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The foundations of your union (if marrying her) would be crooked. You guys are NOT compatible, and as much as you like her, it will NEVER work. Best leave now, as you guys have clear different views on important life issues.

Sure future FAILED marriage.

MrBrownJay1:
The foundations of your union (if marrying her) would be crooked. You guys are NOT compatible, and as much as you like her, it will NEVER work. Best leave now, as you guys have clear different views on important life issues.

Sure future FAILED marriage.

But don't you think motivation can can help correct number 1 above? And experience and exposure the second and the third move somewhere far away. Trust me she is a good girl.

The bible makes it clear that we should not be equally yoked with unbelievers - that sorts out your belief on marrying people of other faiths.

But on the issue at hand proper, I would advise you both go your separate ways. Too many compability issues. If you end up marrying each other, there will be too many issues which could end the marriage.

Fiyinfoluwa20:


But don't you think motivation can can help correct number 1 above? And experience and exposure the second and the third move somewhere far away. Trust me she is a good girl.

If someone isn't motivated because of some dream or paradise, then all her energy will focus on such. Paradise is her aim in life, you are just helping her in getting a pleasant ride to get there. Only a person having the same mindset, as hers, can be happily married to this lady.

Being "good" isn't in question here, you guys just have different views on important issues, thus you will always have confrontations, where people who are in synched never do.
You are trying to do what many have tried and failed miserably.... The only this can last the is if you expect one of you to be making all important decisions while the other shut up (even if/when they disagree).... Aka be miserable in your union

When reality sets in....

dingbang:
When reality sets in....

Wettin come happen?

Fiyinfoluwa20:


Wettin come happen?

regrets are born.... Why didn't you discuss all these when dating?

abescom:
The bible makes it clear that we should not be equally yoked with unbelievers - that sorts out your belief on marrying people of other faiths.

But on the issue at hand proper, I would advise you both go your separate ways. Too many compability issues. If you end up marrying each other, there will be too many issues which could end the marriage.

I am sorry, the world is so big so much that we must just be diverse. We have to inter Mary. Before the Bible our fathers were very happy to marry from within their tribe without the distinguishing appellate of this religion or that. So, that quote does not work for me. Marry anyone so long you are happy and hey give you peace irrespective of religion. Marriages with similar religions are not exempted or absolved from divorce- the greatest predicament that could face a marriage.

So, religion is not a major factor here.

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dingbang:
regrets are born.... Why didn't you discuss all these when dating?

She knows I am not too religious, but we decided to keep it going anyway. I am not asking her to change my religion, just need her to have a re-orientation about things like that and reduce the potential conflict that may arise from such in the future.

Fiyinfoluwa20:


She knows I am not too religious, but we decided to keep it going anyway. I am not asking her to change my religion, just need her to have a re-orientation about things like that and reduce the potential conflict that may arise from such in the future.

yes or no, did you discuss it with her when you both were dating?