Sometimes, we think we’ve seen so many marriages crash so much that we begin to fantasize about an ideal marriage and allow ourselves to be fed all kinds of stories about the responsibilities that come with being married.

Perhaps, you are in this position creating for yourself some high expectations that are unrealistic in marriage, then, you have got to loosen up a bit and wake up to new realities. Here are some myths you probably must have believed that are very much invalid and remain untrue.

MARRIAGE IS ALL ABOUT LOVE

This statement is really very unrealistic, you might have been told that it is the love you have for your spouse that would keep you both together for a long time in your marriage.

A successful has much more than to be all about love, every marriage comes with its own challenges and you have to be ready to face it together, overcome and triumph, knowing fully well that this isn’t just about the love you both have for each other.

MARRIAGE IS HARD

You probably have seen marriages crashed and have come to a conclusion that marriage definitely is hard. Well, this is not to say that marriage is easy but it isn’t as hard as you think. In as much as you can try everything within your capacity and put in some extra effort to strengthen your relationship and maintain it.

COUPLES IN A HEALTHY AND SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE DO NOT HAVE DISAGREEMENTS

Arguments and disagreement certainly are inevitable in healthy marriages, contrary to what you think. These are in fact a sign that your union is healthy; however the ability to sort out your differences on a peaceful note is what makes it a healthier ordeal.

YOUR SPOUSE CAN CHANGE BASED ON THE LOVE HE OR SHE HAS FOR YOU

If you probably have this in mind before going into any relationship or getting married, you’re probably getting it all wrong because you just cannot change an individual, it is not your responsibility to change anyone or make them conform to your desire.

If they have to change they will without your effort all you have got to do is make them feel loved and if you must correct them, do so with love and with time you will discover how much they are willing to change.

THE LOVE WE HAVE FOR EACH OTHER WILL KEEP US TOGETHER

Trust me, it doesn’t work that way, if your marriage is going to work out well, it is all dependent on you and not just love; you’ve got to decide on this. What would keep you both is the level of commitment and understanding you are willing to exercise in your relationship.

WHEN THINGS GET TOUGH, IT IS BECAUSE YOU MARRIED THE WRONG PERSON

If this is what you think about marriage, then you have got to get your mind renewed because you could experience the worst in marriages that could eventually keep your relationship more strong and healthy. Challenges do not just come your way, it is expected to be a learning process for you both.

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