Hey. Please just wanna know if my girlfriend's mum to ask about how much I earn? she even went to the extent of telling me to take her to my place of work without she having anything to do there. Ever since my girlfriend introduced me to her, she has tend to have dominating influence over our relationship. Sometimes, I try to free myself and be the man of my relationship by disobeying some of her wishes but it doesn't go well with my girlfriend most times. Other times, I just do her wishes in other not to look rude to her.
Please, just want to know to what extent my mother-in-law to be have control over the relationship, what extent of info am I obliged to give to her, and how do I appear not to be rude when going against her will and wishes.
Thanks

SHE SOUNDS Desperate

She need to be sure who shes giving out her daughter to

MAJOR RED FLAG!!!!

Dude....run!

JeffreyJamez:
MAJOR RED FLAG!!!!

Dude....run!

I concur

first , she isn't your mother inlaw at least not yet.


secondly u need to man the hell up , if u ain't comfortable with something , just say it.

the heavens won't fall

baba no dey form over familiarity with her.she will surely be a pin in the ass Wen you marry her daughter xo how you handle this matter now determine wat WIll happen wen you decide to take your gf as a wife

You never marry and them don dey form issues..

E be like i will buy big tv with my marriage money sef..

Run away from such relationship.
If you eventually marry her, your mother inlaw will still control you.
do not ignore the red flag starring hard at you now.

What is her business with how much you earn?

It's Not Polite At All..... That's Rubbish Na..

YOLO1:
Hey. Please just wanna know if my girlfriend's mum to ask about how much I earn? she even went to the extent of telling me to take her to my place of work without she having anything to do there. Ever since my girlfriend introduced me to her, she has tend to have dominating influence over our relationship. Sometimes, I try to free myself and be the man of my relationship by disobeying some of her wishes but it doesn't go well with my girlfriend most times. Other times, I just do her wishes in other not to look rude to her.
Please, just want to know to what extent my mother-in-law to be have control over the relationship, what extent of info am I obliged to give to her, and how do I appear not to be rude when going against her will and wishes.
Thanks

well, in my opinion; if the man is taking good care of her said daughter and the mother in law to be still ask such question then, that is a RED FLAG as that shouldn't be her call if her daughter did not complain. furthermore,the man involve should be careful. don't get use by such family.

oga ade run as fast as u can o...dnt even lookback while running

I would tell the girl plainly that I don't like her mum's attitude.

Guy, run! These are major red flags that you should take heed of now. Not the one that you'll get married now and start complaining about the very same thing that you noticed during courtship. It's even worse that she tends to get upset when you refuse to do her mother's bidding. Be wise!

Speaking from experience

Check out this thread and see why you should not trivialise issues such as this. This could be you, but it's not your portion https://www.nairaland.com/3846446/please-want-file-divorce-asap. It's not every time we should learn from experience. Let's learn from others too.

Hope you know if you go ahead and get married, that union cannot last.

It's even understandable if it was the girlfriend doing all that, but for the mother to be so intrusive?
Yoir life will be made a living hell, especially since the girl sees nothing wrong

Better pick race, the woman wan reason your mata

JeffreyJamez:
MAJOR RED FLAG!!!!

Dude....run!

Gbam!!!

YOLO1:
Hey. Please just wanna know if my girlfriend's mum to ask about how much I earn? she even went to the extent of telling me to take her to my place of work without she having anything to do there. Ever since my girlfriend introduced me to her, she has tend to have dominating influence over our relationship. Sometimes, I try to free myself and be the man of my relationship by disobeying some of her wishes but it doesn't go well with my girlfriend most times. Other times, I just do her wishes in other not to look rude to her.
Please, just want to know to what extent my mother-in-law to be have control over the relationship, what extent of info am I obliged to give to her, and how do I appear not to be rude when going against her will and wishes.
Thanks

If anyone should be concerned about your salary, it should be your gf and not her mom. It looks like the girl is also immature

JeffreyJamez:
MAJOR RED FLAG!!!!

Dude....run!

