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Advice On Interracial Relationship With Nigerian by Nobody: 2:41pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
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Re: Advice On Interracial Relationship With Nigerian by Nobody: 3:45pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
Is this not the Nigerian who masquerades as a white woman to bash fellow blacks? All the proof you need is already in your write up. Try and read it from a third person view and you can personally advice yourself what to do. Nowhere in the world do men of any race call sisters "baby" and vice versa. You're his indigenous girlfriend keeping him occupied till he goes back home. His plan is to get whatever he's doing in the country over with and head back home to settle with his "sister". Next time ask for a three-way phone discussion or better yet a skype call between him, you and his sister; only then can it finally dawn on you the relationship they both share. Do not accept any excuse he gives why he can't do it. Make three-way discussions a habit whenever his "sister" calls, the truth would sink in eventually. |
Re: Advice On Interracial Relationship With Nigerian by Nobody: 3:51pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
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Re: Advice On Interracial Relationship With Nigerian by Nobody: 4:06pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
whiteflower:You should if you love the man and want him all to yourself. He wants me to come off contraception but he can't offer me any thing but when I say that he gets angry and says it takes 9 months for baby to come but shouldn't he have a home ready for me before getting pregnantHe obviously wants your child so he can return to the UK freely. His time is running out. If you hold up longer he would eventually get deported. Dude's probably a Nigerian dodging Home Office but still managing to live a regular life. Check his immigration status. |
Re: Advice On Interracial Relationship With Nigerian by Nobody: 4:11pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
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Re: Advice On Interracial Relationship With Nigerian by Nobody: 4:16pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
whiteflower: She is his future wife and mother to his kids. Wouldn't surprise me to find out they are already engaged. He works so how would he be dodging home officeAt 30 one would expect you already know the UK system is beatable, Nigerians/Jamaicans/Indians/Pakistanis do it all the time. You saying he is using me ?You already know this. It's why you're here. He says he loves me?For the meantime. However you share no future with him, unless maybe a mixed race kid or two if you eventually give in to his demands. |
Re: Advice On Interracial Relationship With Nigerian by Nobody: 5:40pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
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Re: Advice On Interracial Relationship With Nigerian by Nobody: 5:50pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
My opinion: I think his "sister" is actually his girlfriend. And he has brainwashed his sister/girlfriend into believing that his deceiving you for something. You need solid proof that she is actually his sister and not his girlfriend/wife. It is extremely rare to see a Nigerian man that calls his sister baby... |
Re: Advice On Interracial Relationship With Nigerian by Nobody: 6:07pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
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Re: Advice On Interracial Relationship With Nigerian by Ivoryred(f): 6:30pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
whiteflower:calling her baby or princess is not bad....my brother do call me that,even when am with his GF.sit him down and ask him why he call his sister"baby"don't yell at him...he will tell you........my brother calls me baby because am more closer to him than any other thing. |
Re: Advice On Interracial Relationship With Nigerian by Nobody: 10:32pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
whiteflower:Don't take our advice and your kids and her's would become half siblings. Think you can't handle her now? Imagine how you'd feel then. Why has he chosen me?It takes a certain type of woman to defend him no matter what he does. He picked well. If he just wanted to come and go when he likes in uk why has it taken him ten years he could of found any girl to do thatEasy for most women to say. Not easy to put into practice. Most UK citizens are very critical when it comes to dating and only a few white people (of British origin) give black foreigners a chance. Situations like this a strong reason why. and if his sister is his wife or girlfriend why would she put up with him having a gf in uk and even put her on the phone to meTo her you're keeping him warm from the English weather. She'd endure with the situation knowing it would soon pass. To her you're only a means to an end (a residency permit which would fast track a future spouse visa). This is a very common thing here. I suggest you make some Nigerian friends (not black Brits) and ask them the possibility. It would shock you what they'd disclose. |
Re: Advice On Interracial Relationship With Nigerian by Nobody: 12:39am On Oct 18, 2016 |
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Re: Advice On Interracial Relationship With Nigerian by Nobody: 3:32am On Oct 18, 2016 |
whiteflower:There is nothing I can type down which would change your love for him. I'm beginning to think you secretly enjoy the competition for his affection. My final and only advice to you is to befriend his 'sister' as only then would you finally come to a conclusion on their relationship. Collect her number from his phone, call her up once in a while and always encourage him to do three way calls. If you claim it's an awkward situation you are not ready to begin then stay quiet while your nursing suspicions grow. I'm out of this discussion. Hopefully somebody else frames a solution in a way you would choose to follow. |
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