Dominicpupuru:
Growing up as a young man, i watched my mum tolerate all sorts from my dad and i wished and prayed my wife would be just like her, and i'd have a happy home. Now this is the question; 'would you go ahead and marry your bf/gf if he or she had the same character as your mother or father? ' For me, GLADLY !

Dominicpupuru:
Growing up as a young man, i watched my mum tolerate all sorts from my dad and i wished and prayed my wife would be just like her, and i'd have a happy home. Now this is the question; 'would you go ahead and marry your bf/gf if he or she had the same character as your mother or father? ' For me, GLADLY !

RadicallyBlunt:
Hmm. I love this topic. Wish lalasticlala would FP it cuz it will showcase what many ppl are going thru in dia homes and why they love one parent than the other or vice versa

In my own case I'm d only child of parents and they're not 2gether. My dad left for anoda woman since I was a baby claiming that my mother's rigidity is unbearable. It is that unbearably rigid mother that raised me alone. There was no such thing as pampering, its d last thing u would see here. Flogging to bleeding point, going to bed hungry at night and hungry to sch d next day were part of the punishments that my childhood was full of even though we had enough food at home. To play with my peers was a taboo. That's to mention a few

Men tried to approach but her heart is hardened and she's been single since then. My maternal uncle and aunts left us alone cuz of her wahala and I'm not too close my paternal ones. I have to relate with certain family friends and my dad without her knowledge just for peace sake.

Men means nothing to her and she even threaten them on little mistakes cuz she works with d force. Her work is anoda issue I don't like telling ppl abt cuz ppl generally think all 'only child' are mommy's pet but hers is different she doesn't spend or gives me much believing that she'll loose all her investment on me to my dad. Yet me on my own part don't want to be familiar with my dad's family for now cuz I don't trust my stepmum over my life since I'm d only one for my mum who doesn't even value me. To even have a battered ego from a masculine and domineering mother is another life topic on its own. Although now she fears my strong level of control and she respects me for that even tho we have our differences.

So my dear, praying to marry a wife with same character as my mum is d last thing I would ever do. I really love her but I can't go thru psycho-emotional hell again with a woman. All I want is a lively and tender lady to live happily and share my love with. Else I'll stay single in peace bcus I have serious antagonistic and attacking instinct against choleric women who think they're tough and feminist. I can kill dem if I'm chanced. They're best my friend than being my spouse

PresVA:
Really? You're praying for someone that will tolerate and endure all sorts from you? Instead of working towards not making your future wife go through what your mum went through... Smh .

Please don't enter marriage with this mindset, nobody was born to endure; we all deserve happiness. .

If you love someone, you wouldn't want them to endure rubbish from you. .Instead you strive to make them happy. ..

Dominicpupuru:

You are mistaken dear. When I said 'tolerate all sorts' I meant her patience, wisdom and diplomacy made, and still makes her home a peaceful one, even after 40 years of marriage. Of course we all have our failings, but when a man 'messes up' and the woman isn't patient enough to handle the situation wisely, it would only end in unrest in the home. Trust me, my mum isn't the push around quiet type, she is firm and strict. But her wisdom amazes me! Coupled with her patience...And just so you know, I'm married, been with my wife for over 8 years and I can boldy say I have a happy and peaceful marriage.

HaneefahRN:
No. I can't.

I would prefer someone that seems like me.

PresVA:
Alright. . Wish you continous peace and happiness

RadicallyBlunt:
Hmm. I love this topic. Wish lalasticlala would FP it cuz it will showcase what many ppl are going thru in dia homes and why they love one parent than the other or vice versa

In my own case I'm d only child of parents and they're not 2gether. My dad left for anoda woman since I was a baby claiming that my mother's rigidity is unbearable. It is that unbearably rigid mother that raised me alone. There was no such thing as pampering, its d last thing u would see here. Flogging to bleeding point, going to bed hungry at night and hungry to sch d next day were part of the punishments that my childhood was full of, even though we had enough food at home. To play with my peers was a taboo. That's to mention a few

Men tried to approach but her heart is hardened and she's been single since then. My maternal uncle and aunts left us alone cuz of her wahala and I'm not too close my paternal ones. I have to relate with certain family friends and my dad without her knowledge just for peace sake.

Men means nothing to her and she even threaten them on little mistakes cuz she works with d force. Her work is anoda issue I don't like telling ppl abt cuz ppl generally think all 'only child' are mommy's pet but hers is different she doesn't spend or gives me much believing that she'll loose all her investment on me to my dad. Yet me on my own part don't want to be familiar with my dad's family for now cuz I don't trust my stepmum over my life since I'm d only one for my mum who doesn't even value me. To even have a battered ego from a masculine and domineering mother is another life topic on its own. Although now she fears my strong level of control and she respects me for that even tho we have our differences.

So my dear, praying to marry a wife with same character as my mum is d last thing I would never do. I love her but I can't go thru psycho-emotional hell again with a woman. All I want is a lively and tender lady to live happily and share my love with. Else I'll stay single in peace bcus I have serious antagonistic and attacking instinct against choleric women who think they're tough and feminist. I can kill dem if I'm chanced. They're best my friend than being my spouse