NL's help me out with this my bestfriend met a guy last year she's so totally into the guy until he told her that 2yrs ago he met a lady did introduction,and trad marriage to the lady he fortunately walked away cos he discovered he didnt love her.according to him he didnt go ahead with the church and court marriage.so pls is this guy married or not .ladies in the house wld u marry a guy like that cos my friend is gaga over this guy.pls i need ur opinion

yes he is. If he is a Nigerian, then he shd know the importance of the native law and custom. It takes precedence over the court and white wedding which some pple still see as a recent development.

if he is serious, he shd returen d bride price he paid on her.

What a question?

Ujujoan:

yes he is. If he is a Nigerian, then he shd know the importance of the native law and custom. It takes precedence over the court and white wedding which some pple still see as a recent development.

if he is serious, he shd returen d bride price he paid on her.

And how is he supposed to do that?

oh ok. I guess I meant he shd collect the bride price back. Pple do dat u know, go back to her family and demand the bride price back. Its the official way of dissolving a traditional marriage.

Ujujoan:

oh ok. I guess I meant he shd collect the bride price back. Pple do dat u know, go back to her family and demand the bride price back. Its the official way of dissolving a traditional marriage.

Even though na 1kobo?

Ok if na 1kobo e fit dash dem sha!



But on a more serious note, the amount is irrelevant. He has to collect it back if he's not marrying d girl again.

no, he is not married. after 2 years i think the engagement is as good as null. married people divorce without having to do any formal nullification of the traditional rites. they are free once the court says so, so i guess he's free since he wasn't legally married. however, the honourable thing to do would be to go to the other girl's family and officially tell them he is not engaged to her anymore (if he didn't do that already).

How can he be married when he walked away.

@ GL

Dont decieve urself. Traditinal marriage is as good and legal as any other marriage. @ least the customary courts recognize it.

There is nothings like null and void, except i pass throughn the nornal preocess.

Ujujoan:

@ GL

Dont decieve urself. Traditinal marriage is as good and legal as any other marriage. @ least the customary courts recognize it.

The only legal marriage is the one performed at a Registry or authorized Church. Traditional marriage is a custom and tradition of some tribes and clan in the society. It is not binding by law and its dissolution is only handled by laymen at the customary courts.

la amour:

NL's help me out with this my bestfriend met a guy last year she's so totally into the guy until he told her that 2yrs ago he met a lady did introduction,and trad marriage to the lady he fortunately walked away cos he discovered he didnt love her.according to him he didnt go ahead with the church and court marriage.so pls is this guy married or not .ladies in the house wld u marry a guy like that cos my friend is gaga over this guy.pls i need your opinion

Na wa ooh--- so he jilted his bride to be---- IMO, he did not get married YET because there is no legal documents showing or documenting anything.

^^^ i know, thats just plain evil and embarrassing. He introduced himself to the girl's parents and everything like that. What madness!

It wouldn't have been so bad if they had just done the introduction, but traditional marriage as well? Well, all I'm gonna say is, she should be on guard emotionally and mentally.

When did we get so "whiteish" in our thinking?

Traditional marraiges ar REAL.

For example, church weddings ar not recognised in d court of law if its nt backd up by a certificate from d registry, but we knw the spiritual implications of a church wedding.

The same goes for traditional marraiges, all the things exchanged during such marraiges ar symbols/evidence of d union.

Lets not deceive ourselves, the aim of traditional marraiges is to join a couple nd different spiritual steps ar taken to ensure that.


I suggest dat Mr loverman finds out how traditional marraiges ar dissolved so he cud take d neccessary steps, else he mite be physically married to ur fwend whyl spiritually married to someone else¤¤ The spiritual alwaz takes precedence over the physical.

Traditional/White weddings are not real WITHOUT A LEGAL DOCUMENT from the courts/Registry.

@poster

Opinions about what?

na wa o

i just want to find out if she shld go ahead to marry him suppose he takes the rite steps to disslove the trad marriage ladies i want to know if u can marry a guy that has such issues.another thot comes to mind if the other lady refuses to disslove d trad wot dn happens

we are african traditional marriage is as good being married with or without white wedding

la amour:

i just want to find out if she shld go ahead to marry him suppose he takes the rite steps to disslove the trad marriage ladies i want to know if u can marry a guy that has such issues.another thot comes to mind if the other lady refuses to disslove d trad wot dn happens

Well first of all, she has to put into consideration why he is leaving his first wife in the first place. Because as far as am concerned, she is his wife. It's like marrying a divorcee.

If its too complicated then I wont advice her to go there. There is a saying where I come from . .  'broom wey dey take sweep first wife dey for kitchen dey wait for second wife'.  I just think she should be really careful.

But then again, people do make wrong choices the first time . . .

la amour:

i just want to find out if she shld go ahead to marry him suppose he takes the rite steps to disslove the trad marriage ladies i want to know if u can marry a guy that has such issues.another thot comes to mind if the other lady refuses to disslove d trad wot dn happens

traditionally, i doubt that the lady has much say in such matters. afterall, men used to simply send their wives packing without any form of alimony or legal divorce proceedings. besides, many nigerian traditions are supportive of polygamy so i guess there's nothing traditionally wrong with marrying one woman after paying the bride price of another.

^ ^

Ok so now you are talking about polygamy. That dosent make your first wife to stop being your wife. If he wants to marry her as a second wife he should just say it.

But traditionally, he is still married to her. So if he wants to leave her, he shd do it the right way. If he is marrying someone else, then it becomes polygamy.

believe it or not, in Nigeria you dont brek up a traditional marriage 'verbally'.

He is married.

If he's not interested, he should go back to the girl and her family to dessolve the whole thing and redeem his bride price.

Failure to do that exposes him to the wrath of the woman and the gods.

If that girl naked dance for am. . . na madness be dat oh

@ poster

mmm u know wat i think?
This guy is tryin to warn ur friend o if she like let her claim to be deeply madly in love but reckon the guy is tryin to make her know he can do a runner anytime. Tell ur friend to thread softly i can smell rotten fish 

whitelexi:

He is married.

If he's not interested, he should go back to the girl and her family to dessolve the whole thing and redeem his bride price.

Failure to do that exposes him to the wrath of the woman and the gods.

If that girl unclothed dance for am. . . na madness be dat oh

hmmmm

jejelolatu:


church weddings ar not recognised in d court of law if its nt backd up by a certificate from d registry,

posakosa:

White weddings are not real WITHOUT A LEGAL DOCUMENT from the courts/Registry.

That is not correct. Church weddings are legal if performed in [b]authorized [/b]churches, Orthodox churches like the Anglican Diocese of Nigeria, the Church of England, the Baptist Convention, Methodist and the Catholic Mission worldwide. These churches are licensed to marry. Their marriage certificate is binding under the law and can only be dissolved in the High Court of Justice.

Only Penticostal Churches(new generation churches) all over the world, that are not licensed to perform marriages require that the couple first of all be legally joined together at the Registry. A lot of people don't know this and these churches would not tell their members that they are not authorized to perform marriage ceremonies. So they suggest the couple get married at the Registry first and come in for a Church blessing. The plain truth is they are not licensed to marry and the marriage certificate issued in such churches is null and void except backed by the one from the Registry.

Married.

He is as single as single cld be.

All they did was fed some dudes that likes to drink ogogoro and feed those that are hungry with free food.