okay

You need Jesus, move closer to him

WatchinginHD:
You need Jesus, move closer to him

But he just said now that his parents are Godly and from the look of things he is Godly too.

Ur still a young man. A fool at 40 is a fool forever but u ain't 40 yet. U still have 16 years to go which means u can still be a great achiever.

Why not try NOUN since you really want to go to school.

I heard they give admission easily.

All hope is not yet lost, you are still young, you still have time to achieve your lifelong dream. Put in more effort.

There really is no rush in life, you will still meet up with your mates, life is not all about competition.

Mr man.. Stop reading for jamb...clearly jamb is nt for u... Read rich dad poor dad by kiyosaki... And business of d 21st century by kiyosaki. U might add full speed ahead by joyce weiss.. ..search d net looking for positive things..most importantly think positively... . 24 is not dat bad.. If u start restructuring ur life now everywhere go soft for u... After reading all those books. Ull get ur answer...


And if u r still hell bent on going to school.... Go to NOUN.. as madam catalin has said...

joedesigns:
At 24 my life has no direction, I no longer believe in my childhood dreams.

I used to fantasize that I'll settle down before I turn thirty, but now all that just seem like a dream that will never happen.

Not that I was the Einstein of my class, but I was always among the top ten students in a class of over 60 students, everyone around me seem to have their life history carved out, everything seem to be working fine for them except me.

My younger brother whom I used to tutor in physics and chemistry while he was in SSS one, will be going for his NYSC this year, my little sister just gained admission last year; while I am still here waiting in line to take my sixth jamb form, at the same time helping my mother sell at her shop like I've always been doing for the past 7 years.


My parents are godly, And I know they'll be terribly disappointed in me, should they ever ever find out how frustrated and heart broken I am on the inside.

I'm just stuck in a never ending loop, no job qualifications, no skills acquired so far aside from the web and graphics designing that I don't even know where to make good use of without a degree.

If someone had ever told me years ago, that a once upon a time full-of-life and bubbling me, will ever be in this state of hopelessness; I would have laughed at such a fellow.



Although I do not feel suicidal yet, but I'm afraid I may soon find myself in such a situation, and it bothers me.



My life has no direction, I'm just stuck and stagnant, no growth!.

I always spend excessive amount of time wishing if I could turn back the hands of time to at least right my mistakes. Not that I led a life of promiscuity, in fact my mom and dad especially my dad often try to show off the good moral character they've imbibed in me.

But now I try as much as possible to stay clear from the public. A lot of my old time friends came this Christmas and they've already begun to go back to their individual stations. some who were apprentice are now masters, some are in their respective universities, one even invited me to her wedding.

Seeing how a lot of my old buddies where faring well, resurrected boatloads of jealousy I never knew was in me.



I'm just lost in oblivion, nothing excites me anymore. I just don't know where to start from at 24. I don't even know if I'll ever be somebody in life again.

Hi . Can I reach you on WhatsApp?

Catalin:
But he just said now that his parents are Godly and from the look of things he is Godly too.

on A more personal way, parents being general overseers don't mean you will make heaven

Wow...... Life can be terrible most times, sometimes we feel like giving up! Reality sucks. But what do we do? That's life for you, we plan something and it gives us the opposite. It happens to everyone even successful people have life challenges. Bruh, just keep calm and put in the best you can and things would surely turn out positive.
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As for education, I suggest you stop waiting for universities, go for other institutions, like polys and colleges, or go for computer training, it doesn't matter where you get the certificate what matters is that you are good at whatsoever you do.
P.s my uncle who is a top govt official today did not become one cos of his university certificate, its through a six months computer training result he did a long time ago.
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So I suggest you change direction and see how it goes! Good luck!

sixth jamb form are you still sleeping. that 6/7 years would have gone a very long way in your life brother. There are a million options out there for you but you choose to ignore them. It's your choice man, you either continue waiting for admission or you close that chapter and get on your feet.

Please note that you still have a lot of time you can use to become whatever it is you want to be. I know it can be very disheartening when you find your peers or younger ones doing better than you.

