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Can Children Be Mentored By Absentee Dads? by uncletoks1: 2:38pm On Jan 17, 2010
In this era of career taking precedence over family and with dads often away from home, would it still be possible for children to be impacted by their dads?
Re: Can Children Be Mentored By Absentee Dads? by iice(f): 3:39pm On Jan 17, 2010
Some of the ones present have no impact so it's not that relevant.
People just like to believe that 'presence' and only that counts for something major undecided
Re: Can Children Be Mentored By Absentee Dads? by uncletoks1: 4:18pm On Jan 17, 2010
With due respect, 'presence' only may not count for something major but, it certainly counts! Besides, if presence does not count, the effect of absence is best imagined.
Re: Can Children Be Mentored By Absentee Dads? by Sakeenath: 6:17pm On Jan 17, 2010
Presence is necesary. No matter how nonchallant d dad is, he'ld still have an impact in upbringing. God provided children wt 2 parents coz He knows its best.
Re: Can Children Be Mentored By Absentee Dads? by coolier(f): 6:38pm On Jan 17, 2010
Depends on how long and how often he's away from home. If for short periods of time, Yes. If all of the time, No.
Re: Can Children Be Mentored By Absentee Dads? by iice(f): 1:10pm On Jan 18, 2010
uncletoks1:

With due respect, 'presence' only may not count for something major but,  it certainly counts! Besides, if presence does not count, the effect of absence is best imagined.

What use is the presence if nothing really comes out of it? Or worse, only the worse comes out of it?
On the contrary. . .the effect of absence is not 'best' imagined.  There are those with absent fathers and it's not so minuscule a number. There are too many absent even when present cheesy
Re: Can Children Be Mentored By Absentee Dads? by uncletoks1: 3:26pm On Jan 19, 2010
What use is the presence if nothing really comes out of it? Or worse, only the worse comes out of it?
On the contrary. . .the effect of absence is not 'best' imagined. There are those with absent fathers and it's not so minuscule a number. There are too many absent even when present'

If you are really convinced that being present counts for nothing, find out from responsible single female parents if they'll rather not have the dads at home!
Re: Can Children Be Mentored By Absentee Dads? by iice(f): 2:56pm On Jan 20, 2010
uncletoks1:

If you are really convinced that being present counts for nothing, find out from responsible single female parents if they'll rather not have the dads at home!

Unlike some people. . .i don't talk just to talk cheesy I know quite a few people, both male and females who would rather have not had their dads or even moms at home.
Re: Can Children Be Mentored By Absentee Dads? by uncletoks1: 3:59pm On Jan 20, 2010
quote author=iice link=topic=382991.msg5354391#msg5354391 date=1263995779]
Unlike some people. . .i don't talk just to talk cheesy I know quite a few people, both male and females who would rather have not had their dads or even moms at home.
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Hey, you must be kidding. By the 'some people' weren't 'talking' but writing! tongue Besides, the problem might be with those males or females who'll rather not have their parents at home; maybe the parents' positive impact is not palatable, as is usually not.
Re: Can Children Be Mentored By Absentee Dads? by kingdcval: 4:05pm On Jan 20, 2010
hey wats up people.its not compulsory dat children must be
Re: Can Children Be Mentored By Absentee Dads? by Tsiya(m): 11:56pm On Jan 20, 2010
This golden age parenthood psycologist and therapist have succeeding in infesting our brain that Dads really matter in children lives. Dads are just monsters that scares the shit out of us. Sorry Dad. I read recently in UK they are even going to introduce ante-natal classes for prospective Dads.
Re: Can Children Be Mentored By Absentee Dads? by GL(f): 2:36am On Jan 21, 2010
iice:

Some of the ones present have no impact so it's not that relevant.
People just like to believe that 'presence' and only that counts for something major undecided

iice:

What use is the presence if nothing really comes out of it? Or worse, only the worse comes out of it?
On the contrary. . .the effect of absence is not 'best' imagined.  There are those with absent fathers and it's not so minuscule a number. There are too many absent even when present cheesy

iice:

I know quite a few people, both male and females who would rather have not had their dads or even moms at home.

i couldn't have said it better.
Re: Can Children Be Mentored By Absentee Dads? by Tgirl4real(f): 8:41am On Jan 21, 2010
@topic,

It's gonna take a lot more to make it work. It's a lot work when around not to talk of absentee dad
Re: Can Children Be Mentored By Absentee Dads? by uncletoks1: 11:40am On Jan 21, 2010
Tgirl4real:

@topic,

It's gonna take a lot more to make it work. It's a lot work when around not to talk of absentee dad

I cannot more than agree with you!!!
Re: Can Children Be Mentored By Absentee Dads? by Ambber(f): 12:40pm On Jan 21, 2010
Absentee Dads are 'sperm donors'. It is God and mothers that take care of childrengrin

If in doubt, ask the US president shocked
Re: Can Children Be Mentored By Absentee Dads? by Shinatu: 1:08pm On Jan 21, 2010
Ambber:

Absentee Dads are 'spermatozoa donors'. It is God and mothers that take care of childrengrin

If in doubt, ask the US president shocked


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Re: Can Children Be Mentored By Absentee Dads? by beknown(m): 1:11pm On Jan 21, 2010
This question is not clear because an absentee Dad can take different forms in the modern day:

1. Temporarily absentee Dad who is out to fetch food for the home, cares for his family and pay the bills.

2. A permanently absentee Dad as a result of divorce but provide care for his children through legally agreed arrangement.

