i am married for 14months and had gone for test, results was ok. Right now i am under pressure from family to have a baby pls can you advice me on how to make my wife conceive ? i feel desperate each time i see kids as i was born on children's day .

The first step is for you to get your wife to check herself medically since you've done so already. Then you can take it from there.

Its so funny the way people take the issue of child birth personal like its oxygen.
Cant you wait and have hope/faith??
If your family is so desperate, then they should produce the child nah. Think of other thing, when its time, the child will come. Desperation will only weigh you down.

Since you and your wife have done the necessary checks and there isn't any medical issue.

Have faith and God would do it, he is the God of possibilities ànd impossibilties.

Justdulla:
Its so funny the way people take the issue of child birth personal like its oxygen.
Cant you wait and have hope/faith??
If your family is so desperate, then they should produce the child nah. Think of other thing, when its time, the child will come. Desperation will only weigh you down.

the irony is that it's also funny when people show empathy like this

b2klaw:
i am married for 14months and had gone for test, results was ok. Right now i am under pressure from family to have a baby pls can you advice me on how to make my wife conceive ? i feel desperate each time i see kids as i was born on children's day .

Being anxious is adding to the challenge.
Visit a good hospital or herbal clinic.

Na God dey give children.

sweettease:
the irony is that it's also funny when people show empathy like this

its too early...
go back to bed

Justdulla:

its too early...
go back to bed

lol... yes sir

Keep trying. It will happen at the right time.

Maybe you guys are doing it at the wrong time of the month, if all is well with the both of you, you need to start calculating her ovulation and make sure to get intimate during that period. You never know with these things but you might want to try this if you haven't already.

Its just one year and 2 months, you people should take it easy. Pray to God fervently and get to know when your wife is ovulation, she is more fertile when she is ovulating, go for several test, take fertility drugs. Download period calendar application to calculate her ovulation, it helps.

Cc: Thorpido

https://www.nairaland.com/318334/trying-conceive-child-ttc

Op, checkout this thread please.

If you and your wife have done a full work-up(seemen tests,hormonal profile,scans etc) and you are both given the all clear,I'll advise you just wait on God.He alone gives children.

You need to know your wife's ovulation period(find out if you don't).Make love from the 11th day of your wife's period and do it every other day until the 19th day of her period.

Try to take the pressure off yourself and your wife.

Interesting. Oga take it easy. If you are feeling this way, I wonder how madam will feel. Your despair will certainly rub off on her and it won't help your chances. Worry releases chemicals that does not help conception. You should be a shoulder she can lean on. Dont add to her pressure. Shield her from your family's pressure.

14 months is not such a long time. But I understand that for the average Nigerian Parent, 9months after wedding, they expect their first grand child.

A good thing the pressure is on the man and not the wife because it would have been too hard for her to take.

It could be anything: medical, spiritual, or the babies are still enjoying the other world it can also be just normal. I usually advice new couples to take atleast two years to plan their home and settle down before thinking of having children. It helps alot.

My advise is this:
First, take your mind off the worries. When you see kids, let it not bother you anymore.
Second, stand by your wife and encourage her as much as possible. You must never let her see or have the impression that you are worried about the issue. Infact, defend her openly before your family and friends ( be string in public and cry in secret)
Third, this is a good time to start planning for the kids because they will surely come. Make ready their nursery, plan for their education, and learn all you can about being a husband and a father( husband first and more importantly)
Fourth, Engage in Spiritual activities both as a couple and as an individual. But as a Christian, I know children are gifts from God. So, we shouldn't make it look like our lives depend on it. He will give you when you ask sha.
Fifth, I know most people don't like this, but you can adopt or bring in a young child to stay with you and take care of them as your own.

Finally, having a wife is far more important than children and your wife has a greater role to play in your life than children.

sweettease:
Maybe you guys are doing it at the wrong time of the month, if all is well with the both of you, you need to start calculating her ovulation and make sure to get intimate during that period. You never know with these things but you might want to try this if you haven't already.

Hmmmn professional ... pleas tell em ooo make e no go shoot over the bar

I'll like to ask you the following questions:

1. How often do you have Sex with your wife?
2. Do you guys just lie on each other during Sex or try different positions?
3. How long do you last in bed?
4. How much content do you ejaculate? What's the coloration?
5. Have you been having Sex solely to conceive?

Stop putting yourself to unnecessary pressure. It is not your fault neither it is your wife's fault. It is just the waiting period. Please celebrate yourselves and live your life to fullest. I waited for 8yrs before my kids came but in less than 2yrs, I was blessed with 3 kids. Our hands are full now! Help your wife to have faith n never stop praying together. "In the sight of GOD, there is fullness of Joy" "Non SHALL be barren in the land" These are just few out of the thousands of GOD's promises over HIS children. Bro, nothing do u!

Look unto God, when praying ask God to grant u ur request by his mercy

Afam4eva:
The first step is for you to get your wife to check herself medically since you've done so already. Then you can take it from there.

I just had an uber driver who told me that after 13 years his sister conceived triplets, 2 boys and one girl and she is pregnant again praying for a boy. I'm a woman of faith so I would say that that faith and prayer coupled with a doctor's advising is all you need. Despite her MIL accusing her of being a witch and asking her son to remarry so she could have grandchildren he vowed that marriage is for better or worse and he waited. So it will happen.

b2klaw:
i am married for 14months and had gone for test, results was ok. Right now i am under pressure from family to have a baby pls can you advice me on how to make my wife conceive ? i feel desperate each time i see kids as i was born on children's day .

Enjoy your marriage without worrying over this issue, it will come when God permits.