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How Our Parents Taught Us To Conquer Our Fears Those Days by xynerise: 6:09pm On Jan 24, 2017 |
There is something about giving your kids edge in difficult and controversial situations those days to face and fight their fears. Though we don't fight bloody using dangerous weapons and causing mayhem in the street, but we sure do know how to win "Wars" . My Dad would tell us " If you come back home crying that your age mate beat you up, you will not eat that day and you will get 12strokes of cane". Sometimes, even if the person is a older , he would say " Even if you can't beat them, at least give them a scar they will never forget" My parents would tell us that it is better for other kids' parents to come to our house to report us for beating the proteins off their kids than for them to do so. The interesting part is,after they finished reporting, my mum will kneel and apologise but that day will be special meal for the person that got the job done . Those days when we fight, we remember the reward at home and make sure we drop a "legacy" on your body Today's children na Akamu...my kids must have edges Share yours Lalasticlala 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Our Parents Taught Us To Conquer Our Fears Those Days by Nobody: 6:25pm On Jan 24, 2017 |
I am not understanding |
Re: How Our Parents Taught Us To Conquer Our Fears Those Days by Nobody: 6:25pm On Jan 24, 2017 |
My mama guilty. Made me strong. Lived every moment beating sosun eghosa kazeem and OBOYE boys. Now I'm cummando |
Re: How Our Parents Taught Us To Conquer Our Fears Those Days by xynerise: 6:29pm On Jan 24, 2017 |
Re: How Our Parents Taught Us To Conquer Our Fears Those Days by Ishilove: 10:19pm On Jan 24, 2017 |
I was never a fighter but what I lacked in fighting skills I more than made up with my mouth and pen In primary school I wrote my bestie Adesua the toddler's version of a hate mail. "I hate you," I wrote in her notepad. Of course she took the note to our class teacher who promptly forced me to erase it. I also spent break time kneeling down and facing the wall. I went home and reported to my mum who told me "sorry", and that was the end of it. I avoided fights but whenever I got into one, I was usually soundly beaten. I focused all my energy into writing stinkers to the jerks who beat me, and those times when I couldn't get the notes to them, I reported to my big sis who beat them for me. If they were bigger than her, she would help me abuse them thoroughly. When we got home, Mother would tell me 'sorry', and that was that. In time, my folks taught me that fighting is for riffraffs so it must be avoided at all cost. My dad would write letters (I got my flair for the pen from him) to the parents of bullies sternly exhorting them to warn their kids to leave me alone or otherwise face his wrath. He would also write to the school management to curb activities of bullies. This helped me a long way sha. At least I was never waylaid on the way again after his letters began pouring in. 3 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: How Our Parents Taught Us To Conquer Our Fears Those Days by uboma(m): 5:35am On Jan 25, 2017 |
^^^^ |
Re: How Our Parents Taught Us To Conquer Our Fears Those Days by sisisioge: 7:13am On Jan 25, 2017 |
I was a huge mouth while growing plus I have a residence muscle: my sis. We were a forced set of twins with only 18months apart. We shared friends and foes. Been in same class since pry 4! She was cubby and calm, I was skinny and fierce! If I get in a fight, it becomes her fight. Together, no one messes with us. Our mom was thus not worried about anyone beating us, her only worry was us killing each other. As closed as we were, when we both disagree...Na die o. We would beat each other up like kilode! The last physical fight we had before retiring was while we were in the university...We of course shared a room. We had an argument about the speed the ceiling fan should roll on that day, before you could say jack, we were fighting. She beat the heck out of me sha cos she had grown way bigger than me . It was as if trailer hit me by the time we were done! My then BF had to come and beg her not to beat me again. By the next day, she saw what she had done and pitied me....She apologized. She ended up nursing me for the several days I was off colour. Anyways, we retired from fighting others long before we retired from fighting each other. The people that knew me then are always awed by my coolness now. Even when I escalate issues for peeps now...I mostly don't break a sweat 2 Likes |
Re: How Our Parents Taught Us To Conquer Our Fears Those Days by xynerise: 7:52am On Jan 25, 2017 |
sisisioge: You be akamu pikin You may beat me up but I must make you a bleeder |
Re: How Our Parents Taught Us To Conquer Our Fears Those Days by Syphax(m): 9:06am On Jan 25, 2017 |
Ishilove:U get luck sey u no meet me, I for finish you with mouth |
Re: How Our Parents Taught Us To Conquer Our Fears Those Days by Syphax(m): 9:07am On Jan 25, 2017 |
cummando:Go slap army man first nah |
Re: How Our Parents Taught Us To Conquer Our Fears Those Days by Nobody: 9:11am On Jan 25, 2017 |
Syphax:Apayan! |
Re: How Our Parents Taught Us To Conquer Our Fears Those Days by sisisioge: 11:36am On Jan 25, 2017 |
xynerise: For where! No go try me then o...Two of us go finish you! |
Re: How Our Parents Taught Us To Conquer Our Fears Those Days by xynerise: 11:39am On Jan 25, 2017 |
sisisioge: With bite abi? |
Re: How Our Parents Taught Us To Conquer Our Fears Those Days by sisisioge: 11:41am On Jan 25, 2017 |
xynerise: |
Re: How Our Parents Taught Us To Conquer Our Fears Those Days by xynerise: 11:42am On Jan 25, 2017 |
sisisioge: E pass like that? |
Re: How Our Parents Taught Us To Conquer Our Fears Those Days by sisisioge: 11:43am On Jan 25, 2017 |
xynerise: Na like that...My set of teeth have always been a force to reckon with. |
Re: How Our Parents Taught Us To Conquer Our Fears Those Days by xynerise: 11:58am On Jan 25, 2017 |
sisisioge: I will first file those teeth flat before spanking you both |
Re: How Our Parents Taught Us To Conquer Our Fears Those Days by Ishilove: 1:01pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
Syphax:You are a learner |
Re: How Our Parents Taught Us To Conquer Our Fears Those Days by megareal: 4:32pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
xynerise: . This was my father o, a natural hothead where go enter military join. He didn't want a timid child at all. Mum was teaching us not to fight, caning us if we do, dad was giving us bottles to break someone's head if they find our trouble and beating the shi*&it out of us if we didnt. His words were '' break their heads, I will defend you''. The positive side was that his lessons were always to defend ourselves if attacked, he never advised us to go look for trouble. Truly, I learned to defend myself and siblings at a tender age and now have no fear to confront any situation. Pesin no fit slap me think say I go turn the other cheek o. Dem never born you. |
Re: How Our Parents Taught Us To Conquer Our Fears Those Days by xynerise: 4:42pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
megareal: My kind of woman . You sabi better thing jare 1 Like |
Re: How Our Parents Taught Us To Conquer Our Fears Those Days by Nobody: 6:02pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
oh my mum. After all the early morning devotions and sermons of being a good child. some kids my age were trying to bully me, I think I was 7 or so, I told my mum expecting to get sympathy from her and warn the kids off me but instead she scolded me for being a weakling. "if they insult you, can't you talk? if they slap you, you slap them back 10 times more". for a moment I was confused, but then her words gave me alot of confidence. Never got bullied again. 1 Like |
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