Mother-in-law came visited from Africa to help babysit 6months old baby. Couple came back from a wedding feeling very horney, kissed their 2 kids goodnight and locked bedroom door. House is a typical US 2-level town house with no basement. All bedrooms are on the upper-level and parlor, dinning and kitchen, etc on lower level. Time was after 11pm. Guy was banging his wife real hard, the sound and her moaning/ groaning could be heard outside the bedroom. Mother-in-law (her mother), apparently, irked by the sound of the hard bang on her own pampered daughter banged on the bedroom door shouting “Please your children are still awake”. Couple managed to finish the round. But problem has ensued now. Wifey wants her mother to return back to Africa ASAP. Husband insists she won’t return because she is very helpful with the kids, saving them a lot of money. Now young beautiful wife has gone on se**x strike – don’t touch, don’t ask. Husband is in a dilemma as it’s summer, beautiful wife knows how to dress sexy in summer in those soft tight dresses and skirts but nothing for him. Wife is very conservative and moderately religious and has never made love in a hotel before..doesn't want that.

Elder wise men and women of NL, oya this one don pass guy-man. iyanga dey sleep, trouble go wake am.

I couldn't help but laugh out loud at ur description. I'll give u my say in a few minutes.

Modified :
It all depends on how long ur MIL will be staying. If shes staying only for a brief period, then I'll suggest u stay patient till she leaves or until konji also catches ur wife, u can also propose hotel to her. If all else isn't working, i would resort to threat if i were u

Lool

There is nothing wrong with hotel since they are married.

Nonsense. Can't the wife take care of her kids?
Mother in-law must leave. She must at some point.

Lol....sex strike ke! The man should hold on cox the wifey will soon come calling....body no be firewood

Na sex be ur wahala? Abi u no hear wenti dey go on 4 Nigeria?

Oga yank ur John thomas til ur mother in law leave. I no get wenti to tell you cos buhari has scatter my reasoning.

They should try and keep it down.

VolTOxic:
Nonsense. Can't the wife take care of her kids?
Mother in-law must leave. She must at some point.

Look at this schistosoma..."HER KIDS". You think they are I Nigeria where you can spew this and wouldn't get a backlash. Her kids indeed.

VolTOxic:
Nonsense. Can't the wife take care of her kids?
Mother in-law must leave. She must at some point.

They live in the US. taking care of kids means a woman either quitting her job or hiring a paid babysitter which is quite expensive in the US...even daycare is not akara money. 1 month bill on looking after kids can buy land in naija.... . Obviously the wifey wants her hubby to foot those bills if he wants her continued 'bedroom services'. But guyman doesn't have that type of money now. these are struggling beginners in life. dem neva arrive yet. Though I am not siding with the man over the wife. just an insight to help with suggestions.

MIL should not be interfering in their matter to this extent. Let her watch Tom and Jerry with the kids if they are still awake now.

TheArchangel:
Look at this schistosoma..."HER KIDS". You think they are I Nigeria where you can spew this and wouldn't get a backlash. Her kids indeed.

Do me a solid, work on your comprehension.

VolTOxic:


Do me a solid, work on your comprehension.

It seems you are the one lacking comprehension ability.

bigheart2013:


They live in the US. taking care of kids means a woman either quitting her job or hiring a paid babysitter which is quite expensive in the US...even daycare is not akara money. 1 month bill on looking after kids can buy land in naija.... . Obviously the wifey wants her hubby to foot those bills if he wants her continued 'bedroom services'. But guyman doesn't have that type of money now. these are struggling beginners in life. dem neva arrive yet. Though I am not siding with the man over the wife. just an insight to help with suggestions.

There's alot of mumbo jumbo here.

You've made it almost like a crusade to emphasize how both parents have a time consuming job. If the minimum wage in the US is $10 per hour, I can't seem to fathom why they can't afford to hire a nanny. Or do I have to point out how eager the hubby is ready to pay for a hostel service just for sex. Money can't be a problem.