That being said, which course are you hoping to pursue in d university? I hope you are not foisting on yourself a profession chosen for you. Meanwhile you dint give details on the outcome of the jamb exams you have written. Something may be wrong somewhere and you have to identify it. You have to go back to the drawing board. You also mentioned turning back d time to right your mistakes.that means you may have an inkling as to what the problem might be.

As you try again, make use of any opportunity u have. U mentioned helping your mother in her shop. You may be surprised that you may be the one to grow that business to an enviable standard eventually. You mentioned that some of ur peers that were apprentices are now masters.

Try again bro

Goodluck

I rarely post on nl, but reading through your life story I felt I need to say a thing or two.


Firstly, I applaud your efforts thus far, it shows you're not the type who gives up easily. But you cannot keep doing something over and over again and expect a different result. For now, stop writing jamb, consider going for a part time course to at least broaden your mind and equally keeping it busy.


Secondly, you don't need a degree to showcase your talents, if you're truly good in graphics and web designing, why not consider freelancing jobs, andAs you build up your client base you can later go for a degree either online or at the nearest university or college. or you can even choose NOUN as suggested earlier.


Finally, Avoid spending too much time alone. socialism is the key here, engage your mind with refreshing articles and blogs. Remember an idle mind is the devil's workshop.


Op don't give up just yet, it is not over until God says so.


Mods should please move this to the front page, many of our youths are dieing inwardly. They might equally benefit from these comments. The singular truth is that so many Nigerians are gradually finding themselves in the OP's shoes.


We will all get to our desired position in life by God's grace.

Sorry you have to feel this way, I was once in your shoes. I was a young chubby girl that wanted to become a lawyer, grew up feeling confused, studied a course in school I never heard of. Wasted my mom's time and everybody's time by going to a catering school and didn't stayed for long to see my graduation.

I was fuccked up, miserable and deadly unhappy. You are lucky you have parents who understood you. Mine didn't, it was shouts and war everyday.

Then I changed my mind set, life is a process not to be rushed. You have to take so many steps in life to find where you stand in it, sometimes you might fall, sometimes you literally don't have legs to walk on. For you to have a smooth pounded yam, it must be hit hard with a pestle.

Which means, a man has to be through some situations in life to be the best. O.p, if you see life like a race, you won't win. Instead see life like a plant, that needs to grow at its time. You can't plant a seed today and expect to see a tree none can you hurry it to grow faster than it can.

You should focus on your importance and achievements than worrying about your short comings and failures. See life like a journey, like a process, like a stages of a book, and be happy.

Now I don't get angry anymore, most importantly, I don't under value myself. I walk at my own space, and I don't let people compare me cos I know my worth. I'm currently learning sewing, taking my time at it. Exercise my body, sleep and wake up like every human being. I've never been happier.

Life no be fight, the fact that you got to your destination before me doesn't mean I won't get to mine.

who says you need to go to school to b successful, guy I graduated last year no job till now but I have acquired some skills which is bringing me money ,I'm still acquiring more skill.... develop yourself...if you feel you need certificate go for some diploma courses

My dear.

All those people u said have gone so far have not gone any where.

Just concentrate on improving your website design skills while you wait for admission.

If you are based in Lagos, contact me and let us have lunch 2moro.

Website design is a great skill that can make all those people envy you and wished they stayed at home.

Give me just 60 min tommorow and I am 100% sure u will leave a better person.

Please don't stay in this state. If it leads to Depression, u need a psychiatrist to get out of it and u know what dt means.

There is hope, I mean plenty hope.

Ginaz:
Sorry you have to feel this way, I was once in your shoes. I was a young chubby girl that wanted to become a lawyer, grew up feeling confused, studied a course in school I never heard of. Wasted my mom's time and everybody's time by going to a catering school and didn't stayed for long to see my graduation.

I was fuccked up, miserable and deadly unhappy. You are lucky you have parents who understood you. Mine didn't, it was shouts and war everyday.

Then I changed my mind set, life is a process not to be rushed. You have to take so many steps in life to find where you stand in it, sometimes you might fall, sometimes you literally don't have legs to walk on. For you to have a smooth pounded yam, it must be hit hard with a pestle.

