MRBrownJ:
FEEDING ISSUE
when i 1st moved out i was just like you but my issue was that i "missed" my mum's cooking, so she would make soup, jollof rice, fried rice and i woull keep it in the freezer in daily portions, and all i had to do was take it out the freezer and defrost. problem solved!
in your case, you could also get a maid, if you can afford it, or buy frozen food from any proper supermarket (frozen pizzas etc) but it aint cheap... ultimately, get a gf to help in that dept (she doesnt even have to live with you), or LEARN TO COOK!

MOVING BACK HOME ISSUE
imho, dont do it! LIVE YOUR LIFE FULLY and if your brothas aint got your balls/opportunity then that is their problems. why should you have to pay for that? you have already tasted freedom/responsibility etc and you like it, there should be no turning back. sit your parents down and explain to them that as much as you love them, you are a MAN now, and need to live your damn life!

awennie:
You do not need to go back home. Staying alone will make you focus and achieve all your desires speedily. Note, your parents wants the best for you also. But you know what makes you happy and what drives the happiness. The food issue... get a girlfriend, I'm sure she will help with the cooking... All the best.

BuddhaPalm:
With a fridge and microwave you are set.

You could then pay someone to cook for just ONCE in a week...soup and stew.

In the beginning, I too, took soup from my mum weekly, and also went back every afternoon for Sunday rice.

Moving back should never be an option you should consider. You would lose the tons of personal growth & development that comes from independence.

You're a man now...your siblings have their own independent "races" to run.

awennie:
You do not need to go back home. Staying alone will make you focus and achieve all your desires speedily. Note, your parents wants the best for you also. But you know what makes you happy and what drives the happiness. The food issue... get a girlfriend, I'm sure she will help with the cooking... All the best.

chyjio:


Thank you. Hmm..girlfriend? I don't think that option is best for me at this time.

MRBrownJ:
FEEDING ISSUE
when i 1st moved out i was just like you but my issue was that i "missed" my mum's cooking, so she would make soup, jollof rice, fried rice and i woull keep it in the freezer in daily portions, and all i had to do was take it out the freezer and defrost. problem solved!
in your case, you could also get a maid, if you can afford it, or buy frozen food from any proper supermarket (frozen pizzas etc) but it aint cheap... ultimately, get a gf to help in that dept (she doesnt even have to live with you), or LEARN TO COOK!

MOVING BACK HOME ISSUE
imho, dont do it! LIVE YOUR LIFE FULLY and if your brothas aint got your balls/opportunity then that is their problems. why should you have to pay for that? you have already tasted freedom/responsibility etc and you like it, there should be no turning back. sit your parents down and explain to them that as much as you love them, you
are a MAN now, and need to live your damn life!

frozenSun:
I have a great loving family with our own house full of food and food experts but i left my father's house, moved to my apartment b4 the age of 25 and i burned my boat so i would never think of going back home. my parents knew where I lived but were not allowed to come around there for almost 2 years.
I had money with me but i shrunk so bad that i had to change my clothes and even my belts cos i was no longer in a house where I could open the pot and eat free food every time. I now had to cook my own food. babes come around but i no allow any woman to light stove in my kitchen that time for over a year. i learnt how to cook by force.

now is the time for u to learn those things u did not learn in school and time for u to put your survival skills to the test. now is the time to learn how to discipline and mould yourself and work with your own time table and program.
I believe a young man should make this move and aspire to go further, go harder, go stronger, go wiser. if not, why bother ?

if you are thinking about going back home especially to a house where 3 of ur elders @ 30+ are still living, then you don't know why you came out in the first place. going back there will be like when you return from boarding school like a kid. you will be very welcome and pampered with food but then, all those ur elders will mock and taunt you till you faint. you start having distractions running errands with the time you should have been ussing to grow up on your own.

your decision to make.

as for me, frog no dey go back. I go further, go harder, go stronger, go wiser. if not, then why bother ?

chyjio:


Thank you. Hmm..girlfriend? I don't think that option is best for me at this time.

And Chygio, be careful with girls/women/babes ooo, cos many are out there looking for a hustler and single guy like u to devour... Dey won't mind living with u, I guess this shud be another reason ur parents want u home before u go come back tell dem say u don give girl belle Just be very careful around them girls..

fem29:


You as a woman are advising someone to get a girlfriend for the sole purpose of cooking?. Would you like someone who ordinarily doesn't really want a girlfriend to date your own little sister just so he has someone to cook for him?.

Amicable24:

E ba mi beere oo

cococandy:
Look at what lack of home training is causing.
I DO mean to be harsh OP.
a young person who cannot take care of themselves in basic things like cooking should go back to the drawing board.
Maybe you should have learned how to cook before taking the bold step of moving out.

For those suggesting girlfriend aka cook, Whose daughter is going to be his glorified cook in the name of girlfriend? Someone like me? Psst.I'm sure if I raised all the girls in Nigeria, men like him will learn to cook by force because I ain't raising no one's maid. The nerve of those even suggesting it.
As if a girl getting a boyfriend to foot her bills won't be bashed and taunted for wanting a man for other reasons than love. But it's okay for him to get a girlfriend because of food.

OP Get off your butt and LEARN TO COOK.

byvan03:

Thank you! Whose daughter really? Mcchheeeww

OP why does your mum 's once in a while visit bother you so much, what kind of a person are you really? Nawaooh!! Don't go back home, build your own niche.

MRBrownJ:
i wonder why so many are looking down on the GF issue... isnt that man ripe to have a gf?! he is a 20yr old independent single ma,n and a gf would come handy in all his daily needs... aka care/affection/sex/support (cooking etc). isnt this the reason we do get GF/BF? to fill the void in our lives? that gal may also gain a bf who has his own place where she can crash whenever she desire. its a win-win situation for the both of them.

as i said, the gf will be there for CARE/AFFECTION/COMPANIONSHIP/SEX and any possible SUPPORT (yes culinary too) if she is available. no biggie!

cococandy:

Umu okorobia these days sef.

Let me finish raising this my omoge and see which one will come to date her because he needs someone to cook for him. He will tell me whether if he doesn't know the address to catering schools around him.

byvan03:




Dating who? When she is already betrothed to the finest of men? Nobody go smell near, they know their cooks when they see them .

cococandy:

byvan03:




Dating who? When she is already betrothed to the finest of men? Nobody go smell near, they know their cooks when they see them .