SexyStrawberry:
To me she makes sense, it's not about being a feminist, in marriage, two becomes one, it doesn't matter who does the chores or who goes out to earn a living, as long as there is mutual understanding and respect for one another, the union will always be a happy one at the end.

Berbierklaus:

You have a point but don't you think her submission rules against gender roles and natural order of coexistence in marriage?

SexyStrawberry:


Try to be a little bit more open minded about her post and see things objectively and positively, different strokes for different folks, the things u may see as bad in a union may be what that couple u envy are using to flourish happily and u keep asking how they are so happy together in all situations, it's all about mutual understanding and respect, love is essential, but it takes more than love to make a marriage work.

Yomieluv:
Well said.. All that still based on the principle of coexistence in marriage..

Working in difference to make unity.

Berbierklaus:
Could this be another feminist hullabaloo or she actually makes sense?

lalasticlala

postmann:



This actually made it here at the Fam section.

Well, what the eyesore was simply saying in essence is that there is no gender role in matrimony/and society.

She's a victim of gender disatisfaction accrued to biological and spiritual limitations bearing on her inordinate ambitions and ideals. Ideals falling out of several askew relationships which has developed into a hardened stance of recalcitrant revolution.

Unable to resolved her personal woes, she finds herself at cross-purpose with life, society and herself.

Berbierklaus:

Thanks for your input,but I think you should dissect the Writeup and not the writer

Berbierklaus:

2)A woman supposedly working as an adult responsibility not a helpmate[/b]


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Timbou.ktu

Berbierklaus:

To me I find her post challenging
Why?

using our immediate environment as an example,
A man hoping to settle down for family life searches for the widely accepted "wife material" criteria
Naturally a wife material(has different subjective meaning to different people) is a lady that is domesticated eg cooking,cleaning,washing,hospitable etc and etc.

Now he gets to fulfil his desire,and his wife comes up with this tactic of running the family, maybe as a result of wanting what that other family who are "happily married has".

Do you think our men should deviate from the recognised gender role?
Don't you think it will upset the bible preached doctrine of "wife/husband helpmate"?
Do you see it as a possibility that will not put an imbalance in marriages.

Just trying to get the rational behind "Adult responsibilty"


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crackhaus

Berbierklaus:
Could this be another feminist hullabaloo or she actually makes sense?

lalasticlala

joseph1832:
That woman is drunk with delusion.

Berbierklaus:

To me I find her post challenging
Why?

using our immediate environment as an example,
A man hoping to settle down for family life searches for the widely accepted "wife material" criteria
Naturally a wife material(has different subjective meaning to different people) is a lady that is domesticated eg cooking,cleaning,washing,hospitable etc and etc.

Now he gets to fulfil his desire,and his wife comes up with this tactic of running the family, maybe as a result of wanting what that other family who are "happily married has".

Do you think our men should deviate from the recognised gender role?
Don't you think it will upset the bible preached doctrine of "wife/husband helpmate"?
Do you see it as a possibility that will not put an imbalance in marriages.

Just trying to get the rational behind "Adult responsibilty"


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crackhaus

joseph1832:
That woman is drunk with delusion.

crackhaus:

There is some sanity to be found in her yet, to my utmost surprise.

https://m.facebook.com/nkechi.bianze/posts/10154880104472195

joseph1832:
Yet, what she spewed above bothers on delusion. No man, unless he's a weakling and total wuss bag will applaud her for that nonsense she posted up there.

Berbierklaus:

To me I find her post challenging
Why?

using our immediate environment as an example,
A man hoping to settle down for family life searches for the widely accepted "wife material" criteria
Naturally a wife material(has different subjective meaning to different people) is a lady that is domesticated eg cooking,cleaning,washing,hospitable etc and etc.

Now he gets to fulfil his desire,and his wife comes up with this tactic of running the family, maybe as a result of wanting what that other family who are "happily married has".

Do you think our men should deviate from the recognised gender role?
Don't you think it will upset the bible preached doctrine of "wife/husband helpmate"?
Do you see it as a possibility that will not put an imbalance in marriages.

Just trying to get the rational behind "Adult responsibilty"


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crackhaus

crackhaus:

There is some sanity to be found in her yet, to my utmost surprise.

https://m.facebook.com/nkechi.bianze/posts/10154880104472195

TV01:

I personally see this as more of the same bovine scatology - pardon my French . Her thrust in that post was "Financial independence is a non-negotiable prerequisite for gender equality".

Financial differentials are not as a result of "gender inequality (I hate that word gender used in the context of male female ). In a pared down sense, sexual difference just means it makes more practical sense for men to till the field and women to tend the home front.

To be clear, it is at least as valid to see the biological difference as driving the role difference, which in turn drives the financial earning difference, as it is to assume the financial earnings (responsibility difference) drives the role difference. Equalising earnings/income will not equalise any other aspect of men and womens make-up.

I do take her point about women effectively prostituting themselves (although shouldn't real feminism just see that as their legitimate freewill choice?), but the truth is the majority of women - no matter their earnings or status - will always desire a higher earning/status man.


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Berbierklaus:
Could this be another feminist hullabaloo or she actually makes sense?

lalasticlala

crackhaus:

First of all, this Nkechi Bianze is allowed to do as she wishes with the man she gets married to.. I'm just wondering how she would go about setting the ground rules for her husband—like will there be a timetable pasted on all access points in her house scheduling the days/times for who will do the cooking and who will look after the kid(s)?

The problem with her opinion isn't the novelty (heck, we've heard and seen this a little too much from girls who love Telemundo), it's the practicality.

My stance on this issue has always remained the same:
If Nkechi Bianze is lucky enough to marry a man who is completely hands-on with the chores in the house as well as the kids, then she should be thankful. On the flip side however, should Nkechi Bianze get married to a man who isn't about that life of cooking/cleaning then this her sermon will not take her very far unless she intends starting a conflict.
You do not force a man to go into the kitchen to cook/clean or assist with the chores—if he's someone who's sensitive enough to do these things on his own, then that is how it is...no more, no less. (Notice how I didn't include helping with the children, cos I'm of the opinion a man must help with the kids in any little way he can)

At the end of the day, most of the women with such opinions always end up being the chief cook/cleaner/child-minder in their homes...but they will never openly admit to it.
Na their way!

pcguru1:


lol but seriously without being forced any sane guy would want to relieve stress from his partner, but you're right someone explicitly stating down laws for me is a no-go area. before you know it, Sex would soon become a thing of reward thus Sexless marriage.

crackhaus:

Absolutely @bold text, but if we were to go by your interpretation of a sane guy, then it means there are a lot of insane men out there bro...and the funny thing is, the wives of such men hardly make a fuss of it.

pcguru1:


insanity is relative, a husband can be both insane in one household and sane in another

pcguru1:


This is not feminism, its two adults taking responsibility, I clean the house for my younger brothers because they are lazy and wash the dishes and do the whole scrubbing of bathroom and parlour, first we are all boys and I am someone who hates to depend on people to do things after asking twice coupled with the fact that I went to Navy boarding school and all this were compulsory. So really doing in it in my house hold won't be a big deal.

Feminism considers empowerment of women-hood and opportunities to those who aren't given any prob due to traditional values or culture. e.g Women should not go to school, women must be housewives, women shouldn't work, women shouldn't be drafted into the army. This is just civic adult responsibilities.