3. A permanently absentee Dad who has ran away.

4. A permanently absentee Dad who only donated sperm to facilitate pregnancy.

Etc, Etc.

Please be specific about the absentee Dad.
Re: Can Children Be Mentored By Absentee Dads? by ageboy: 1:38pm On Jan 21, 2010
they are in the hands of God lipsrsealed
Re: Can Children Be Mentored By Absentee Dads? by minute(f): 1:55pm On Jan 21, 2010
Can children be mentored by  Absentee deadbeats? undecided undecided undecided

Are you serious?
Re: Can Children Be Mentored By Absentee Dads? by uncletoks1: 2:13pm On Jan 21, 2010
beknown:

This question is not clear because an absentee Dad can take different forms in the modern day:

1. Temporarily absentee Dad who is out to fetch food for the home, cares for his family and pay the bills.

2. A permanently absentee Dad as a result of divorce but provide care for his children through legally agreed arrangement.

3. A permanently absentee Dad who has ran away.

4. A permanently absentee Dad who only donated spermatozoa to facilitate pregnancy.

Etc, Etc.

Please be specific about the absentee Dad.

I'm referring to the first type; should we even consider the last 2 types as dads?
Re: Can Children Be Mentored By Absentee Dads? by uncletoks1: 2:16pm On Jan 21, 2010
Ambber:

Absentee Dads are 'spermatozoa donors'. It is God and mothers that take care of childrengrin

If in doubt, ask the US president shocked

Donating outside the house or inside?
Re: Can Children Be Mentored By Absentee Dads? by otukpo(f): 2:22pm On Jan 21, 2010
THE PRESENCE OF A RESPONSIBLE FATHER IS VERY IMPORTANT
Re: Can Children Be Mentored By Absentee Dads? by beknown(m): 2:34pm On Jan 21, 2010
@Poster,

A father who is temporarily absent from home for work purpose cannot be classified as an absentee dad. Do you expect a responsible dad to be present at home all the time?

A responsible dad can mentor his children from anywhere depending on the arrangement he has made for his family.

Work patterns differ from one dad to another in the present age. A dad who stays at home all the time could be classified as a loafer, unless he is working from home.

A hardworking and responsible dad will pass on the traits to his children, whether he is at home or not.

Physical presence at home does not make a dad a good mentor.
Re: Can Children Be Mentored By Absentee Dads? by jaybee3(m): 2:41pm On Jan 21, 2010
how is he gonna do the mentoring?
over the phone?
physical presence is key
Re: Can Children Be Mentored By Absentee Dads? by r231(m): 2:45pm On Jan 21, 2010
jay bee:

how is he gonna do the mentoring?
over the phone?
physical presence is key


it works for some pple cheesy cheesy
Re: Can Children Be Mentored By Absentee Dads? by TOPE20001(f): 2:47pm On Jan 21, 2010
iice:

Some of the ones present have no impact so it's not that relevant.
People just like to believe that 'presence' and only that counts for something major undecided

Hmmm . . . . u damn rite.
Re: Can Children Be Mentored By Absentee Dads? by Ninapha(f): 3:31pm On Jan 21, 2010
poster, you failed to define the degree of absenteesm you were emphasizing on.

Anyway, in a case of a career father, who is in the same house with the children, he may mentor the children if he sees it as a priority.

But for a father who probably is in another country, it may not work effectively and these are the reasons.

Mentoring a child is more of shaping the attitude,giving orientations on issues, inculcating family values etc. and these can be achieved through correction, advise and living an examplary life.

Children mostly learn by observation so when the degree of absenteesm is high, the children take the likes of the person close to them especially in character and attitude to issues of life.
Re: Can Children Be Mentored By Absentee Dads? by Wrex(m): 4:20pm On Jan 21, 2010
it depends.is he absent all the time?
Re: Can Children Be Mentored By Absentee Dads? by koolchicco: 5:01pm On Jan 21, 2010
ageboy:

they are in the hands of God lipsrsealed

Gbam!!

@Topic

It works somehow! undecided
Re: Can Children Be Mentored By Absentee Dads? by Nobody: 6:43pm On Jan 21, 2010
@ loadz of posters whose minds are in real syn.

Please where are the Nigerians well brought up in a good family to save this thread from going into state of reset, I'm kind of surprise to hear africans saying the presence of fathers or both mothers aren't rellevant, I think most people on nl needs to ask most african americans (mostly single mothers) why they need fathers to get more involve in their childrens live or vice versa.
According to statistic by (loveourchildrenusa.org), that children from single mothers especially african americans are likely to commit crime, take drugs, and being incarcerated.

I think most people living in Nigerian will acknowledge the importance of Nigerian, Because to most Nigerians living abroad 'job/mortgage> Children's morality/education etc.
Re: Can Children Be Mentored By Absentee Dads? by Nobody: 6:48pm On Jan 21, 2010
@ iice kind of people.

Please before you talk please indicate whether you were brought up from a single mother/father or cheating father or you even being single mother, And also if you respect Mother&Father living together as the best environment to bring up a child.

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