Dealing with an over demanding spouse is not
easy. However, you must still try to do your
best. Your partner can be demanding in many
different ways. Some partners are emotionally
demanding. Some partners can be sexually
demanding and even mentally demanding.You
must try and understand exactly what your
partner’s needs are. If you can categorise
what exactly your partner’s demands are, then
you will be in a better position to understand
him/her. It can also be that your partner’s
needs are legitimate and you are unequipped
to handle these demands. In that case, the
shortcoming is yours.You must try and work
out your marriage even when your partner is
over demanding. For this, you need patience
and the right tactics.Here are some ways to
deal with over demanding spouse.

Ways to deal with over demanding spouse are:

1.Try To Do Your Best: Always try to do you
best when it comes to your spouse. You must
try to make time for your partner and take
care of his/her needs. There is no shame in
trying to keep your spouse happy.


2.Concentrate On Quality: One hour of quality
time is much better than hours and hours of
time spent in bickering. Ten minutes of intense
lovemaking is better than hours of half
hearted intimacy. So concentrate on ‘quality’
and not quantity if you have an over
demanding spouse.


3.Introspect: Try to put yourself in your
spouse’s shoes and introspect if he or she is
really over demanding or you are not good
enough as a partner. Sometimes, the fault can
lie with you and not your partner.


4.Prioritise: In life, you have to have priorities.
If your spouse demands more of your time
and energy, may be you have to put your
friends on a back seat.



5.Don’t Blame Yourself: Sometimes, a partner
who is emotionally demanding can make you
feel guilty unnecessarily. You should never
feel guilty because the problem lies with your
spouse and not you.



6.Becoming Equally Demanding: You must
give your partner the taste of his/her own
medicine. Try and become just as demanding
as he/she is. May be it will make your spouse
realise that he/she is suffocating you.



7.Make Your Spouse Feel Special: Doing
something special for your spouse every once
in a while will help you to fulfill his/her
demands. Make your partner feel that you
‘need’ him or her.



8.Develop Trust: Learn to trust your spouse
and also develop the same trust for your
partner. Only faith and trust can help you to
deal with such a person.


9.Accept Your Spouse: Every one is difficult to
deal with in their own way. So just like you
feel that your spouse is demanding, your
spouse may feel that your are distant. So just
accept your spouse the way he or she is.
These are the ways to deal with over
demanding spouse.