Why not just play loud music that will either drown out the sound of your sexual escapades or the sound of your mother in law's voice. Although, if it were me, the purpose of the music would be to drown out the sound of mama's voice.

VolTOxic:


There's alot of mumbo jumbo here.

You've made it almost like a crusade to emphasize how both parents have a time consuming job. If the minimum wage in the US is $10 per hour, I can't seem to fathom why they can't afford to hire a nanny. Or do I have to point out how eager the hubby is ready to pay for a hostel service just for sex. Money can't be a problem.

You really believe someone earning $10/hr can afford a nanny. I can't fit laff. This is the fallacy that confuses everyone at home. First, stop converting the dollar to naira. Second, factor in taxes, at $10/hr you are probably in a tax bracket of 20% even with kids, then there are deductions for Medicare, social security, state and (or) city taxes, health insurance, dental, vision. When all deductions are taken probably left with $5-$6/hr before you start to pay your bills. Meanwhile a nanny could charge as little as $15/hr for one kid if you find a cheap one, and you think someone earning $10/hr can afford a nanny. I laff in Greek at that notion

VolTOxic:


There's alot of mumbo jumbo here.

You've made it almost like a crusade to emphasize how both parents have a time consuming job. If the minimum wage in the US is $10 per hour, I can't seem to fathom why they can't afford to hire a nanny. Or do I have to point out how eager the hubby is ready to pay for a hostel service just for sex. Money can't be a problem.

Money is factor, dear. If minimum wage is $10 per hour. 8 hrs job a day is $80, a month multiply by 20days = $1,600, minus tax, insurance premium, IRA, etc you get about $1,100. An average townhouse is the East cost is about $1,400 a month, monthly daycare for kids is on the average of $1000 per child. If you hire a live in Nanny, you will provide her with health insurance benefits and still pay her about $600 a month. You never add utilities like power, gas, water, cable, insurances on cars, parking fees, school loans, car notes, credit cards, feeding, clothing, baby supplies, house supplies, tithe, offering, repairs, police tickets, flowers and chocolates for angry wife etc and still have to worry about getting ur azss divorced if you ever raise your voice to complain out of frustration ...... . America is not what people back home think o. It's a cage. once u enter, to get out na wahala, otherwise many people for don do Hussein Bolt since back to Nigeria.

You won't understand what a couple pass through here! That little bed time may be the only time they ever get to unwind

bigheart2013:


Money is factor, dear. If minimum wage is $10 per hour. 8 hrs job a day is $80, a month multiply by 20days = $1,600, minus tax, insurance premium, IRA, etc you get about $1,100. An average townhouse is the East cost is about $1,400 a month, monthly daycare for kids is on the average of $1000 per child. If you hire a live in Nanny, you will provide her with health insurance benefits and still pay her about $600 a month. You never add utilities like power, gas, water, cable, insurances on cars, parking fees, school loans, car notes, credit cards, feeding, clothing, baby supplies, house supplies, tithe, offering, repairs, police tickets, flowers and chocolates for angry wife etc and still have to worry about getting ur azss divorced if you ever raise your voice to complain out of frustration ...... . America is not what people back home think o. It's a cage. once u enter, to get out na wahala, otherwise many people for don do Hussein Bolt since back to Nigeria.

You won't understand what a couple pass through here! That little bed time may be the only time they ever get to unwind

You are actually conservative in your analysis. Eight years ago I paid $150/week in the city. Had a friend in the suburb who paid $250/week for day care, not nanny. Any nanny accepting $600/month is undocumented or an au pair. A nanny earns about $600 - $800 weekly out here before taxes and someone thinks earning $10/hr can do it.

bigheart2013:


Money is factor, dear. If minimum wage is $10 per hour. 8 hrs job a day is $80, a month multiply by 20days = $1,600, minus tax, insurance premium, IRA, etc you get about $1,100. An average townhouse is the East cost is about $1,400 a month, monthly daycare for kids is on the average of $1000 per child. If you hire a live in Nanny, you will provide her with health insurance benefits and still pay her about $600 a month. You never add utilities like power, gas, water, cable, insurances on cars, parking fees, school loans, car notes, credit cards, feeding, clothing, baby supplies, house supplies, tithe, offering, repairs, police tickets, flowers and chocolates for angry wife etc and still have to worry about getting ur azss divorced if you ever raise your voice to complain out of frustration ...... . America is not what people back home think o. It's a cage. once u enter, to get out na wahala, otherwise many people for don do Hussein Bolt since back to Nigeria.