Which means, a man has to be through some situations in life to be the best. O.p, if you see life like a race, you won't win. Instead see life like a plant, that needs to grow at its time. You can't plant a seed today and expect to see a tree none can you hurry it to grow faster than it can.

You should focus on your importance and achievements than worrying about your short comings and failures. See life like a journey, like a process, like a stages of a book, and be happy.

Now I don't get angry anymore, most importantly, I don't under value myself. I walk at my own space, and I don't let people compare me cos I know my worth. I'm currently learning sewing, taking my time at it. Exercise my body, sleep and wake up like every human being. I've never been happier.

Life no be fight, the fact that you got to your destination before me doesn't mean I won't get to mine.

aptly said. social media has a big part to play in all this feeling of depression u know.
alot of us have high dreams while in secondary school one thing DAT might seem to
me a mistake is that we add all our sec school friends on social apps like FB

in no time after graduation, u see some posting pics of admission, yet, u still struggling with maths, sometimes not DAT u dnt know it,but life.

before u know it, u see them graduating n puting on nysc after 4yrs, u look at urself uve not done anything tangible cos some odds have not been in ur favour

we refuse to try oda options, we want to join that education race n math up with our friends. just as u said, our personal life shouldn't be like a race rather a plant, ur seed can take long to germinate n grow faster, some germinate faster n grow slowly, while some will have best of both. d truth is, however how each tree groes it still makes part of d forest. one just have to grow at ones pace n stop using others to grow.

learning a skill too is good as ur doing, even me am considering learning one cos even tho I work, I wanna settle down with a skill someday.

Life is notorious for handing itself to us all in different doses. Even a set of very identical twins get it on different scale!

The first house on the street is not always the finest buddy...We all run different races regardless. Pls try to go and learn something crafty while waiting to take the next jamb, you would be better for it. I, for instance , the resident help , have seen it all. My little Sis earns almost thrice my salary ( I started work before her o). Same sis drives a lovely car and lives in a nice neighborhood, same sis always attracts good guys o, I had to drag same sis by the hair into doing her MBA by paying for her form...She of course got in before me! All my friends have kids that call me Aunty...Some of them call me my name like I no senior their mama sef oh, anytime a babysitter is needed, guess who get called? Whew! My married bestie had to stand with me the last time a bride threw her bouquet (hope I got the spelling) just so it ends in my hand I was pretty in school, I knew book, I was popular...All thought I would be doing better than I'm doing but... I'm still a happy girl, bubbly, twinkling and boisterous.

It is well. Life is really as easy or as hard as we take it. We can't all go at the same pace...Yeah, there's always someone Infront or behind you. Pls be of good cheer, concentrate on developing your positives and ensure you stay away from envy. Before you know it, you will acquire more useful skills than your contemporaries.

Airoflaw:
who says you need to go to school to b successful, guy I graduated last year no job till now but I have acquired some skills which is bringing me money ,I'm still acquiring more skill.... develop yourself...if you feel you need certificate go for some diploma courses

how far egbon, which skill u dey learn. make certificate sitdon somewhere

sisisioge:
Life is notorious for handing itself to us all in different doses. Even a set of very identical twins get it on different scale!

The first house on the street is not always the finest buddy...We all run different races regardless. Pls try to go and learn something crafty while waiting to take the next jamb, you would be better for it. I, for instance , the resident help , have seen it all. My little Sis earns almost thrice my salary ( I started work before her o). Same sis drives a lovely car and lives in a nice neighborhood, same sis always attracts good guys o, I had to drag same sis by the hair into doing her MBA by paying for her form...She of course got in before me! All my friends have kids that call me Aunty...Some of them call me my name like I no senior their mama sef oh, anytime a babysitter is needed, guess who get called? Whew! My married bestie had to stand with me the last time a bride threw her bouquet (hope I got the spelling) just so it ends in my hand I was pretty in school, I knew book, I was popular...All thought I would be doing better than I'm doing but... I'm still a happy girl, bubbly, twinkling and boisterous.

