;Dbeen laughing since... u know d obvious yet u ask for advise...

let me just continue laughing been laughing since... u know d obvious yet u ask for advice...

let me just continue laughing

Abeg make I laugh small, hehehehe (abeg no vex say i dey laugh o) ; the lady get mind o, she raise hand slap your bro and come give am black eye on top ; chai; she be tigeress? You’re asking how to deal with her right? Ok don’t give her an audience when she arrives ; simple and short. She’ll get the message from there and she’ll know the game is up for her to move on and let your brother be. Your bro better open his eyes wide now and get ride of a person who can’t control her temper; otherwise, he’ll suffer constant abuse in that relationship, based on how you have described the lady in question.

tartarus:
Just like my ex, she once smashed my s7 edge and then proceeded to almost strangle me. My neck was sore for days
Any form of domestic violence is wrong. Either male or female. I couldn't forgive her after that incident cos it wasn't even the first time.

u try ooo. how long did u keep up with ds kind of physical abuse

richyblink1:


He actually earns x3 of her salary so there is no way she will be the one funding their affair. The deal is that she is this type that believes everybody are equal and as such she can do as it pleases her.

She can sit doing nothing and asks him to go get her water from the fridge or something like that. Always want to show that she is equal to him and has to do as she wishes.

I once asked her if she is a feminist for telling me to warn my brother about trying to be head or appear as the boss in their relationship. That they are both human with equal right

And you wanna beg on her behalf? The Lady will frustrate your brother eeehh and distance him from his siblings and parents if married. Better advice your brother to drop her off abeg. Life is too short to allow someone frustrate ya.

tartarus:
Just like my ex, she once smashed my s7 edge and then proceeded to almost strangle me. My neck was sore for days
Any form of domestic violence is wrong. Either male or female. I couldn't forgive her after that incident cos it wasn't even the first time.

You dated a wrestler?

Guy, beware!!!!! a husband killer in the making is dating ur younger brother.

how I'm i sure dis didn't happen to u op, this one wer u get last minute details like this

Joavid:
These threads on nairaland never cease to amaze me.

Your friend is dating a controlling maniac who is also physically abusive, entitled, rude and you are asking us if it's a red flag?

Are your senses still with you even if your friend has lost his?

There is something called breakup

Some topics just defy logic and common sense

leave him...let him be asking stupid questions....u think u r still a kid...na until u go hear say...ur younger brother has been shot(God forbid) na dat time ur brains go reset....no go borrow sense...even my 7yrs old cosine would never ask such stupid n senseless questions...

I like your brother. If it is the Spirit of the Lord that is at work in Him, then it is a good thing.

Obviously, the girl has alot to learn. I don't also know if your brother is as saintly as you have painted him to be. But that's not the question now.

I am sure he loves her, but love is not powerful enough to sustain a relationship in itself. With time, when it is put undér pressure, it will ask questions. I just hope it won't be too late by then.

I am sure she has her good sides, possibly her problem is one of upbringing or just this misunderstood idea of feminism/ boss lady gibberish that is blowing the heads of our younger sisters nowadays.

But whatever it is, when she comes to you, talk to her; straight talk! and if you notice she is adamant to change, tell your bro to call it quits or ask her for a break for sometime for both of them to go and reassess themselves.

Character flaws must be actively tackled. So if she works on herself. It is obvious they can't go into marriage like this. It is better to nip it in the bud now than live like hell in a cell.

Idydarling:
how I'm i sure dis didn't happen to u op, this one wer u get last minute details like this

Lols. I am actually married with kids. So it can't be me.
Thanks for your contribution anyway

yedidiah:
I like your brother. If it is the Spirit of the Lord that is at work in Him, then it is a good thing.

Obviously, the girl has alot to learn. I don't also know if your brother is as saintly as you have painted him to be. But that's not the question now.

I am sure he loves her, but love is not powerful enough to sustain a relationship in itself. With time, when it is put undér pressure, it will ask questions. I just hope it won't be too late by then.

I am sure she has her good sides, possibly her problem is one of upbringing or just this misunderstood idea of feminism/ boss lady gibberish that is blowing the heads of our younger sisters nowadays.

But whatever it is, when she comes to you, talk to her; straight talk! and if you notice she is adamant to change, tell your bro to call it quits or ask her for a break for sometime for both of them to go and reassess themselves.

Character flaws must be actively tackled. So if she works on herself. It is obvious they can't go into marriage like this. It is better to nip it in the bud now than live like hell in a cell.

Thanka a lot. You made some valid points.

She has her good sides, but very very quick to temper and always want to have her way

bigcp:


leave him...let him be asking stupid questions....u think u r still a kid...na until u go hear say...ur younger brother has been shot(God forbid) na dat time ur brains go reset....no go borrow sense...even my 7yrs old cosine would never ask such stupid n senseless questions...

Thought a wise one like you claim would learn to talk like an adult and shun insults.
Grow up

kidsam:
Guy, beware!!!!! a husband killer in the making is dating ur younger brother.

Lols! So funny

Nma27:
And you wanna beg on her behalf? The Lady will frustrate your brother eeehh and distance him from his siblings and parents if married. Better advice your brother to drop her off abeg. Life is too short to allow someone frustrate ya.

I understand. I think he has gotten the message

richyblink1:


Thanka a lot. You made some valid points.

She has her good sides, but very very quick to temper and always want to have her way

well, if it is temper, then it can be worked on.

richyblink1:


Lols. I am actually married with kids. So it can't be me.
Thanks for your contribution anyway

totally unnecessary info Sir, a simple 'yes' or 'no' would've sufficed.

Idydarling:
totally unnecessary info Sir, a simple 'yes' or 'no' would've sufficed.

Necessary enough to correct your assumption.

Thanks all the same

yedidiah:
well, if it is temper, then it can be worked on.

I hope so. Personally, I have maintained my distance since I am a third party.