DON'T BE DECEIVED

Do Nigerians still remember the lady in black, who was on social media, about how her kids were yanked off her by police to unknown destination? The husband's side of the story is below.

It's a bit long note please.

"Fellow Nigerians, my name is Kayode, and my attention has just been recently drawn to a panic message originating from Jane Tubotamuno Oba (formerly Kayode), over the social media regarding the whereabouts of Asiwaju and Emijuwon Kayode.
The facts are as follows:
Jane and I have been divorced by an order of court since September 2014 in a suit in which I was the appellant.
The custody of Asiwaju and Emijuwon were awarded to me in order to allow them resume their education with me in France and to allow Asiwaju complete a specialist medical surgery she had been billed to undergo prior to me and Jane falling out.

After the high court judgement, I made several phone calls and emails to Jane to willingly release the children for me in line with the court order. She refused.
She instead filled a motion for stay of execution at the high court and was refused. She proceeded and filled a motion for stay of execution at the appeal court, a team of three justices unanimously threw out her motion for incompetence and lack of merit. She then proceeded to file a 4- page appeal while I responded with a 44-pages counter document. All these are presently before the court of appeal.

It is a trite knowledge in law that the pendency of an appeal is not tantamount to a stay of execution, there was no stay of execution order regarding the custody matter as at 15th June, 2017 when I took custody of my children.

I have written more than 14 emails to Jane at several times asking her to willingly release the children in their best interest and in deference to the order of court. She proudly declines saying the courts can say whatever they wish, but nobody can take her children from her.
9. In November, 2016, I visited Nigeria and I met with Jane and her lawyer, pleading with them that I am willing to compromise and waive my rights to the custody of the children under condition I would be allowed access to my children. Here attached are the concessions I offered and sent to Jane’s lawyer for review and signature.

"Date: November 21, 2016 at 6:30:55 PM GMT+1

To: “aliunalawchambers@yahoo.com” <aliunalawchambers@yahoo.com>

Subject: Preamble
Preamble

The judgement of the high court remains sacrosanct which gave a definitive order of divorce between Jane and I.

Also the judgement of the high court remains sacrosanct which gave custody of Rachael to Jane

These two items are not being contested at the appeal court and should remain as is.
The judgement of the high court further grants me the custody of our biological children; Asiwaju and Emijuwon, this is what is being contested at the high court and this is the perimeter within which the current concessions should hold.
Agreement for welfare of Asiwaju and Emijuwon
1. I will put the children in school in Nigeria and be fully responsible for their school fees and sundry educational needs (computers, excursions, books etc) as opposed to taking them with me to Saudi Arabia to benefit from my company sponsored schooling.
2. I will provide them with clothing and age appropriate toys and accessories
3. I will provide them with communication accessories to allow them access to me
4. They would spend their Christmas and Summer vacations with me and I would be responsible for all cost associated with it as against taking them to be with me on expatriation and enjoying annual company sponsored vacations.
5. These concessions by me would allow Jane to free up more of her resources in order to have more resources to attend to other welfare items of the children as well as for herself."

Jane never got back to me regarding my conditions since it didn’t bring direct cash into her hands even though it would meet the critical needs of my kids. After meeting with Jane and her lawyer and the concessions I had made, I asked to be allowed to at least see my kids before traveling back to my base, they refused. I had been on the begging side to have access to my children even though I have the legal right to their custody and there is no pending order of stay of execution.

Despite refusing me to see my kids, I sent a text to Jane from the airport to send me their shoe sizes so I could buy and send them some shoes. Jane called and asked me to rather send the money so she could buy it for them. I declined her request. I’m sure you can recognize that this is the same phone number she put out on the Internet to contact her. I then bought an Etisalat teen pad (easy click) with phone card and loaded with 6,000 naira phone credit and sent to Jane through a taxi for onward transfer to my children. Since then (Nov-2016), the children never called me once and the several calls I placed to that line even on my son’s birthday were not answered neither returned.

On 22nd May, 2017, Jane sent me text as shown. She asked for money for children school fees and informed me that the children are out of school. I asked her to send the school account number but she never did just because it wouldn’t result to cash in her hands. She had been expecting I would send the cash to her, she however started pestering me with phone calls at inappropriate hours to which I expressed my displeasure.
Every offer I have made to attend to the kid’s critical needs without placing the direct cash in Jane’s hands have been refused. I renewed my determination to enforce the court order granting me custody of the children as a result of Jane’s text that my kids are out of school. No responsible man would hear such and not act.

As a useful background, I have been working and living outside Nigeria as an expatriate petroleum engineer with multi-national companies since 2011, first in Europe and in the last 3year the Middle East. My employment conditions as an expatriate provides company cover of expenses of world class international education for all my children, as well as coverage of vacation expenses for each summer break. This is what Jane has been denying the children of. Their passport which she shamelessly posted on the Internet expired in 2013 meaning my kids have not had any vacations outside Nigeria for at least the last 4years. These are children that used to have at least 2 vacations per year.