It is well. Life is really as easy or as hard as we take it. We can't all go at the same pace...Yeah, there's always someone Infront or behind you. Pls be of good cheer, concentrate on developing your positives and ensure you stay away from envy. Before you know it, you will acquire more useful skills than your contemporaries.

lool. kisses n hug.

ekanDamie:

lool. kisses n hug.

Thanks dear

ekanDamie:

how far egbon, which skill u dey learn. make certificate sitdon somewhere

3d &4d animation with video editing..
also using style to learn satellite installation and intercom installation... time no go waste searching for job where no dey

ekanDamie:

aptly said. social media has a big part to play in all this feeling of depression u know.
alot of us have high dreams while in secondary school one thing DAT might seem to
me a mistake is that we add all our sec school friends on social apps like FB

in no time after graduation, u see some posting pics of admission, yet, u still struggling with maths, sometimes not DAT u dnt know it,but life.

before u know it, u see them graduating n puting on nysc after 4yrs, u look at urself uve not done anything tangible cos some odds have not been in ur favour

we refuse to try oda options, we want to join that education race n math up with our friends. just as u said, our personal life shouldn't be like a race rather a plant, ur seed can take long to germinate n grow faster, some germinate faster n grow slowly, while some will have best of both. d truth is, however how each tree groes it still makes part of d forest. one just have to grow at ones pace n stop using others to grow.

learning a skill too is good as ur doing, even me am considering learning one cos even tho I work, I wanna settle down with a skill someday.

Ya, we refused to try other options. I had an experience last week though it's not something significant but I learnt a lot from it.

I bought water leaves and decided to plant some so I won't go to the market all the time just to get water leaf. I didn't know how to plant it, so I implore the help of my friend who knows how things like this are done and we got on to planting.

The sand was hard, very hard we had to water it first while at the corner was a soft sand. He said we should plant on the soft sand and forget using the area we had picked for the planting.

I said no, we should plant on the area we had cleared cos we wasted a lot of time on it. He argued that no, the softer one will grow faster. I said alright, let's plant on both.

1 month later, after fowls and chickens have raided my farm , just some was left. The ones on the hard soil grew faster and fresher than the ones on the soft soil. 2 months later, they gradually died and struggled to grow, I uprooted them last week and transfered them to the hard soil, they are showing signs of revival.

I learnt a lot from this experiment, we should not judge by outward appearances and also don't give up when we think things are gonna be hard, break through might be around the corner.

@ Op dear, I can really relate well with you.
I was one of the best in my class both in secondary school and in uni. Graduated with a good CPGA, wanted to work for a while to get the financial backup for my masters then(didn't want to bother my parents in paying for my fees after uni). But guess what, non of my plans were working no matter how much I tried to get a good job back then, all the jobs I was getting were paying peanuts, changed tactics in writing job application, sometimes I got invited to a dream job but may pass just one or two stages, at times after rigorous processes I wouldn't be called back, in fact in a particular job selection in which I thought I had landed a job of six figures pay, having gotten my employment letter, the company suddenly became bankrupt after my two weeks of resumption. At some point I started having this strange feeling of something being wrong with me. I shunned marriage proposals from numerous good suitors then, all in a bid to have financial dependence before settling down. I prayed, fasted, lived a decent life as a young lady but I wasn't making any headways. Social media was not helping matters, whenever I logged in , my friends and classmates were always uploading their achievements and lifestyles that I stopped using facebook,etc.,so as to maintain my sanity(honestly I was getting jealous), I kept questioning God. Year in year out, it was the same old story, eventually I met my husband, got married, today I have kids, have got my masters and other professional skills, practising my dream profession.

Why am I telling you my history? My years of struggle and depression taught me something,"Never compare yourself to anybody". When it is your turn to shine, so long as you keep your head up, nothing, no one can stop you. All you thought you lost during your years of famine, shall be restored to you in one full swipe, such that in that state, you may be ten times better off than your mates you were comparing yourself with.
Acquire skills, see if you can move your mum's business to another dimension as other posters had suggested while you keep writing JAMB if you so much desire paper qualification, but remember, you are in no competition with no one. Keep your head up, socialize freely with people and put God ahead if you are a Christian and do your thing. It's well

Everyone has their own time and season! Try to reevaluate why you can't pass the jamb and what you are doing wrong. Ask your parents to support you in getting lessons to sharpen you for the jamb. Research well serious jamb lesson centers focused on helping students pass well and not by expo. It could be that you have bad test taking strategies, prepare and create a working strategy. We all struggle at some point in life and we are meant to learn lessons! What have you learned from all your disappointments?

