnamdibig(m): 3:50pm On Jun 06, 2016
The person below me will definitely have something to say. S3x should be enjoyed by both parties.
Re: My Husband Is Selfish by samsono30: 7:30pm On Jun 06, 2016
My advice to you is that is you should jst accept you fate because you didnt complain for 5yrs, suddenly its now you are bring it up. Your husband might start suspecting maybe somebody is giving you better than him and you marriage is in trouble. Why did you not test run him before marriage, you would have known how his boost is like. The only way i can help you is to give you u some herbs that you will cook with his food to make him stay longer n you will be able to climax. Contact me 08037318416

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Re: My Husband Is Selfish by samsono30: 7:54pm On Jun 06, 2016
My advice to you is that is you should jst accept you fate because you didnt complain for 5yrs, suddenly its now you are bring it up. Your husband might start suspecting maybe somebody is giving you better than him and you marriage is in trouble. Why did you not test run him before marriage, you would have known how his boost is like. The only way i can help you is to give you u some herbs that you will cook with his food to make him stay longer n you will be able to climax. Contact me 08037318416 and when you try this, you will be forever greatful.
Re: My Husband Is Selfish by oweniwe(m): 8:05pm On Jun 06, 2016
samsono30:
My advice to you is that is you should jst accept you fate because you didnt complain for 5yrs, suddenly its now you are bring it up. Your husband might start suspecting maybe somebody is giving you better than him and you marriage is in trouble. Why did you not test run him before marriage, you would have known how his boost is like. The only way i can help you is to give you u some herbs that you will cook with his food to make him stay longer n you will be able to climax. Contact me 08037318416 and when you try this, you will be forever greatful.

OP...

If he catch you....

Samsono30 ... Lasting longer is not the problem ... Read again angry

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Re: My Husband Is Selfish by diportivo: 8:20pm On Jun 06, 2016
Too late
Re: My Husband Is Selfish by Qualer: 8:51pm On Jun 06, 2016
samsono30:
My advice to you is that is you should jst accept you fate because you didnt complain for 5yrs, suddenly its now you are bring it up. Your husband might start suspecting maybe somebody is giving you better than him and you marriage is in trouble. Why did you not test run him before marriage, you would have known how his boost is like. The only way i can help you is to give you u some herbs that you will cook with his food to make him stay longer n you will be able to climax. Contact me 08037318416 and when you try this, you will be forever greatful.

Re: My Husband Is Selfish by darlenese(f): 1:10pm On Jun 07, 2016
diportivo:
Too late

You think so?
Re: My Husband Is Selfish by darlenese(f): 1:11pm On Jun 07, 2016
[quote author=Qualer post=46336748][/quote]

Hahahhaha
Re: My Husband Is Selfish by Qualer: 6:37pm On Jun 07, 2016
darlenese:


Hahahhaha


well, ...well .... hello!

Re: My Husband Is Selfish by sweetcocoa(f): 6:40pm On Jun 07, 2016
Didn't you have sex with him before getting married? To think you've even been married for 5 years.

You can try talking to him still.

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Re: My Husband Is Selfish by frozenSun(m): 12:23am On Jun 08, 2016
3sexy:
I am a married woman with a lovely kid , I love my husband but he is too selfish in bed , to him, lovemaking means" penetration" , no romance no fore play , all he is interested in is just to penetrate me ! he doent even care if I,m wet or not .this is really getting frustrating because it is painful and sometimes I end up having blisters.
Most tines I try to initiate pre-intimacy and make him slow down a bit he gets impatient and angry ,and I just let him have his way , and the worst part of it is that when he is done he will fall asleep immediately !
Pls matured minds how do I make him change without hurting his feelings , for over 5 years now i have not had a pinch of climax, I love him dearly but I also want a normal sex life in my marriage .

Oh No.
If my partner is not feeling it, then it is just a waste of time.
Even if it is a quickie.

Hey madam, the sad truth is that your husband is stuck in his idea & mentality about sex and there is little or nothing u can do. even your attempt to make him see it your way seems to annoy him. I guess it is just a matter of OPEN LEG, CHUK PRICK, RELEASE, CLOSE LEG. I bet he doesn't last 10 minutes.

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Re: My Husband Is Selfish by frozenSun(m): 12:24am On Jun 08, 2016
sweetcocoa:
Didn't you have sex with him before getting married? To think you've even been married for 5 years.

