In the world of marriage, there is nothing like total perfection. There can be high level of understanding, but it depends on how the couple handle words, actions and other sensitive matters that can provoke misunderstanding. Love is true and real, but there are things that can reduce or destroy love in a marriage.


In love, you need understanding, hard work and tolerant, because things will not certainly turn out the way you might suppose it to be sometimes. Arguments usually occur as we are human beings, no matter how we may claim to love. There are things you should avoid doing during argument, in other to save your marriage because most divorce is provoked through argument:

1. Don't always try defending yourself.

“Oftentimes when we’re defensive, we’re reacting to a wound we have received previously in life. It’s not uncommon for things we are defensive about as adults to relate to dynamics from family of origin. The paradox of intimate adult relationships is that we tend to choose partners who will evoke some of those very same frustrations and pains. It’s the work of an individual to understand where the need to become defensive originates from and address those underlying hurts and needs. It might not actually be your partner who is such a threat. Tuning into your own internal vulnerabilities is the first step to addressing, and preventing, the need for defensiveness.” ― Liz Higgins, a marriage and family therapist in Dallas, Texas

2. Try not to increase the sound of your voice.

“When you feel defensive, you have an instinctual urge to raise your voice. This comes from thousands of years of evolution. When you raise your voice it makes the other person feel more fearful and puts you in a dominant position. But you don’t want to make your partner feel ill at ease so instead of raising your voice, try to deliberately lower it. This will make you less defensive and make your partner less defensive, too. And you’ll be surprised how much better your......READ MORE: http://kingsleyiwu..com/2017/04/7-things-that-can-lead-to-divorce-in.html

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