I have a colleague who is so stressed and ‘sick’ and need to take some time off to rest. She is not willing to take time off because according to her she won’t even be able to take the rest she need at some as the kids won’t let her be plus she still has to do the usual house chores. I then advised her to take an holiday somewhere like Northern Ireland and relax for like 3 nights, she laughed it off saying I should not even think of it as her husband will never allow such.

I do take holidays alone, my husband takes holiday alone and then we also do take holiday together with the kids so it was kind of funny to me that a man will not allow such. She is a very hard working and responsible lady and me think she deserves some private time to relax her head.

Is it really not proper please?

There is totally nothing wrong with taking a well deserved vacation,from what you have written she deserves it.
I think she should come to a compromise with her husband,and decide who will take over her duties

Baybbootz, to some extent i agree wiv you. But to talk of who takes over her duties: u c marriage from a biz point of view.
As for me, personal holidays above 3 days is not my type. Temptations are plenty. Promiscuity. . It all depends on perfect knowledge of ur partner. .from the husband's side, the wife's side, even from children's side. Is there any need going into details?

maybe i do.
cause i feel one partner is being cheated out.Am sure the dude would take his own deserved vacations with out any obstruction.

Dearie,
you'll make a mean women rights activist.

Dearie,
you'll make a mean women rights activist.

oh ok.
That is besides the point though,not the issue at hand.

I personally do not see anything wrong with it. She too might not be comfortable with her husband doing it though. That's probably why she will not consider it.

A woman can take a short holiday with her girls. C'mon, the man and family needs will strangle you eventually. Day in and day out you are only looking out for the family. 3 days in a calendar year to relax and have fun is not going to make heaven fall.

I do take holidays alone, my husband takes holiday alone and then we also do take holiday together with the kids so it was kind of funny to me that a man will not allow such. She is a very hard working and responsible lady and me think she deserves some private time to relax her head.

Lucky you. Holiday alone in a strange city when you are married woman.

is that what you did in Dubai? you alone.

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Lucky you. Holiday alone in a strange city when you are married woman.

is that what you did in Dubai? you alone.

I went to Dubai with my husband and kids, that was a family holiday but we do take personal holidays. We have no prob with it absolutely

There's nothing wrong in a wife/mother wanting to take a holiday alone, but then some husbands might not allow it. His religion might forbid it or his principles against it. Different strokes for different people!

Nothing wrong with that in principle. Its all about the personalities of the individuals concerned. Loose people are loose everywhere, even in church while straight folks will avoid corruption no matter where they are. I've had occasion to find myself lodging in seedy hotels on my business trips. What I see doesn't move me, not with what I came for looming large.

There's no wrong or right answer in marriage affairs as each marriage is unique, has a different foundation and principles. Each man should do just works for him or her.

I've gone on short vacations with my besties, SIL's and alone. Truth is, I didn't really enjoy it so much and ran back home as I missed my boys at home.

How about finding someone to babysit the kids for the three nights and the lady and her man should go together, lawd knows I need to get away from my baby and be alone with my man . Now that is the real sh1t!

Once in a while, i take a weekend off. Away from kids, husband, family, work. I go to like a spa, eat all the junk food i want to eat and read books especially detective books and just lounge. I don't even receive phone calls except just to check on the progress at home. My husband is not a big fan but i need to be able to decompress after so much stress. I still go on family holidays and also go on romantic weekends with my husband. However, the best time is just me, my jacuzzi, sweet red wine, snacks and a good book. Heavenly.

That is me sha. Not everyone is the same.

Do to others what you can accommodate

G