You can try talking to him still.

Please don't let the NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE crew meet you here. my hand no dey.

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Re: My Husband Is Selfish by sweetcocoa(f): 12:30am On Jun 08, 2016
frozenSun:


Please don't let the NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE crew meet you here. my hand no dey.
Catch who? You look my moniker finish be you like the one some sanctimonious ediots can mess with? They no reach na. undecided
Re: My Husband Is Selfish by 3sexy: 12:53pm On Jul 06, 2016
frozenSun:


Oh No.
If my partner is not feeling it, then it is just a waste of time.
Even if it is a quickie.

Hey madam, the sad truth is that your husband is stuck in his idea & mentality about sex and there is little or nothing u can do. even your attempt to make him see it your way seems to annoy him. I guess it is just a matter of OPEN LEG, CHUK PRICK, RELEASE, CLOSE LEG. I bet he doesn't last 10 minutes.


Did u say 10 minutes ?

Hmmn it seems there is more problem than I thought !
Re: My Husband Is Selfish by frozenSun(m): 1:39pm On Jul 06, 2016
3sexy:


Did u say 10 minutes ?
Hmmn it seems there is more problem than I thought !
?
Re: My Husband Is Selfish by 2sexycom(m): 9:12pm On Jul 06, 2016
3sexy:
I am a married woman with a lovely kid , I love my husband but he is too selfish in bed , to him, lovemaking means" penetration" , no romance no fore play , all he is interested in is just to penetrate me ! he doent even care if I,m wet or not .this is really getting frustrating because it is painful and sometimes I end up having blisters.
Most tines I try to initiate pre-intimacy and make him slow down a bit he gets impatient and angry ,and I just let him have his way , and the worst part of it is that when he is done he will fall asleep immediately !
Pls matured minds how do I make him change without hurting his feelings , for over 5 years now i have not had a pinch of climax, I love him dearly but I also want a normal sex life in my marriage .
first of you are infringing on my trademark as "sexy" here.(kidding)

Anyway, your husband is just being a typical African nay Nigerian. I don't see him changing because his background and perception on things like this are pretty archaic. His type believe women shouldn't enjoy sex lol

People like do not know anything about femaie sexuality and therefore needs to be schooled. Get him some books to read if he is the type that love reading. It might help because that is like personal counselling.

Aside that, he is going to be a hard nut to crack.

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Re: My Husband Is Selfish by sunvick(m): 9:51pm On Jul 06, 2016
@OP

Why dont you one day take charge and lead the sexual chorus to your taste and satisfaction.

Just tell him 'Honey, I want to be in charge today/ Honey i want to make love to you.

Lie him down and ask him to relax....give him a good head game (If he survives it then proceed below).

If he is still standing Ajar... mount the horse in reverse cow girl and get urself satisfied.


Life is too short not to be sexually satisfied ohh!!!

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Re: My Husband Is Selfish by Richy4(m): 9:51pm On Jul 06, 2016
Someone said it is late to tell him how u feel....and i say it is not.

Marriage is the only institution u get certificate before u begin....

Why are u scared of telling him?
>>>>That he will not marry u again because u like sex? Newsflash, U are already married...U only pretend that what he was doing was cool when u were eager for him to marry u. when u were forming good girl. even if he say 2+2=3 you willingly agree just to answer that cool title MRS

>>>> that he will think u are getting it some where hence you complaining....? Dear your husband should be your best friend. besides, even if he feels u were getting it some where, he will like to out do the other man... it is an honour thing every man has within him in that department...

The whole thing sound to me like u married an old man or u married a money bag...then u are scared to air out your feelings....

Just say it. u will not die if u do.. he is your husband not your professor in school...he will not fail u if u correct or complain

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Re: My Husband Is Selfish by superayyy(f): 12:17am On Jul 07, 2016
Try talking to him explain that u feel pains and dont enjoy the sex u might actually exaggerate and emphasize on it,he loves u I guess he will see reasons. On ur next sexual act,take the lead give him a good hj/or Bj preferably with slightly hot water..(sorry to bring my personal issues up)
My bf loves it and sometimes begs for it before even the sex....u can read online how it is properly done so as not to chew his di*k lol .Since he doesn't encourage pre-intimacy,before the whole sex thing make sure u have boiled water and place in a flask with a jar of cold water to give u a desirable temperature..u will actually get aroused doing this..when u think he is ripe,take d lead,stay on top and ride(front n back motion, pls do not pound) alright I'm not gonna teach u how to ride a man rhat

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Re: My Husband Is Selfish by superayyy(f): 12:27am On Jul 07, 2016
CONT'D

after staying for about 2mins try sitting up twisting ur waist and turn left or right with his do*k still in u and twisting as u go into reverse cowgirl, raise his legs up and grab his toes his orgasm will be massive.....Let him understand that u could do more if only he let's u enjoy it as well
If none works then it is sure best u go to a therapist!!I hope this helps!goodluck!!!

