hello all, I wanna share what's eating me up and hopefully get advice from you.

By this time last year, I told my dad I wanted to study computer science in the university of Ibadan, my dad asked me "is something wrong with you?" I was shocked on hearing his answer. I come from a family of doctors, my mum, dad and my two sisters are all doctors and my dad was expecting me to follow the trend which I don't want to. I said "last last he won't follow me to register" in my mind. the next day, I saw my teacher in my house saying my dad called him for my jamb registration, I was in tears as I saw my form with my dad filled already with medicine and surgery written there. I did my registration and decided that when it's time for jamb. I'll plan to score 220-240.. fast forward to 2016, the time for my jamb examination came, i wrote it and was expecting nothing higher than 240.. I saw my result.. 276.. I was saying this is not my score.. my classmates thought I was being greedy and selfish.. only my best friend knew what was happening.. i made up my mind to fail the post ume.. then the minister of education, dropped it on our heads.. no post ume.. admission was based on a combination of jamb and waec scores. my jamb score was a good one, my waec was glorious.. 4 A's and a C in my required 5 subjects.. I was devastated.. fast forward to everything, I got admitted for medicine and now I'm thinking of rewriting jamb but my mind is at a crossroad.. who do I please? my dad or myself? insults and advices are allowed. thank you.

Do not let your father decide your career for you otherwise you would live with a choice that you wil regret later

Edwinmason:
Do not let your father decide your career for you otherwise you would live with a choice that you wil regret later

I just don't want to be seen as the black sheep of the family

kendallhart:
hello all, I wanna share what's eating me up and hopefully get advice from you.

By this time last year, I told my dad I wanted to study computer science in the university of Ibadan, my dad asked me "is something wrong with you?" I was shocked on hearing his answer. I come from a family of doctors, my mum, dad and my two sisters are all doctors and my dad was expecting me to follow the trend which I don't want to. I said "last last he won't follow me to register" in my mind. the next day, I saw my teacher in my house saying my dad called him for my jamb registration, I was in tears as I saw my form with my dad filled already with medicine and surgery written there. I did my registration and decided that when it's time for jamb. I'll plan to score 220-240.. fast forward to 2016, the time for my jamb examination came, i wrote it and was expecting nothing higher than 240.. I saw my result.. 276.. I was saying this is not my score.. my classmates thought I was being greedy and selfish.. only my best friend knew what was happening.. i made up my mind to fail the post ume.. then the minister of education, dropped it on our heads.. no post ume.. admission was based on a combination of jamb and waec scores. my jamb score was a good one, my waec was glorious.. 4 A's and a C in my required 5 subjects.. I was devastated.. fast forward to everything, I got admitted for medicine and now I'm thinking of rewriting jamb but my mind is at a crossroad.. who do I please? my dad or myself? insults and advices are allowed. thank you.

This is a real tough one for you. Iam surprised that your father is pushing you to become a Doctor that you are not interested in becoming after having two daughters (your two sisters) already as Doctors. If you have somebody that your father respects, go and tell the person so that he can talk to your father on your behalf. Computer science is not a bad course.

You brought this on yourself.

If you really wanted to study computer science, you would have abandoned the biology aspect of jamb completely. Getting a zero on one of the subjects would render your jamb useless and you'd have to do it the following year, after which you'd have enough time and strategies to convince your parents.

Right now, your only option is to flunk first year. But I'm guessing you'll miraculously pass that one too.

On a more serious note, having a medical degree doesn't stop you from pursuing computer science.

I understand the situation you are in as I almost fell into this except for the intervention of my sister. For you to chart a different path, it is surely going to generate opposition from others. If you are so interested in Computer science, try to work on it, don't just confine your thoughts to having a degree in it even if you continue with the medicine and surgery course. If you feel you can't continue, tell your father now or else it will be a frustrating years ahead of you.

kendallhart:
I just don't want to be seen as the black sheep of the family

deciding to follow your dream does nt make u a black sheep..beside do what will make you happy 4 the rest of ur life

I understand the situation you are in as I almost fell into this except for the intervention of my sister. For you to chart a different path, it is surely going to generate opposition from others. If you are so interested in Computer science, try to work on it, don't just confine your thoughts to having a degree in it even if you continue with the medicine and surgery course. If you feel you can't continue, tell your father now or else the years ahead will be so frustrating for you.

please ur self. One of the problems we have in Nigeria are the parents, believing they are Demi Gods

Since u don't have a choice study but don't practice
Dr_sid

Honestly, it's your life not his. You're the one that'll go to uni, you're the one that'll write the exams. After you graduate, you're the one with that profession. I'd advice you to go with what you want even if it means waiting another year. In life it's good to please people we love but not risking our own happiness in the process. I don't think he'll actually turn against you if your persistent, there may be some conflict but in the long run he'll come around. You shouldn't study what you don't have love or passion for.

Everyday I thank God the almighty who made my parents fill my jamb form to choose pharmacy. There is a reason why they do so...so that last last in their old age they will not worry about supporting u.... I also have friends who spent years studying medical related courses that they didn't like but did so because of their parents and they r happy because of it. So bros study am... Computer science can be learnt in ur spare time. Take my advise and 10 yes from now u won't regret... Study well and enjoy it because Bros the streets ain't funny

Follow your heart by studying computer science. Parents can only advice their kids and guide them during course registration not to force or imposed a particular course on them.

Its unfortunate and pathetic.

Study medicine. After graduating if you still want to take up a second degree. You will have more connection and an easier to climb career in medical field. Follow ur passion in computer if it's still there after graduation.

Between your perceived passion and your parents' wisdom...

ednut1:
please ur self. One of the problems we have in Nigeria are the parents, believing they are Demi Gods

So true and very sad.

Op...sorry about your predicament. I was also in your situation about some years ago.

My Dad forced me to study medicine by all means...I am an intelligent lady bt I dnt like any discipline that is related to Biology.

I refused the idea and I'm thanking God that I rejected it.

STENON:
Op...sorry about your predicament. I was also in your situation about some years ago.

My Dad forced me to study medicine by all means...I am an intelligent lady bt I dnt like any discipline that is related to Biology.

I refused the idea and I'm thanking God that I rejected it.

Since you rejected it, what did you now study?.