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Playful Relationships : Yes Or No? by Nobody: 3:34pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
I've always had this in mind after a thread where the woman complained that her spouse is too uptight and she can't even call him ODE (i.e) a foolish person,dull, 'dundy'...etc. A male Nairalander with all seriousness said he won't take such from his wife, haba uncle, is life that serious
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Re: Playful Relationships : Yes Or No? by donbenedict(m): 3:35pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
Yes. |
Re: Playful Relationships : Yes Or No? by Nobody: 3:42pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
Big YES! For as long as there is mutual understanding about the name calling and all, I see no problem. |
Re: Playful Relationships : Yes Or No? by Nobody: 3:46pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
I personally think it's disrespectful. I wouldn't want to be called names albeit jokingly, and I wouldn't call my partner names either. There are other ways to play. 11 Likes |
Re: Playful Relationships : Yes Or No? by cindybaby22(f): 3:47pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
it shouldn't be extreme though... |
Re: Playful Relationships : Yes Or No? by Slimzjoe(m): 4:03pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
Naa...I don't like it one bit...one Day you'll call me in F00l in Public when I actually behave like a F00l 1 Like |
Re: Playful Relationships : Yes Or No? by Beamborla(f): 4:04pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
Oh yes! Why can't I call him ode or olodo? The problem is not knowing where to draw the line. |
Re: Playful Relationships : Yes Or No? by Nobody: 4:05pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
[quote author=Kachisbarbie post=48822614][/quote] You can call me other names, but not 'ode'. That's insulting 2 Likes |
Re: Playful Relationships : Yes Or No? by Nobody: 4:07pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
My partner is one of those serious types. He takes jokes so seriously. We are complete opposite. How I hate this side of him with passion. 3 Likes |
Re: Playful Relationships : Yes Or No? by johnbuck81(m): 4:13pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
the pic explains just how me n ma Gurl is...we curse, fight,play everyday.sometimes she calls me "un-serious".she has lots of pet names for me.some r annoying sha...buh I luv em. 2 Likes |
Re: Playful Relationships : Yes Or No? by byvan03: 4:16pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
There is no healthy relationship without humour. Just don't over stretch the humour. 3 Likes |
Re: Playful Relationships : Yes Or No? by Nickymezor(f): 4:19pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
Well it depends on d individuals involved... Every tin should be in moderation too... |
Re: Playful Relationships : Yes Or No? by Nobody: 4:21pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
Well, like they say, different strokes for different folks. If the level of friendship you have with your partner is 'tighter than tight', then it's really not a problem as you two must have understood each other. You should also know when he/she is getting offended (facial expressions) and put a lid on it. You should also be wary of how you say things like that in public places as your lovilovi might get offended. Personally? If I can't playfully call you ode, I won't even propose to you. Friends don't only support and help each other. They also fool around together and heck! There's nothing sweeter than that. It's awesome fun Though, when our kids start growing, we might have to stop saying things like that in their presence so they don't pick it up as a normal way to relate with all their peers. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Playful Relationships : Yes Or No? by Sleekyshuga(f): 4:22pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
Hehehehehehe @ ODE though I think that's a strong word ... Well, it all boils down to the mutual understanding between both partner, reasons I always hope for a man as simple and easygoing as I am; who would never read meaning into everything I say to him.. If I can tease my friends, why not my man? The last time I checked, we weren't clamoring for seniority in a relationship .. On a second thought, it shouldn't be habitual using cuss words on each other all in the name of a playful relationship.. You could be sending a wrong signal .. To your question, YES .. I'll always choose a playful relationship; anytime, any day.. It's fun, and interesting .. I can't cope with an uptight man jare .. 2 Likes |
Re: Playful Relationships : Yes Or No? by thorpido(m): 4:27pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
Beamborla:I don't think that should be a problem if the partner really is one. There are other words one can use and not those two. 3 Likes |
Re: Playful Relationships : Yes Or No? by Dygeasy(m): 4:58pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
My partner and I call each other "ode" quite a lot that I started feeling like it was my third name. A line should be drawn though but in my own case, it's going to take a long time. But then, it makes some people uncomfortable so it's quite subjective and should be kept in check in marriage where kids are present. I wouldn't want my kids to be confused about what the real name of their parents are. 2 Likes |