On July 15, 2017, the Police acted squarely within court order to retrieve my kids from Jane. I could post the court order here but for news that the police may likely sue Jane for intentionally misleading the public and irresponsibly maligning the police force, hence I do not want to delve into that. I’m however sure the police would provide the court order for whoever is interested and asks for it. To be sure, the order clearly stipulates the use of force as well as possible arrest and detention of Jane until she abides by the custody order of the high court.

Fortunately for her, she didn’t fight back while I took my kids from her, hence her arrest and detention became unnecessary. I was present at the scene of execution and had a few reassuring words with Jane. It is falsehood for her to claim she does not know I’m the one that came for my kids.
In addition, on the 21st June, 2017, I sent Jane a warm email request shown below. Instead of replying to my email, she went on public tirade to deceive people that she doesn’t know who the children are with.

"Date: June 21, 2017 at 10:10:04 PM GMT+1

To: Kayode Jane <tuboskay@yahoo.co.uk>

Subject: Schooling enquiry for our children

Hello Jane,

I hope you are doing well, the children are doing well and they send their regards.
By my estimation Asiwaju should currently be in jss1 and going to jss2. I was surprised when she told me she is in basic5 and explained that they missed a session of school due to non availability of school fees.
I am now in the process of enrolling them in my company provided world class international school, but I am not sure whether she is truly in basic5 as claimed.
The school admission process requires their last 2year’s of academic records. Could you please send me scan copies of both kids last 2years of academic records in order to help me push them to the next class.
In the absence of this information, the children risks been asked to repeat their current class, this would be very unfair to them and may cause them a lot of grieve when they grow up and find out, especially since they are already 1yr behind their peers academically, they shouldn’t be allowed to miss another year.
Jane please put bitterness aside, I see you now go to church very well, and send me the requested information just in the interest of the children. I am honestly extending a hand of fellowship to you so as to maintain a cordial communication for the sake of these lovely children. You are and would continue to be their biological mother, my goal is not to deprive you of them, but to give them the good life I have the means to afford for them. Once they become successful and useful in life, it would inevitably rub off on you.
I am hoping you would quickly send me the requested documents in other to get them back to class asap
Regards"

As a digression, I have noticed one Helen Oba posing as a friend to Jane, she has been the chief if not only conspirator and collaborator of Jane’s willful lies. I want the public to know that Helen Oba is Jane’s senior sister (and about 40years old) and they live together under the same roof…….both living together with their mother who herself has been living away from her husband for more than 30years. This same house was rented by me for Jane’s mother in 2009 and I paid two years of rent. Jane is shamelessly touting herself as Jane Kayode (instead of Jane Oba) just to deceive the public and to hide her identity as been the sister of the Helen Oba. Take note that Janes’s original video made no mention of her status as a divorcee, she opened up on that only when the ever vigilant public took her story to the cleaners.

In conclusion, Jane knows exactly where her kids are- they are with their biological father as ordered by the court, I retrieved them quietly in Jane’s presence from the rickety taxi she put them in and ushered them into my waiting air conditioned chauffeur driven Sienna. My children have now started a new and much better life. I have even communicated Jane by email, as shown earlier, greeting and reassuring her while extending the children’s regards.

Jane till now has not responded to my email requesting for the children’s academic records. It is unimaginable why instead of responding to my email, Jane took to social medial to spill my children’s photos, names and international passport, asking Nigerians to be frantically looking for kids who are not missing. Imagine if we had been seen, embarrassed and accosted, imagine how unsafe that becomes for the children to visit or move around within Nigeria either alone or with guardians.

Dear Nigerians, I know we are ever eager to fight injustice in any shade, but Jane has taken your zeal for granted and surreptitiously enlisted you in an unjust search for children who she knows where and how to find. I would really appreciate that should you see my children anytime in the future, please do not raise any alarm neither call Jane. The children are in the safe custody of their father and Jane Oba already knows that and also knows how to reach me.

Jane has wickedly violated our children’s right to privacy and severely restricted their ability to make public appearances anonymously within Nigeria. By her actions, anyone who sees them now would pay undue attention, and that could be embarrassing for them and their guardians at the least and pose a security risk at the extreme.

For 5 years Jane has denied me access to my kids even after the court granted me their custody, and I did not go on social media but quietly pursued my course in the courts. Now just 1 week after taking legal and genuine custody of my children, she goes on an irresponsible public rampage. That’s shameful. The courts are there should you have an axe to grind.

Finally, while it is right to be vigilant to assist the needy who cry for help, I also think that we should have a mechanism to reprimand those who wittingly and deceitfully enlists us in ignoble struggles. Jane has used the social media irresponsibly in this matter and she should be told.

Please help me to circulate this so that all those looking for my children could desist from such. Asiwaju and Emijuwon Kayode are not missing, they are in safe custody of their father.
I thank you for your attention.

Could you please circulate this for me with the hash tag

#pleasegivemykidsprivacy"

Akinloye NG