Big red flag. The woman has no right whatsoever. Stop picking her calls often. Stop relating so much with her. Take a stand and maintain it. She is OUT OF LINE

For more emphasis, that's a major major red flag. Yes, she might want to inquire about your ability to take care of her daughter, but that route and manner she took is a big issue, as her poke nosing will only get worse

when are u ready to leave the bondage u call relationship. msheeeew some guys can be too soft haba, you are seeing a red flag and u are still there. better dump her daughter for her ASAP.

dnt even talk about love, Abeg u can do without her, trust me.

YOLO1:
Hey. Please just wanna know if my girlfriend's mum to ask about how much I earn? she even went to the extent of telling me to take her to my place of work without she having anything to do there. Ever since my girlfriend introduced me to her, she has tend to have dominating influence over our relationship. Sometimes, I try to free myself and be the man of my relationship by disobeying some of her wishes but it doesn't go well with my girlfriend most times. Other times, I just do her wishes in other not to look rude to her.
Please, just want to know to what extent my mother-in-law to be have control over the relationship, what extent of info am I obliged to give to her, and how do I appear not to be rude when going against her will and wishes.
Thanks

The mother is trying to confirm if you can take care of her daughter after marriage but the way she goes about it is wrong. What is your lady's take on the 2 issues you raised above?

I was in shoes years back. Thank God I heeded advice of good people around me dumped my then gf. I am happy for it today. Run while you still can.

I was in your shoes years back. Thank God I heeded advice of good people around me dumped my then gf. I am happy for it today. Run while you still can.

Dude...you are seeing the red flags and you still seeking advice from Nairalanders? It seems you have no love for yourself, your family and your unborn kids if you eventually get married to your girlfriend.
The 1st Red flag : Your girlfriend sees nothing wrong in her mother's actions, and even quarrels with you whenever you subtly refuse her mother's bidding..is that one a girlfriend? She cannot even stand up to her mother and defend you, which invariably means she can't stand for herself, make her own decisions and stick by it whether her mother approves of it or not.
The 2nd Red flag : Why would your gf mother enquire about your income and even had the effontery to come to your place of work..who does that.?
Dude..whether you go ahead with the relationship or not is your cup of brew, peeps advising you to man up and stand by your decisions do not have your best interest at heart, because if you eventually marry the girl, the mother will still influence you by proxy through the daughter.
RUN AS FAST AS YOUR LEGS CAN CARRY YOU MAN!!

I trust d op wont run as advised. In 4 years time he go open thread to lament about hin marriage.

Your girl did a very bad job when she told her mum about you, so I blame her first. The truth is most concerned parents ask their daughters questions concerning finances, family background, etc, so I blame her mum, for asking you a question she could have easily asked the daughter. I won't advice you to just run away. Confront your girl and tell her how you feel about the whole thing, if possible insist that she relates to her mum your take on the matter. Observe their response and subsequent reaction towards you. Your girls personality and stand will also come into consideration, can she tell her mum to back off if need be? Take your time, do a sincere assessment and make your decision. Good luck

OP have you watched "THE FLASH" ? Do you see the way he RUNS ?

That is the same way you should RUN for your dear life.

YOLO1:
Hey. Please just wanna know if my girlfriend's mum to ask about how much I earn? she even went to the extent of telling me to take her to my place of work without she having anything to do there. Ever since my girlfriend introduced me to her, she has tend to have dominating influence over our relationship. Sometimes, I try to free myself and be the man of my relationship by disobeying some of her wishes but it doesn't go well with my girlfriend most times. Other times, I just do her wishes in other not to look rude to her.
Please, just want to know to what extent my mother-in-law to be have control over the relationship, what extent of info am I obliged to give to her, and how do I appear not to be rude when going against her will and wishes.
Thanks

Na wa for u oooo ..... Marriage and relationship is meant for a Man not a Boy .....
So, Man up to your GF and tell her No, her mother doesn't have any right to poke nose into your personal and private life .... If she vex, Dump her ass .....

Men are suppose to be king to their in laws not a slave ........


Me, I will dump the gf the very first time the mother ask me such a nonsense, stupid mother in law don't deserve me in their family!!!

Dump your girlfriend, she is a potential control freak and a mummys' girl.

OP..that you have noticed the trend to put it up here alone gives you the red flag...please we dont want to see a similar thread 3 years later saying you are fed up with your marraige because of MIL influence ooo... take heed bro