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Re: My Husband Is Selfish by KanwuliaExtra: 2:46am On Jul 07, 2016
They are all like that o! grin
A normal SEX life with AN AFRICAN MAN? shocked
Where? How? Say wetin 'appen? cheesy
You must be dreaming!
Na newly-wed sickness dey worry you gaaaaan.
I say na so all of dem be o. NO EXCEPTIONS.
Always about them and SELFISH to the bone!
Don't worry yourself on that account o.

THEY ARE ALL LIKE THAT! Busssssssh Thaaangs! grin
The ones wey get time for romance NO GET MONEY!
Choose one. You can't have both.
Ask Aisha Buhari if she ever had an orrrgazzzm in her entire life! cry

Just do as I do.
TAKE THE SPERM AFTER HE RELEASES AND FINGGGGER YOURSELF TILL YOU "COME AND GO" TO SLEEP!

Simple!

African man? Tufia!!!!
If I come this world again, nor be dem abeg!

Ta! embarassed

Too late! I am stuck with my IGBOTIC BUSH FOWL! No need to trade one dry pehnis for anoda wan. I can COME by myself! Shior. cheesy

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Re: My Husband Is Selfish by njiasi30(f): 3:03pm On Jul 08, 2016
KanwuliaExtra:
They are all like that o! grin
A normal SEX life with AN AFRICAN MAN? shocked
Where? How? Say wetin 'appen? cheesy
You must be dreaming!
Na newly-wed sickness dey worry you gaaaaan.
I say na so all of dem be o. NO EXCEPTIONS.
Always about them and SELFISH to the bone!
Don't worry yourself on that account o.

THEY ARE ALL LIKE THAT! Busssssssh Thaaangs! grin
The ones wey get time for romance NO GET MONEY!
Choose one. You can't have both.
Ask Aisha Buhari if she ever had an orrrgazzzm in her entire life! cry

Just do as I do.
TAKE THE SPERM AFTER HE RELEASES AND FINGGGGER YOURSELF TILL YOU "COME AND GO" TO SLEEP!

Simple!

African man? Tufia!!!!
If I come this world again, nor be dem abeg!

Ta! embarassed

Too late! I am stuck with my IGBOTIC BUSH FOWL! No need to trade one dry pehnis for anoda wan. I can COME by myself! Shior. cheesy
grin
Re: My Husband Is Selfish by njiasi30(f): 3:06pm On Jul 08, 2016
KanwuliaExtra:
They are all like that o! grin
A normal SEX life with AN AFRICAN MAN? shocked
Where? How? Say wetin 'appen? cheesy
You must be dreaming!
Na newly-wed sickness dey worry you gaaaaan.
I say na so all of dem be o. NO EXCEPTIONS.
Always about them and SELFISH to the bone!
Don't worry yourself on that account o.

THEY ARE ALL LIKE THAT! Busssssssh Thaaangs! grin
The ones wey get time for romance NO GET MONEY!
Choose one. You can't have both.
Ask Aisha Buhari if she ever had an orrrgazzzm in her entire life! cry

Just do as I do.
TAKE THE SPERM AFTER HE RELEASES AND FINGGGGER YOURSELF TILL YOU "COME AND GO" TO SLEEP!

Simple!

African man? Tufia!!!!
If I come this world again, nor be dem abeg!

Ta! embarassed

Too late! I am stuck with my IGBOTIC BUSH FOWL! No need to trade one dry pehnis for anoda wan. I can COME by myself! Shior. cheesy
Chai!! U won't kill me with laugh, Di's d second time am seeing ur comment on Di's sec. No sugar coating, I like dat grin grin but some sweet ones re still around wink
Re: My Husband Is Selfish by gen2lpat(m): 7:01pm On Aug 20, 2016
You should be sexually compatible with your boo before talking about marriage. This is just medicine after death.