You won't understand what a couple pass through here! That little bed time may be the only time they ever get to unwind

Yes. Your analysis is a perfect one.

Someone that earns $10 per hour will definitely struggle to cope. But I find all this permutation irrelevant being in the light of this discussion, they in reality don't earn that amount. And I never enunciated that both couples wages is affixed at $10 per hour.

I merely stated the fact that the minimum wage is $10 per hour. Now that with your simple description of the family's caliber, should enable any literate to at least have that idea that both couples earn above that.

I don't know why you think otherwise.

Now, all am saying is I simply can't accept the fact that a working class couple, who by the way are comfortable financially with the idea of patronizing a hotel for sex on basis, can't afford to hire a nanny. That's my opinion.

VolTOxic:


Now, all am saying is I simply can't accept the fact that a working class couple, who by the way are comfortable financially with the idea of patronizing a hotel for sex on basis, can't afford to hire a nanny. That's my opinion.

some hotels are like $55 to $70 a night. That's not comfort, that's convenience or rather sacrifice. Even minimum wage workers can afford that if they wish to, because people don't go to hotels every day. There are many middle income families struggling to survive in the US because they are the same educated class who have huge loans. Surprisingly, the low-income earners don't struggle much because their expectations and lifestyle are quite modest. Most of them also have no huge school and mortgage loans, while relying on WIC and food stamps for feeding. Some use bus services and have no car notes, car insurance/repair costs. But I understand your point...that they can always work something out if they want to in the same resilient American spirit.

So she is too conservative to make love to her husband in a hotel room but she is not conservative enough to spare her mother and children the sounds of her moaning and groaning?

Mindfulness:
So she is too conservative to make love to her husband in a hotel room but she is not conservative enough to spare her mother and children the sounds of her moaning and groaning?

I was wondering too

Askseek:




I was wondering too

And does it mean that their kids will have to endure the noise once grandmother leaves?

Mindfulness:
So she is too conservative to make love to her husband in a hotel room but she is not conservative enough to spare her mother and children the sounds of her moaning and groaning?

EfemenaXY:

Common sense is so rare these days, it should be classified as a superpower. (Author unknown)

Mindfulness:


Common sense is so rare these days, it should be classified as a superpower. (Author unknown)

Lol!

You really should consider a change of career. Nland scalp collector!

Evening babes

EfemenaXY:


Lol!

You really should consider a change of career. Nland scalp collector!

Evening babes

Consider it my service to humankind.

Have a lovely one dear

There's always the car..

Let me start with a question:

Which should we be more concerned about: inappropriate visual display before kids or the sound emanating from the bedroom?
Given that there are 3 kids in the house, the last being about 6 months, and assuming a generous 2 years spacing, the eldest child is less than 5 years old.
Will this child be able to decode and appreciate the significance of lovemaking bedroom noise to make anyone jittery?
I think not.

I sense that the mother-in-law is the conservative type with similar view of sexual matters:
Hide the sight - not a problem, and subdue the sound.

My verdict is that she erred by interrupting the "Proceedings of the Supreme Bedroom Bullying, sorry, Ruling Council."
I think it falls on the daughter to gently, mildly, jokingly, whatever, caution her mom against future interruption unless it is an emergency.
Of course she knows that the couple "do it" behind closed doors, so what the heck...?

The act is not enough to send her back home before her time, babysitting notwithstanding.

If the kids care enough to ask what the noise was about, mommy can come up with a story, depending on what they heard.
But if they heard " Daddy, you don kill me oo o," " Give it to me, Daddy, pl-e-a-z-e!", e go hard o o to convince them.
Dem go look you some kin' eye.

Like seriously

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