oyetpel:


Marriage is really tough, am scared.

I appreciate people like you and @OP that speaks out.

what are you appreciating in them
God forbid
They better go for deliverance because their spiritual wives is dealing with them
Fall out of love ke? Mtcheeee

StephDamielola:


It means "I love you"

And yes, when they want to climax, they scream NAKUPENDA

i dey suspect you oo, how did you know all this oo

I don't want to call you a big fool to avoid being looked down at.

blovesther:
what are you appreciating in them
God forbid
They better go for deliverance because their spiritual wives is dealing with them
Fall out of love ke? Mtcheeee

Miss perfect, i appreciate them so that i can learn from their mistakes before i marry.

So marriages have gone wrong and you are blaming op because he spilled his own out?

If not that we are Africans, do you know how many divorce Westerners undergo because they fell out of love from there partners?
Here you are blaming an African man that is thriving to put his home together.

do you have a gun? if yes take it out point it at your head then hang

buskie13:
hahahaha

it's not mungwongoti,it's nkubonti,it's a south African drink according to Yvonne ChakaChaka

Nkunbonti, Hmmmm . The lady that actually mentioned it said she wasn't sure of the spelling.

Thanks.

VicMadich88:
Evry relationship hs its ups & downs..and every1 in the relationship hv their pro's & cons...she isn't a saint in tht sense, bt she's a good girl. I cnt bring her to SA bcz she dsnt wnt to relocate...Keep me in ur prayers bro's..tht she changes her mind and we try work it out.

The temptation here is too high, there's lots of beautiful, intelligent, humble & God fearing woman ths side...an the more shs nt wit me...the more I get weak.

I pray she changes her mind Bro.
Why don't you explain everything to her & make her see reasons why you want her to relocate to SA

Lolz

StephDamielola:
I just pity for that Virtious Woman.... Truly you don't deserve her type.

You deserve those SA girls with big hips that drinks mungwongoti


Truth be told, you are seeing another Woman. YOu are just looking for excuses to justify your crazy thoughts

i love this piece but only a woman can write this.

Let her know this now before it is too late. People like you will definately fall for the wrong person at the end. That's why I love KARMA

You are as confused as thé calabash with which your village people are remoting you.

Reject it ans live!

VicMadich88:
I met my wife (very beautiful, humble Igbo gal) in 2012, and we've been datin since then. We both from Imo State...

On tht same year we met, I moved to south Africa to study an still residing in SA. I see her twice a year, and she visits SA as well. We got married ths past February, and few days after our wedding, I had to return.

But now I feel I made a very big mistake by marrying her, not because she's bad for me bt because I've realized I'm not in love with her anymore. I don't know wat to do, she's such a wonderful lady. God fearing, sings in the church choir, young and beautiful.

How should I let her know that i'm not in love with her anymore? I'm scared of the embarrassment my parents will bare with all of this? Our pastor at church? Her family? I don't believe in divorce, so are my parents...but what do I do in this situation?.

I'll not abuse you, you have your reason and your right, but it's a pity you are hurting her so bad.

Pls send me her number, i have humble, kind hearted man that'll appreciate her like a woman should be loved and treated. You're not being fair to her.

d devil is screwin wit ur brain man! beta wake up b4 u realize is too late!

Dear VicMadich88 . Before tying the knot wit her, you ought o have resolved the relocation part. You two need to be together. You lack companionship (good communication and friendship) and good sex . At least one of the two must be present. When both is missing in any marriage, all other good qualities might not save the marriage.

Your first assignment is to get her to change her rigid stance on relocation, judging by what you have written here, she has not given any SENSIBLE reason to justify why she has not relocated to be with you. I see many comments here have been throwing sticks and stones at you partly because you didnt clearly outline the problems at your first post. Your subsequent posts somewhat makes it appear your wife is still yet to grapple with the meaning of marriage.

Once a lady gets married her nuclear family composition changes to her husband and her. A wife who says she doesnt want to be with her husband outside the country so she can be in Nigeria with her family members is CLOWNING and needs a marriage seminar or training. She should relocate PROMPTLY and thereafter you two can work out ways so she can still be in close contact with her FORMER nuclear family members.

All the church conference brouhaaha should wait, she should attend your church and be attending conference in your church in SA. BE A MAN, and take a stand in your marriage.

If after a good persuasion she doesnt change her stance with no SENSIBLE reason, she is either not yet ripe mentally for marriage or probably she is playing you and not in love with you.

StephDamielola:


Yes!

though i might not have spelt it correctly but i lived there for some years....


When it comes to Hips, Bro they got it... But when they get older, they suffer rheumatism due to the heavy butt load..