Are you able to count your blessings? You have so many blessings! You are young, healthy, intelligent, a first child, happy home, supportive parents, a roof over your head, food to eat, a job, design skills, loving and humble siblings. Focus on your blessings and not your failures and pick yourself up! Only learn not to repeat the errors you made in the past that caused your failures! These disappointment means you are not living up to your potential or making the required effort to get there! You could have gone into school and finished at 24 with pass or finish at 28 with first class! Have faith that God is preparing you for something better at YOUR appointed time!

lofty900:
Ur still a young man. A fool at 40 is a fool forever but u ain't 40 yet. U still have 16 years to go which means u can still be a great achiever.

Sorry, not forever bro.
A fool @40 is a fool indeed.
Better tnz can stl come out from 40. No hope lost yet.

Ginaz:
Sorry you have to feel this way, I was once in your shoes. I was a young chubby girl that wanted to become a lawyer, grew up feeling confused, studied a course in school I never heard of. Wasted my mom's time and everybody's time by going to a catering school and didn't stayed for long to see my graduation.

I was fuccked up, miserable and deadly unhappy. You are lucky you have parents who understood you. Mine didn't, it was shouts and war everyday.

Then I changed my mind set, life is a process not to be rushed. You have to take so many steps in life to find where you stand in it, sometimes you might fall, sometimes you literally don't have legs to walk on. For you to have a smooth pounded yam, it must be hit hard with a pestle.

Which means, a man has to be through some situations in life to be the best. O.p, if you see life like a race, you won't win. Instead see life like a plant, that needs to grow at its time. You can't plant a seed today and expect to see a tree none can you hurry it to grow faster than it can.

You should focus on your importance and achievements than worrying about your short comings and failures. See life like a journey, like a process, like a stages of a book, and be happy.

Now I don't get angry anymore, most importantly, I don't under value myself. I walk at my own space, and I don't let people compare me cos I know my worth. I'm currently learning sewing, taking my time at it. Exercise my body, sleep and wake up like every human being. I've never been happier.

Life no be fight, the fact that you got to your destination before me doesn't mean I won't get to mine.

Nah... What? U didn't write this.

joedesigns:
At 24 my life has no direction, I no longer believe in my childhood dreams.

I used to fantasize that I'll settle down before I turn thirty, but now all that just seem like a dream that will never happen.

Not that I was the Einstein of my class, but I was always among the top ten students in a class of over 60 students, everyone around me seem to have their life history carved out, everything seem to be working fine for them except me.

My younger brother whom I used to tutor in physics and chemistry while he was in SSS one, will be going for his NYSC this year, my little sister just gained admission last year; while I am still here waiting in line to take my sixth jamb form, at the same time helping my mother sell at her shop like I've always been doing for the past 7 years.


My parents are godly, And I know they'll be terribly disappointed in me, should they ever ever find out how frustrated and heart broken I am on the inside.

I'm just stuck in a never ending loop, no job qualifications, no skills acquired so far aside from the web and graphics designing that I don't even know where to make good use of without a degree.

If someone had ever told me years ago, that a once upon a time full-of-life and bubbling me, will ever be in this state of hopelessness; I would have laughed at such a fellow.



Although I do not feel suicidal yet, but I'm afraid I may soon find myself in such a situation, and it bothers me.



My life has no direction, I'm just stuck and stagnant, no growth!.

I always spend excessive amount of time wishing if I could turn back the hands of time to at least right my mistakes. Not that I led a life of promiscuity, in fact my mom and dad especially my dad often try to show off the good moral character they've imbibed in me.

But now I try as much as possible to stay clear from the public. A lot of my old time friends came this Christmas and they've already begun to go back to their individual stations. some who were apprentice are now masters, some are in their respective universities, one even invited me to her wedding.

Seeing how a lot of my old buddies where faring well, resurrected boatloads of jealousy I never knew was in me.