Have a H2H talk with him ine sexy night. Teach him the right way to treat you. If he loves and respects you, he will learn very fast.

All the best

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Re: My Husband Is Selfish by misspicy(f): 7:23pm On Aug 20, 2016
Did you test drive before marriage?

NO

you was doing virgin mary,please enjoy your husband like that or keep praying maybe he will change and listen to yougrin

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Re: My Husband Is Selfish by misspicy(f): 7:33pm On Aug 20, 2016
KanwuliaExtra:
They are all like that o! grin
A normal SEX life with AN AFRICAN MAN? shocked
Where? How? Say wetin 'appen? cheesy
You must be dreaming!
Na newly-wed sickness dey worry you gaaaaan.
I say na so all of dem be o. NO EXCEPTIONS.
Always about them and SELFISH to the bone!
Don't worry yourself on that account o.

THEY ARE ALL LIKE THAT! Busssssssh Thaaangs! grin
The ones wey get time for romance NO GET MONEY!
Choose one. You can't have both.
Ask Aisha Buhari if she ever had an orrrgazzzm in her entire life! cry

Just do as I do.
TAKE THE SPERM AFTER HE RELEASES AND FINGGGGER YOURSELF TILL YOU "COME AND GO" TO SLEEP!

Simple!

African man? Tufia!!!!
If I come this world again, nor be dem abeg!

Ta! embarassed

Too late! I am stuck with my IGBOTIC BUSH FOWL! No need to trade one dry pehnis for anoda wan. I can COME by myself! Shior. cheesy

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Re: My Husband Is Selfish by donephi(m): 8:52pm On Aug 20, 2016
misspicy:
Did you test drive before marriage?

NO

you was doing virgin mary,please enjoy your husband like that or keep praying maybe he will change and listen to yougrin
cheesy
Re: My Husband Is Selfish by bennyrazz: 9:21pm On Aug 20, 2016
3sexy:
I am a married woman with a lovely kid , I love my husband but he is too selfish in bed , to him, lovemaking means" penetration" , no romance no fore play , all he is interested in is just to penetrate me ! he doent even care if I,m wet or not .this is really getting frustrating because it is painful and sometimes I end up having blisters.
Most tines I try to initiate pre-intimacy and make him slow down a bit he gets impatient and angry ,and I just let him have his way , and the worst part of it is that when he is done he will fall asleep immediately !

Pls matured minds how do I make him change without hurting his feelings , for over 5 years now i have not had a pinch of climax, I love him dearly but I also want a normal sex life in my marriage .
apologies for laughing o @bolded LMAO cheesy the part impatient and angry got me laughing. How konji makes some men silly at times, I wonder. A friend told me a story one time like that about how one of his neighbor use to cry for sex like a baby, when he cries, mucus used to come out from his nose. That day, I laughed to the extent that my ribs began to pain me. I also heard of a story of a Reverend father that warned women not to come and confess their sins of fornication and adultery to him again. When they come to confess their sins, they describe how the whole thing happen, how they slept with the man, how the man touched them, remove their clothes etc the Reverend father while preaching and warning them said he is also human that anytime they commit such sins, they should confess it to God. I laughed also.

Let me tell you something about your husband case, it is a very simple one that can be solved.

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Re: My Husband Is Selfish by RiloKiley: 9:47pm On Aug 20, 2016
bennyrazz:
apologies for laughing o @bolded LMAO cheesy the part impatient and angry got me laughing. How konji makes some men silly at times, I wonder. A friend told me a story one time like that about how one of his neighbor use to cry for sex like a baby, when he cries, mucus used to come out from his nose. That day, I laughed to the extent that my ribs began to pain me. I also heard of a story of a Reverend father that warned women not to come and confess their sins of fornication and adultery to him again. When they come to confess their sins, they describe how the whole thing happen, how they slept with the man, how the man touched them, remove their clothes etc the Reverend father while preaching and warning them said he is also human that anytime they commit such sins, they should confess it to God. I laughed also.

Let me tell you something about your husband case, it is a very simple one that can be solved.

grin grin grin
Laughed so hard now i've got the hiccups grin
Men have suffered.
Re: My Husband Is Selfish by bennyrazz: 2:54pm On Aug 21, 2016
RiloKiley:

grin grin grin Laughed so hard now i've got the hiccups grin Men have suffered.
in the hands of some selfish women

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