Omegalala:
No Trolling.
This is my situation.

Some of my what you call 'irresponsible' speeches, may be due to frustration and the fact that a lot is going through my mind.

Just offer you token.
I'm still monitoring the thread.

Hitunnu:
Both are at fault bt most goes to the woman. The nature of men need to be understood as well as our duties. Abuses isnt the solutions when issues arises. It can only be prevented when it hasn't happened. Couples that lives together or in the same country still cheat let alone of someone who left her husband. Both didn't reasons well before taken the decision. She went for both good bt at the same time. An aspect couples must to address well. She may accept the baby if she realised she neglected her duties. Dnt go for any introduction/marriage without her consent.

Ujoan:


So I assume you've seen my conclusion on how you are a broke a55 dude living off the little $$$ your wife sends from the US. I bet you don't spend a dime catering for your kids in the US, which is why you can afford to have more...

Tell us again what you do for a living . . .

Ujoan:


How does 'most' of the fault go to the woman

How did she neglect her 'duty'

So now it's her fault she is sacrificing her freedom to raise their kids a better society? If OP felt strongly against it why didn't he insist she stays back. But I bet he even encouraged her to go, so that IMO exonerates her of any blame here.

I live in a separate state from my husband, just 1.5hrs away . . . so we don't live together all the time. he is with us 3days out of the 7days on a week, yet I assure you that it's not easy. Running a home as a woman alone is a whole lot of hard work. She's not doing this out of selfishness, rather out of selflessness.

So now she has to bear the consequences . . . . That's funny!

Hitunnu:
what works for you may not work for another.

Amelian:



Youve just asked the right question?
He doesn't have a job. Anytime I open this thread for the past 3days he's always online monitoring this thread. And I wonder the same thing too. Does he have a job?
I doubt he has any job. The wife abroad is the one sending him money and sponsoring his lifestyle here.
Can u guys imagine? Enjoying other babe, having maranton unprotected sexx with his wife's money.
At age 35years he wants to marry a 2nd wife in this economy?


I can't believe this


Someone said, nobody will tell his wife abroad, abi?

Just y'all watch and see.

Omegalala:
Godly? I'm a christian, i believe in Jesus.
But nobody is above mistake.

Also most guys in my situation won't think twice about abortion.
But I feel the foetus deserve the right to live once the egg is fertilized.
You never know the baby maybe a light to his/her generation.

I also believe there nothing new. What matters is how I handle the situation.
That's why I seeking for advice.

misspicy:



My point is, it has happened, Op needs a solution on how to handle a polygamous home, so the essence of these insults is what I don't understand.....

ckamal:
Bros am a Married man just like you...but to be frank with you,you have just created a problem you will never be able to solve in your own life time..i mean not with money,gift or anything...i mean even if you get lonely and need a companion,must you go all the way to impregnate the other lady..i sincerely doubt if you truly love and respect your wife.

Its obvious you took this step simply because you wanted more kids and your wife cant give you more due to the C.S u mentioned she did..as a married man like you..i have been with other ladies casually while been married codedly and i do have one that i have been seeing for over a year..now this lady knows i am married and i can never marry her..its just friendship with benefit thats all..she has kids of hers too and just needs a man to keep body and soul together.

As a man its not so easy to keep away from the temptations at times but no matter what my wife always comes first in the scheme of things and she is the one i would always go back home to even after the whole what have u...I don't mean to judge you but your choice is a very selfish one...I am from a polygamous home and i would never go into one no matter how tempting it could be..Most Polygamous men become loners in their old age because all the the children simply focus on their Moms.

I wish u all the best in whatever decision you make at the end of the day

lepasharon:


And Why would I request ur fone no

Omegalala:
Hello folks, I need your advice on this.

I'm a married man with a wonderful wife and 2 kids. I love my wife. I'm not a womanizer, but very sexually active with my wife.

My wife, especially, is frustrated with Nigeria (no light, no good education for kids, traffic jams, etc). She suggested relocating to US. I supported and sponsored a legit relocation for her and the kids. But due to my good business clientele base in Nigeria and time required to get work permit for myself in US, I resorted to visiting them 2-3 times a year. They are really doing fine in the US.

Back home here in Nigeria, I won't lie, it gets lonely for me. Somehow I met a babe, a fresh graduate, who has most of the qualities of my wife. We dated for 8 months. Now she is pregnant (I fcked up!).

I'm pro-life, can't do abortion.
I love this babe too.

How can I handle the situation to keep both women happy?

5minsmadness:


You came to the wrong place to seek for advice.

Like you have seen, most of the people here dont give good advice, they are just here mostly to insult others and gloat over other people's misery so they can feel good about themselves. They speak like life for them is perfect and they have never cheated or aborted or made bad choices before. The least they would do for you is give you a second chance. Ignore thier insults and curses. They know no better. When they experience life they will think differently.

