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| Pls I Need Your Candid Advice And Urgently. by OEmiohe: 3:35pm On Aug 07, 2016 |
Last 2 months I got a job after abt 1 years of unending such for a job. But after I got the job I discovered I was pregnant, unforunately I worked as a P.A, when my boss found out I was pregnant she laid me off giving the excuse that She will not be comfortable sending me on errands again knowing I'm pregnant. I got home hurt but decided to move on. As an act of respect I give my hubby my salary . But to my surprise after a few weeks I asked my hubby for 100 naira to hold while he was abt leaving to work, he refused to give me saying dat I don,t need money on me since I'm at home and there is enough food in the house for the day. I felt so bad n hurt when my little baby of 9 months was tasty dat same day n when I went to the fridge to get water I noticed that there was no single pure water left, I had to boil ordinary water for her to drink. Just yesterday my hubby told me he was given a sack letter at work on friday. We are so worried, as we have bills to pay our houserate and so on. I also got a job invite at VI while stay at satellite town . My hubby asked me to go but I don't want to following the Stress of distance and my pregnant status. Pls wat do you think I do. Thanks |
| Re: Pls I Need Your Candid Advice And Urgently. by micfoley: 3:39pm On Aug 07, 2016 |
This is a serious matter o. I'll advise u start something immediately even if it's trading till things get better. U need a source of income to take care of yourself especially as u are pregnant. More importantly u and ur husband need to be more prayerful so he can getget another another job soonest. Unfortunately, your situation is not strange given the present harsh economic climate. With God, u will surely overcome. I wish u God's favor in the coming days and may your child turn out to be a blessing to your family 2 Likes |
| Re: Pls I Need Your Candid Advice And Urgently. by EfemenaXY: 3:43pm On Aug 07, 2016 |
I don't understand your story. You and your husband are jobless. You've got a 9 month old baby and are pregnant with baby no.2? You've got bills to pay. You were invited for a job interview and you don't want to go, despite your dire situation. Okay, so what advice are you seeking from us? 3 Likes |
| Re: Pls I Need Your Candid Advice And Urgently. by thorpido(m): 3:52pm On Aug 07, 2016 |
There are different family planning methods.Why don't people plan their marriage and space their kids? Well let your hubby roll up his sleeves and be ready to get his hands dirty.There are factory jobs and construction site jobs available.Let him get out there.There's a baby on the way. 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Pls I Need Your Candid Advice And Urgently. by OEmiohe: 4:20pm On Aug 07, 2016 |
In Jesus name Amen. God bless you @micfoley for your encouragement and prayers. |
| Re: Pls I Need Your Candid Advice And Urgently. by Florblu(f): 4:32pm On Aug 07, 2016 |
Just go for the job so as to be able to keep your family pending the time you will secure another better offer.There are times we need to leave our comfort zone just to make things happen. As for your husband I can't judge him.How good or poor are you in spending?Do you notice a trait of stinginess in hubby? |
| Re: Pls I Need Your Candid Advice And Urgently. by Fastpace(f): 4:43pm On Aug 07, 2016 |
Madam,is ur husband ready to hold the 9 month old baby for u and also care for her needs while u are away?if nt how will u manage at d new job offer,though u have nt state what type of job dont go tellin dem u pregnant this tym o.But pardon me to say dis i tink ur hubby is selfish..to give u #100 is a problem,how many women will gv their salary as u did,though u shuld have told him hw u feel.Whether there is food at home u might still need cash for other reason.pray for ur marriage,stop coming to nland for help, go to God. 2 Likes |
| Re: Pls I Need Your Candid Advice And Urgently. by Nobody: 6:29pm On Aug 07, 2016 |
EfemenaXY: Please ask her o! |
| Re: Pls I Need Your Candid Advice And Urgently. by jashar(f): 6:47pm On Aug 07, 2016 |
I don't understand. |
| Re: Pls I Need Your Candid Advice And Urgently. by just2okworld(f): 8:20pm On Aug 07, 2016 |
It is well |
| Re: Pls I Need Your Candid Advice And Urgently. by byvan03: 12:42am On Aug 08, 2016 |
So you give him your whole salary and what next? In your adult life you can't manage your own money or what? You don't even keep any savings for yourself? Go for your interview since your future upkeep depends on it for now. I don't even understand the rationale behind a man being comfortable to strip his wife of her entire salary every month, is almost embarrassing. Madam what do you mean that you keep no pocket money for yourself? You don't even have 100 naira on you,yet you have been earning nawaooh!!! 3 Likes |
| Re: Pls I Need Your Candid Advice And Urgently. by Askseek(f): 2:27am On Aug 08, 2016 |
OEmiohe: Don't go for the interview oh, you know the stress will be too much for you but am sure you can manage the hunger and homelessness that will beset you guys since you are both jobless. Sometimes the type of questions people pose here baffle me. Grow up, pull your big girl britches up and do what you need to do for the survival of your family and before you and others tell me I don't know how it feels, I do and that is why I know that the stress of working is nothing compared to not being able to provide for your children. One more thing boiling water to drink is not the end of the world. Once upon a time there was no pure water and people did not die 4 Likes |
| Re: Pls I Need Your Candid Advice And Urgently. by Onegai(f): 8:01am On Aug 08, 2016 |
OEmiohe: I remember you. I thought you went into the business of selling Coconut oil. And you had a few other issues (Did his mum eventually come, how did it go?) Hmm. As per the bolded, how does it show respect to give him all of your salary? Did you ever give your parents all of your salary, I mean, those guys paid schoolfees for you do at least 20 years. Maybe next time, find a more reasonable way of showing respect. Such as, I dunno, just being polite? Dunno. Secondly, you need a job. I get being pregnant and maybe it's a bit rough, but you need to earn money. So does he. And someone has to babysit your 9 year old. So I would suggest that you two first discuss it at home together, all the plans. Because if you put your child in creche and your husband is sitting at home doing nothing, you guys are wasting money. So he really has to go and find a job or work of some sort because you can't work for long and if you start having pregnancy-related complications, you have to stop work. In your first trimester, take this new job but let your husband woman-up (balls are delicate, a vagina can take a pounding  ) and go and find any sort of paid work right now. Festac is a good place to offer up his services as a driver for example. I know some few people looking for drivers so let him go to the Catholic church and the Anglican church there and state what he is looking for. A recommendation from those guys will be more trustworthy than a random person introducing him.2 Likes |
| Re: Pls I Need Your Candid Advice And Urgently. by Nobody: 8:52am On Aug 08, 2016 |
OEmiohe: you got a little baby of nine months come carry another belle join...ok'' kwantinue 1 Like |
| Re: Pls I Need Your Candid Advice And Urgently. by Nobody: 12:28pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
Please go and learn a trade or better still trades If no job is coming at least you can work for yourself |
| Re: Pls I Need Your Candid Advice And Urgently. by 5minsmadness: 12:33pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
OEmiohe: I dont see what that part has to do with your story. |
| Re: Pls I Need Your Candid Advice And Urgently. by sexymoma(f): 12:52pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
This your story get k-leg oo |
| Re: Pls I Need Your Candid Advice And Urgently. by Nobody: 1:19pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
Madam, its a pity but u are in for a rough tough ride ahead.. Its not easy doing full job when pregnant.. But who at this time and age, gives her husband , her full salary?? And u also dont have savings  Well your husband has to man up and get his hands dirty.. Some men just so annoying. How i wish u have savings? U would have started a trade to support yurself... What a pity. |
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