So to the OP, think about the pains she will put you through when she gets older and stick to your Naija Wife ok

Really!
Una no go kill pörzin 4 NL

Don't want to say what is on my mind after reading through this. Honestly!

LOOK FOR A STRONG ROPE AND HANG YOURSELF!

fejeerow:
See what I was telling a friend the other day... people don't value virgins and decent girls anymore... they want the badgirl that will give then bj, doggie style and their ass.... isn't obvious this man is seeing someonelse that is turning his head... you don't believe in divorce then what do u want us to advice you on? Do u want to murder her so you can escape her? U better bring back the love and make your wife the bad girl u want her to be but foe u alone.. don't go and make decisions that u ll regret.

ohhhhhh milady! I'm an exception coz I still value virgins like anything. Don't generalize, i could however be skilled in turning a decent girl into a 'baddo sneh'

StephDamielola:
I just pity for that Virtious Woman.... Truly you don't deserve her type.

You deserve those SA girls with big hips that drinks mungwongoti


Truth be told, you are seeing another Woman. YOu are just looking for excuses to justify your crazy thoughts

Make God open your eyes to see exactly where u r heading to. If you think she not good or beautiful enough, make her beautiful. It's simple, take her out to a boutique and shop sexy things. Check her out very well before you lose ur juwel. I pity you wey find good thing, want drop am for a decayed one...tufiakwa

When you wanted to marry her did you come on NL to announce you wanted to marry her? Now you no longer love her you come here to disturb our lives, Nonsense! People like you think marriage is a walk in the park, rosy all the time. Wake up and smell the coffee, there are times you will not feel the love you have for your spouse, but the friendship shared keeps you going. It's your job to rekindle your love for yoursef, or do you need the NL community to rally round, buy christmas lights, connect the lights to a socket or switch to spark up your marriage for you? Mscheewwwww! Mr man get to work and put in the work in your marriage, forget those fingerlings distractions you probably have entangled yourself with. We are not stupid not to know you skipped the fact that you have distractions and away matches from your story.

Everyday is a Bank account & Time is our currency.No one is rich,no one is poor,we all have same 24hrs each.

You will learn to love her with time. Na so e de be. But keep away from negative friends. Good luck.

StephDamielola:


It means "I love you"

And yes, when they want to climax, they scream NAKUPENDA

UR COMMENTS ON THIS TOPIC IS EPIC ND FUNNY.CAN'T STOP LAUGHING....

Lionessza:






Lol yeah Pepsi is like wine . Yeah the dude seems to have it all , looks , brains,manners and that classic smile . Hahahaha no ways not casper.

Lol yeah hey.

eagleonearth:
i dey suspect you oo, how did you know all this oo

I live there small na.... Lol

oyetpel:

Miss perfect, i appreciate them so that i can learn from their mistakes before i marry.

So marriages have gone wrong and you are blaming op because he spilled his own out?

If not that we are Africans, do you know how many divorce Westerners undergo because they fell out of love from there partners?
Here you are blaming an African man that is thriving to put his home together.

hmmmmmm

Your funny niga, keep working on yourself and your marriage, believe! You will find that love again. You seem weak talking bout this, nobody forced you to get married and she wasn't forced on you. Y do u want to fall your own hand? Go for counselling.

StephDamielola:
I just pity for that Virtious Woman.... Truly you don't deserve her type.

You deserve those SA girls with big hips that drinks mungwongoti


Truth be told, you are seeing another Woman. YOu are just looking for excuses to justify your crazy thoughts

love your message. Are you taken? Nice pics

There may be more to this. Confide in ur Pastor, spiritual angle might b necessary too. Provided u r not cheating on her.

The major problem here is the distance between the couples.

Op please divorce her.....it is better to divorce her now and both of you find happiness.....than keep her and remain miserable for the rest of your life.

Good you came out clean

#respect

SURElee:
When you wanted to marry her did you come on NL to announce you wanted to marry her? Now you no longer love her you come here to disturb our lives, Nonsense! People like you think marriage is a walk in the park, rosy all the time. Wake up and smell the coffee, there are times you will not feel the love you have for your spouse, but the friendship shared keeps you going. It's your job to rekindle your love for yoursef, or do you need the NL community to rally round, buy christmas lights, connect the lights to a socket or switch to spark up your marriage for you? Mscheewwwww! Mr man get to work and put in the work in your marriage, forget those fingerlings distractions you probably have entangled yourself with. We are not stupid not to know you skipped the fact that you have distractions and away matches from your story.

and if after putting all the work his feelings does not change, can he then leave her?