To your matter.

You have made the mistake already. You got lonely, lost control of your sexual urge and sought solace outside. It happens more often with men than with women. Men need more self control to keep their libido and excesses in check. Having said that, your ladyfriend is pregnant and this is going to place some serious emotional hurt on your wife. How do you plan on comforting her or making it up to her?

Secondly,

Does your religion allow you to practice polygamy?

I'm glad you are responsible enough to accept your mistake and be there for the woman and her child to be. Most men would force the girl to abort or would leave her high and dry outright (and the same online rabble insulting you for owning up to your mistake will still insult and curse you for deserting her if you did so). I think your plan to sort this out is good. I dont know about marrying your baby-mama (unless your religion allows it) but i guess you should tell your wife about that first before you do. Its one thing to betray her trust by impregnating a girl outside, its another thing to marry same girl witbout her being in the know.

Yes polygamy can be difficult but i assure you (as one who counsels various couples), it is not all doom and gloom and there are many harmonious polygamous families out there. As long as you treat both wives equally and well, your family will thrive.

Even godly people make mistakes. The true christian battle is learning from those mistakes and rising above them, becoming wiser from it. Dont make a similar mistake again in the future.

All the best.

FortuneTeller:
Omegalala

You are disgusting, wretched Godless man. I pray that your wife returns the favor to you 10 fold. By God's grace she will find a man in the US and forget about you.

misspicy:

Is like you didn't read where his wife gave him a free pass to cheat abi.
That aspect has been taken care of already.
I fail to understand the grievance of most ladies on this thread, this story whether fake or real is what is obtainable in our society and who are those trying to change the world here, y'all better don't kill yourselves for the world , Jesus did that already.

My point is, it has happened, Op needs a solution on how to handle a polygamous home, so the essence of these insults is what I don't understand.....

Ujoan:


The guy is a joke!!!

Omegalala:
I'm not a broke dude.
I don't want to stress my wife. Just told her to get a 5hrs no-stress work, to engage her.

I pay for the US house rent, utilities and up-keeps up till now, even with the current $ rate.
Like I said my wife just want an 'everything works environment' and also where the kids can thrive in their respective careers.

Even with your money in Nigeria:
- you still have to queue for fuel
- you get late to your destination due to traffic
- you are at the mercy of insane drivers
- you are exposed to carbon/noise from your neighbors' generator
- you pay huge school fees but can't see the result in the kids
- you build high fence around your house
- etc

Would have love to stay with my family in US, the business I built over the years is at its peak.
Really, I'm not feeling the recession in naija, my line of business is f'ckin dynamic.

Also US is just boring for me personally (after the first 2 weeks, depression sets in).

I don't give a f'ck whether my kids visits me at old age, I can handle that. I don't need their money at old age.
I can engage in community/philanthropic activities that keeps me busy till I get the hell out of this f'cked up planet.

How may times have those born in nuclear families visited or send money to their parents.

I want advice on how to diplomatically manage a polygamous setting, I'm dipping my head in.

Drop ya token for me if ya gat, if not shut da f'ck up

misspicy:
I don't know why people are pitying the wife after reading this, this is a generous pass to cheat, and when you cheat you get a result (pregnancy) , wife knows this, so why the insults?

Omegalala:
@Amelian: Yea, Thanks.

I can't shut da f'ck up.
Some good perspectives are still streaming in...

Plus some ladies on this thread should just stop the insults they are spitting.

montezz:

Yes my love. How have you been? How are the girls?

I am well, how are you too dear?

My beauties are great, thank God.

- You are scarce.

Cherlene

Omegalala:
Not fake.
Please don't discourage those dropping ideas for me.

Omegalala:
Hello folks, I need your advice on this.

I'm a married man with a wonderful wife and 2 kids. I love my wife. I'm not a womanizer, but very sexually active with my wife.

My wife, especially, is frustrated with Nigeria (no light, no good education for kids, traffic jams, etc). She suggested relocating to US. I supported and sponsored a legit relocation for her and the kids. But due to my good business clientele base in Nigeria and time required to get work permit for myself in US, I resorted to visiting them 2-3 times a year. They are really doing fine in the US.

Back home here in Nigeria, I won't lie, it gets lonely for me. Somehow I met a babe, a fresh graduate, who has most of the qualities of my wife. We dated for 8 months. Now she is pregnant (I fcked up!).

I'm pro-life, can't do abortion.
I love this babe too.

How can I handle the situation to keep both women happy?

Amelian:




My dear, I will never understand nada

I schooled in Nigeria.. All my years in Nigeria. Am very OK.. Even better than some people abroad.

So am not understanding.. And I won't understand.. Cause have tasted the repercussions of polygamy.. Live and direct.. Not hear say.


Honestly u don't have an idea, what awaits in the future.

Until then, u will remember what have said.