Re: Playful Relationships : Yes Or No? by AfricanApple(f): 5:06pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
There can be no relationship as good as a playful one. It will be like you are married to your friend, best friend at that. All in all, the understanding has to be mutual. the fact that you take it jokingly doesnt mean your partner will. I've heard of goat meat chai 2 Likes |
Re: Playful Relationships : Yes Or No? by AfricanApple(f): 5:08pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
Dygeasy:I'm imagining that now your son saying 'ode oyoyo' 2 Likes |
Re: Playful Relationships : Yes Or No? by MizMyColi(f): 5:22pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
#Edited 2 Likes |
Re: Playful Relationships : Yes Or No? by Nobody: 5:33pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
Playful? Yes "Ode", "Idiot", etc? No. 4 Likes |
Re: Playful Relationships : Yes Or No? by Beamborla(f): 5:39pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
thorpido:Iro o! I canor date olodo or ode for real na. He should be my best friend...I should be free around him and vice versa |
Re: Playful Relationships : Yes Or No? by Nobody: 5:39pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
Useless people |
Re: Playful Relationships : Yes Or No? by PresVA: 5:52pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
Ofcourse, playful relationships rock jaree... wouldn't have married my husband if he hadn't such a huge sense of humour. . Our house no be army barracks na shiioorr.. Having a great sense of humour and being insensitive help you avoid grudges and settle issues quite fast and 'playfully'... Sometimes I do things playfully and get away with them But sometimes my husband will tease you till you start crying ... God help you if you choose opposite teams during a football match and his team is winning 2 Likes |
Re: Playful Relationships : Yes Or No? by TV01(m): 6:07pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
Playful relationships? Yes, absolutely yes! But using derogatory or abusive language does not necessarily equate to playful. Early on I told my wife I thought it was a bad idea - as a matter of policy ! I think it's easy for the use of such words to become embedded - without ever meaning to. I also think they can be dropped at inappropriate times - totally unintentionally - that may cause hurt. I also think a man is more likely to drop one unthinkingly, and a woman is more likely to take one at face value, when no hurt was intended. Long/short, I believe women are a tad more sensitive. I know I've said things that "touched" without meaning to, how much more with words specifically designed to hurt? Funny enough, this type of "dissing banter" is more characteristic of males. Notice how women don't give themselves nicknames, and men do, usually derogatory/funny ones like jughead etc? I know it's each couple to their own, but I think it helps to accord your spouse that honour and lends an air of "special", no to pedestalise one another though.. I have pledged in my heart never to use foul language, raise my voice or my hand to my wife. So far, so good...but women, they can test you eh! TV 9 Likes |
Re: Playful Relationships : Yes Or No? by thorpido(m): 7:24pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
Beamborla:It's good to be free and be able to joke and play with one's partner but the use of words like ode,mumu,olodo,were is a no no for me. 1 Like |
Re: Playful Relationships : Yes Or No? by Nobody: 7:31pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
Yes Yes and Yes You should be able to have fun, crack jokes, tease each other and just be playful with each other and with the children too. Laughter is good for you health wise and it helps bond the couple/family. Laughter is the best medicine.....Life is short. But for us no to derogatory words. Personally I wouldn't use, or want a word that is normally used as an insult said to me. names you yell out at unruly danfo drivers There are thousands of other nicer words in the dico 2 Likes |
Re: Playful Relationships : Yes Or No? by Ishilove: 7:37pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
iAmCharis:How is your wife? Please extend my greetings to her |
Re: Playful Relationships : Yes Or No? by Nobody: 7:41pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
Playful? Hell yeah! I couldn't have it any other way. Fun, fun, fun and ease and more fun. Name calling rather not but to each their own. 1 Like |
Re: Playful Relationships : Yes Or No? by Ishilove: 7:48pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
Heck yeah. Back then my partner called me 'bush girl'. That was his petname for me. We played, arm wrestled, constantly ribbed each other but knew where to draw the line. Derogatory words were a no-no, and if one us used one and it offended the other, we quickly apologised and never used such words again. so yeah, playful relationships get my double thumbs up. 2 Likes |
Re: Playful Relationships : Yes Or No? by Nobody: 9:16pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
Ishilove:Which one? The one you dash me? |
Re: Playful Relationships : Yes Or No? by Ishilove: 9:30pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
iAmCharis:The one you created a thread for on Nairaland and proposed to |
Re: Playful Relationships : Yes Or No? by CoCoLav(f): 9:30pm On Aug 26, 2016 |
TV01: Women actually give themselves nicknames. My friends first words on the phone are always chicken legs or fat head Another starts with Ode |
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