I'm just lost in oblivion, nothing excites me anymore. I just don't know where to start from at 24. I don't even know if I'll ever be somebody in life again.

There's a system apply for aptech and when you are done transfer to middlesex that way you don't need jamb and you can still serve for NYSC a lot of people did that. Also you can get a web design job without a degree however some companies will reduce your pay but you can. We have in our company

sisisioge:
Life is notorious for handing itself to us all in different doses. Even a set of very identical twins get it on different scale!

The first house on the street is not always the finest buddy...We all run different races regardless. Pls try to go and learn something crafty while waiting to take the next jamb, you would be better for it. I, for instance , the resident help , have seen it all. My little Sis earns almost thrice my salary ( I started work before her o). Same sis drives a lovely car and lives in a nice neighborhood, same sis always attracts good guys o, I had to drag same sis by the hair into doing her MBA by paying for her form...She of course got in before me! All my friends have kids that call me Aunty...Some of them call me my name like I no senior their mama sef oh, anytime a babysitter is needed, guess who get called? Whew! My married bestie had to stand with me the last time a bride threw her bouquet (hope I got the spelling) just so it ends in my hand I was pretty in school, I knew book, I was popular...All thought I would be doing better than I'm doing but... I'm still a happy girl, bubbly, twinkling and boisterous.

It is well. Life is really as easy or as hard as we take it. We can't all go at the same pace...Yeah, there's always someone Infront or behind you. Pls be of good cheer, concentrate on developing your positives and ensure you stay away from envy. Before you know it, you will acquire more useful skills than your contemporaries.

I love your positivity

Josephamstrong1:


Nah... What? U didn't write this.

I did, what's wrong?

Ginaz:


I did, what's wrong?

Vry inspiring dear.
Tot u controversial on Nl.

Airoflaw:

3d &4d animation with video editing..
also using style to learn satellite installation and intercom installation... time no go waste searching for job where no dey

you must have computer skills for this thingy. my interest is towards fashion n tech

joedesigns:
At 24 my life has no direction, I no longer believe in my childhood dreams.

I used to fantasize that I'll settle down before I turn thirty, but now all that just seem like a dream that will never happen.

Not that I was the Einstein of my class, but I was always among the top ten students in a class of over 60 students, everyone around me seem to have their life history carved out, everything seem to be working fine for them except me.

My younger brother whom I used to tutor in physics and chemistry while he was in SSS one, will be going for his NYSC this year, my little sister just gained admission last year; while I am still here waiting in line to take my sixth jamb form, at the same time helping my mother sell at her shop like I've always been doing for the past 7 years.


My parents are godly, And I know they'll be terribly disappointed in me, should they ever ever find out how frustrated and heart broken I am on the inside.

I'm just stuck in a never ending loop, no job qualifications, no skills acquired so far aside from the web and graphics designing that I don't even know where to make good use of without a degree.

If someone had ever told me years ago, that a once upon a time full-of-life and bubbling me, will ever be in this state of hopelessness; I would have laughed at such a fellow.



Although I do not feel suicidal yet, but I'm afraid I may soon find myself in such a situation, and it bothers me.



My life has no direction, I'm just stuck and stagnant, no growth!.

I always spend excessive amount of time wishing if I could turn back the hands of time to at least right my mistakes. Not that I led a life of promiscuity, in fact my mom and dad especially my dad often try to show off the good moral character they've imbibed in me.

But now I try as much as possible to stay clear from the public. A lot of my old time friends came this Christmas and they've already begun to go back to their individual stations. some who were apprentice are now masters, some are in their respective universities, one even invited me to her wedding.

Seeing how a lot of my old buddies where faring well, resurrected boatloads of jealousy I never knew was in me.



I'm just lost in oblivion, nothing excites me anymore. I just don't know where to start from at 24. I don't even know if I'll ever be somebody in life again.

Op it's never too late. Shit happens to everyone, it's just how we deal with It that matters.

https://www.nairaland.com/2822230/having-tough-time-academics-read
You can read up on that thread, it's very inspirational. You can't give up now at all 24 years is still too early, you never know what God has in stock for you.