When we devote time in training the maids on how to cook well, how to clean the house and on good mannerisms while leaving our own daughters untrained.

We overwork the maids and they adjust with equanimity because they need us to survive.

The maids turn out to manage the indignation and insolence we and our children subject them to.

All these make the maids better wives who can manage even the angriest of men. Our precious daughters are pampered through nursery and primary schools. They speak the English we want and know all the cartoon slangs by heart. We beat the maids blue black if they ever ask our girls to help out in domestic duties. They see kitchen things as maids' things. The girls move from boarding schools to the university, do their NYSC, Masters and get a job. Of course, they are ripe for marriage and you wish that to happen soon. From one relationship to another, the same story. The guys would parade and dump them. They are only good in bed, outings, clubs and red carpet functions.

The men de-commit when they notice that the possible wife cannot cook, arrange things and are very domestically untrained.

The rich guys can manage as they would mitigate the handicap by hiring a domestic help.

Not all guys can afford this for a start. Some rich guys insist on the wife doing basic chores herself: that is where the trouble starts.

The upcoming and very sensitive guys who would make good husbands, fathers and leaders would not manage these parents' inflicted shortcomings. They would settle for well trained ones.

They know the value and the pride in hosting friends at home to delicious delicacies prepared by a wife.

Not all your maids would remain your servants for ever. Some of them would finally do part-time studies and like a train, get to their God ordained destinations sooner or later.

Like a perfume, good guys perceive well trained wife materials from afar and dump the daughters of the bourgeois like hot iron. Long term happiness is at stake. No explanation is given. Sometimes, the sack message is made through a social medium.

Let our daughters learn what we teach our maids to make them compete for the few available good men if marriage is important to them.

There are few guys who believe that marriage is for better for worse.

Don't be deceived; love is an active verb. Yes it is. You love; you loved; and you used to love. You can also hate who you used to love.

Therefore, some men are immune to pre-marital love blindness. In practice, love can't cover the stench of bad early formation of our daughters.

Right now, educated former maids are now cornering better men on offer because they possess the requisite or set skills the highly perceptible and ready husband materials need.

Mothers especially should please take note.

na true ooooo.this the most interesting post I have ever read on naira land.. Amechi married peter odil's maid..rich men daughter,

You have stated the very obvious fact of 19th and 20th century, that was wrong and remains wrong. What baffles me is the audacity to indirectly imply that men are these physiological giants of digital age that command all level of worship and merits the slavery or domestic allegiance of women who must be prepared to serve the men folks. I find that directly insulting to the female gender especially when I know that female gender have capacity both intellectually and otherwise to make money and even pay bride price on men, if not for biased blind faiths and silly traditions.

Therefore, I am today, of the opinion that gender is not a barrier nor accelerator of enterprise. Anyone can cook and should cook, anyone can clean and should clean. And if you can not afford to pay, either the man of the marriage should cook or the woman should. We must champion the cause of not gender equality but obligatory participation in domestic and public work without bias to gender and never again should we enslave or in anyway attempt to devalue the measure of another human on account of gender.

Be guided.

^^^^

Making sense, over 4.5.

inspiROHM:
Why not?

When we devote time in training the maids on how to cook well, how to clean the house and on good mannerisms while leaving our own daughters untrained.
We overwork the maids and they adjust with equanimity because they need us to survive.

The maids turn out to manage the indignation and insolence we and our children subject them to.

All these make the maids better wives who can manage even the angriest of men.
Our precious daughters are pampered through nursery and primary schools. They speak the English we want and know all the cartoon slangs by heart. We beat the maids blue black if they ever ask our girls to help out in domestic duties. They see kitchen things as maids' things.
The girls move from boarding schools to the university, do their NYSC, Masters and get a job. Of course, they are ripe for marriage and you wish that to happen soon.
From one relationship to another, the same story. The guys would parade and dump them. They are only good in bed, outings, clubs and red carpet functions.

The boys de-commit when they notice that the possible wife cannot cook, arrange things and are very domestically untrained.

The rich guys can manage as they would mitigate the handicap by hiring a domestic help.

Not all guys can afford this for a start.

The upcoming and very sensitive guys who would make good husbands, fathers and leaders would not manage these parents' inflicted shortcomings. They would settle for well trained ones.

They know the value and the pride in hosting friends at home to delicious delicacies prepared by a wife.

Not all your maids would remain your servants for ever. Some of them would finally do part-time studies and like a train, get to their God ordained destinations sooner or later.

Like a perfume, good guys perceive well trained wife materials from afar and dump the daughters of the bourgeois like hot iron. Long term happiness is at stake. No explanation is given. Sometimes, the sack message is made through a social medium.

Let our daughters learn what we teach our maids to make them compete for the few available good men if marriage is important to them.

There are few guys who believe that marriage is for better for worse.

Don't be deceived; love is an active verb. Yes it is. You love; you loved; and you used to love. You can also hate who you used to love.

Therefore, some men are immune to pre-marital love blindness. In practice, love can't cover the stench of bad early formation of our daughters.

Right now, educated former maids are now cornering better men on offer because they possess the requisite or set skills the highly perceptible and ready husband materials need.

Mothers especially should please take note.

My God. this is perfect. Whoever wrote this....your crown is waiting in heaven. May God stop everything that will stop you from making heaven

Billyonaire:
You have stated the very obvious fact of 19th and 20th century, that was wrong and remains wrong. What baffles me is the audacity to indirectly imply that men are these physiological giants of digital age that command all level of worship and merits the slavery or domestic allegiance of women who must be prepared to serve the men folks. I find that directly insulting to the female gender especially when I know that female gender have capacity both intellectually and otherwise to make money and even pay bride price on men, if not for biased blind faiths and silly traditions.

Therefore, I am today, of the opinion that gender is not a barrier nor accelerator of enterprise. Anyone can cook and should cook, anyone can clean and should clean. And if you can not afford to pay, either the man of the marriage should cook or the woman should. We must champion the cause of not gender equality but obligatory participation in domestic and public work without bias to gender and never again should we enslave or in anyway attempt to devalue the measure of another human on account of gender.

Be guided.

The more we keep allowing these Satanic and Hollywood-inspired viewpoints into a world that is already on the brink of divine judgement, the closer we inch to an inevitable doom. So for a woman to cook for her husband, clean and put the home in order is now the definition of slavery?
Tamper with nature, its temper will taper down. Its the way it is. Socially, traditionally and culturally, even Scripturally and even physically , the woman is built for the home. the man is built for provision and hustle, no matter how obsolete it sounds. That is not to take the statement completely out of context,by the way. but for someone to fault what this op has written is just a confirmation of the extent of degeneration of our values, unsurprisingly though.

as long as there are still sane men( they are still in the majority, thankfully) who know how a reasonable home ought to function, the hardworking, well mannered and homegrown ladies will always be the ones to be introduced to mama. the ones without bearing in these things will never graduate from being objects of sexual gratification and papparazi. How will they?
By the way, and thankfully for them though, it's not a do or die matter. Marriage is not for everyone, make no mistake about that. Since they also have the capacity to be financially independent, let them marry themselves( they are doing it anyways) or better still, become cougars when all the wind is gone from their sails, or hope for the kind of man who will cook for them, wash their underthings, take them shopping, bathe them, and such like, in the guise of obligatory participation. And see how long such one will stay, faithfully too.
When a man decides to help his wife out with chores, it is supposed to be out of appreciative love, and not imposed on him by obligation.
At least that's how I was brought up. The last time I checked.