emusmithy:


Matrimonial room or bed DOESN'T connote the bed they both sleep, mind you.
It's an idealistic attachment they both share.

So a man can cheat with a girl on his couch and not on their "matrimonial bed" ?

Marriage bed is with both couples wherever they go.

The bed they share isn't as sacred as the faithfulness they live by.

shumuel:


This is the first time i would ever disagree with any of your comments @boldeds.

Yes, we all agree he should had knock which courtesy demands but lets not forget even OP(Iyayi) pointed out the fact that he could had thought she was still at the lines, which was outside, and also in respect to the above point he was going to meet his brother, who he thought was alone; this is brother for pete's sake, someone he had know all his life even before the wife came into the famiy,, would she had been bothered about knocking if it was her own sister ? I think not.

Lets not also forget ''shock'', yes shock, that was probably what happened to the BIL, seeing someone unclad and acting action film under the bed would definitely make him froze, why ? Because it was unintentional,, if the BIL wants to see her unclad, he would had been a ''peeping tom'', and not right in front of his brother, Think!

I will like you ladies to stop basing everything on gender violations, and we men are not your enemy, so please don't let your judgement beclouded.

sisqology:
Op... If you're the one on your profile, then I don't know what you're covering

PaperLace:
I would have thought secondary schools are on mid term break, going by some juvenile comments here.

OP, you reserve the right to feel the way you feel. I will feel the same way. It's worrying that he comes into your matrimonial room without knocking, you didn't set the boundaries before now. He even stood there apologising, apologising while staring at your unclothedness and your husband didn't react? Nawa!!

It should hurt that your husband dismissed it like that. He isn't expected to kill his brother, but I expected him to show more seriousness. They both don't have any much respect for you.

Call the brother and warn him sternly never to enter your room, with/without knocking. He shouldn't even come close to your room. Try to forget about it, I can imagine how you feel _it's normal, but you'll be fine.

iyaayi:
My live in brother in law of whom we are agemates barged into my room unannounced this morning. I was totally naked & had to dive under the bed from the shame & shock.

He stood there apologising that he didn't know i was in the room (we had met outside by the clothes line a short whiule ago).
The most painful part is that my husband who was lying in d bed in the room didn't find it necessary to utter a word.
When I confronted him, he said that shebi his brother had said 'sorry'
I really don't know what to do. I feel let down by hubby's reaction & also ashamed about the whole incident.
pls good folks, what do I do to redress the situation. thank you

richyblink1:


Kindly read well or get a recommended glass. I am male for your information, and married as well. My younger brother dare not enter my room without knocking, not to talk of standing after seeing my wife naked. Except he wants to explain his real intentions towards my wife

richyblink1:


Kindly read well or get a recommended glass. I am male for your information, and married as well. My younger brother dare not enter my room without knocking, not to talk of standing after seeing my wife naked. Except he wants to explain his real intentions towards my wife

Caustics:
what do you want him to do? kill his brother? What is done is done. No need making a mountain out of a mole hill. Escalating it will only make you feel more ashamed. By the way how old are you? cuz after a certain age people seeing you naked shouldnt bother you this much.

My Nigga.

Chanchit:
You no gree wait make he see full view before you dive enter under bed, and he didn't know you were even there, so if to say ur husband na those mumu husband, na so you go say make he chase the guy komot.

johnson232:

Honestly whether he walk's away or stay to deliver his message is the same thing, the mistake has already been done. For me, it was more prudent of him to apologize & deliver his message, instead of rushing out like a kid without apologizing...

U women read unwarranted meaning to everything, it is not as bad as the way the op is putting it....

johnson232:

Lol...Do ladies hide human head in their rooms....

This issue of knocking is somewhat subjective & depends on the relationship....often times i don't knock before entering my sisters room...the door is even always open, just with a door curtain hung on it...

richyblink1:


How did people like this end up here. You referred someone's wife as a bitch. Speaks volume of your background

richyblink1:


Kai!! People dey ooo! So I should give my brother a medal for foolishly entering my room without respect. Or issue him a cheque for still standing after noticing my wife is naked.
Ony'isi, ndewoo

Caustics:
what do you want him to do? kill his brother? What is done is done. No need making a mountain out of a mole hill. Escalating it will only make you feel more ashamed. By the way how old are you? cuz after a certain age people seeing you naked shouldnt bother you this much.

Delphi:
Young lady @iyaayi, you don't need to worry cos 'nothing spoil'. I can bet or vouch that you brother-IL did not see anything. I know, to you, he saw you unclad but for me, due to the momentariness/swiftness of the action he wouldn't comprehend what he saw. That is the situation of things. He stood there for some time because he was stupefied. Let me give you two examples; if you've gone to the mortuary, you see dead bodies in their unclad state but true to fact your brain wouldn't comprehend/amuse at their unclad state due to the queerness of the mortuary situation. Secondly, someone involved in an accident may suddenly run amok and people will hold him in place. At that point in time, the victim doesn't know/comprehend what he does. @iyaayi, these illustrations are to let you know that you BIL didn't enjoy your unclad state. Also, he stood there for awhile apologizing because he lost control of any other voluntary action to execute rather did what (apologies) his brain thought best at that time. Your hubby who was there understood the situation at it's best and hence he dished out the best judgmental action. So, cool your temper madam, you're still intact.

amokeme:
I read some comments on NL and I wonder the kind of women that raised this men or how dilapidated the family they come from or grew up in must be. Or what kind of role model fathers they had while growing up

iyaayi:
My live in brother in law of whom we are agemates barged into my room unannounced this morning. I was totally naked & had to dive under the bed from the shame & shock.

He stood there apologising that he didn't know i was in the room (we had met outside by the clothes line a short while ago).
The most painful part is that my husband who was lying in d bed in the room didn't find it necessary to utter a word.
When I confronted him, he said that shebi his brother had said 'sorry'
I really don't know what to do. I feel let down by hubby's reaction & also ashamed about the whole incident.
pls good folks, what do I do to redress the situation. thank you

MissIndependent:
Any man should knock when entering a ladies room locked or not.

richyblink1:


So you mean the brother in law standing there after noticing his elder brother's wife is naked is cool?
What happens to him walking away so she can cover up before coming to apologise.

Anextin:
My dear, it has happened, just talk to ur bil to always T knock and wait for response before stepping foot ever again into ur room whether u are present or not. Remember when my bro who's living with me entered our room early morning, he called me, and I answered expecting him to say what he wanted, instead he just opened the door and my hubby just finished............, anyways, I told him in no certain terms not ever again try such. I don't remember to lock my room when going out let alone when am home, nah, everyone knocks, wait for response before entering our room. And I also extend same courtesy to my bro before entering his room, though I don't wait for answers most times, I knock and enter,, Sorry!!!!

iyaayi:
My live in brother in law of whom we are agemates barged into my room unannounced this morning. I was totally naked & had to dive under the bed from the shame & shock.

He stood there apologising that he didn't know i was in the room (we had met outside by the clothes line a short while ago).
The most painful part is that my husband who was lying in d bed in the room didn't find it necessary to utter a word.
When I confronted him, he said that shebi his brother had said 'sorry'
I really don't know what to do. I feel let down by hubby's reaction & also ashamed about the whole incident.
pls good folks, what do I do to redress the situation. thank you

emazy10:

This one na talk?

richyblink1:


How did people like this end up here. You referred someone's wife as a bitch. Speaks volume of your background