i am 27 years and marrying the one i love (couple of months away) but i am so worried about disappointing him because i have made him wait for 3 years and i know i have nothing to offer with regards to expertise. What can i do as this will be my very 1st time with a man.
too many thoughts are going on in my head, a good advise will be most appreciated.

If he knows you are a virgin and that he would be the first man you have ever been with, then there is no cause for alarm. He knows and expects that from you and as such he will not be disappointed in you. Rather he would/should appreciate the virtue and honour you have brought for him. You both are supposed to learn about it together in Love, not from someone else who is not part of your union. He should be proud of you not disappointed.

Good advice there tech. Lady thanks for keeping your virginty in a world where sexual immorality is being celebrated. Your man will love you for that and have so much trust and respect for u. never u see yourself as inferior because u kept yourself all this years. You have everything to offer. when the time comes you will see it come out naturally in you. I MARRIED MY WIFE AS A VIRGIN AND FROM THAT DAY TILL NOW ITS BEEN AN EXCITING SEX LIFE FOR BOTH OF US so dont just allow that worry to intimidate u. I love and trust my wife so much that i cant trade her with anything. She is a virtous woman. we were friends for over two years and we never had sex until after our wedding. This is what the grace of God can do. God bless your marriage.

i think you'll get beter advice in the family section

There are a few books you can read that can prepare you. If you were in the states I would have found some for you. I think he finds you sexy anyway so just be yourself. Relax and enjoy yourself. If you are tense it can ruin it for the both of you.

kolopin:


i am 27 years and marrying the one i love (couple of months away) but i am so worried about disappointing him because i have made him wait for 3 years and i know i have nothing to offer with regards to expertise. What can i do as this will be my very 1st time with a man.
too many thoughts are going on in my head, a good advise will be most appreciated.

If yu have kept yourself this long because you are just doing it for you, then read books and watch films about it, to learn some of the techniques you would be using on your husband, you can even, like a lot of recalibrated-virgins we have out there, allow your man or an impassionate bystander, volunteer to explore you and practise everything but penetration BUT if you are keeping yourself for God, stop thinking about it and let this thread die, otherwise you are committing fornication (which I think is a sin, from the little I know from the Bible sha)



From a religious viewpoint, the mind is a battlefield, so if you are a religious person doing this for God, and don't wanna score null-point for your effort, take your mind off it. When you get to that bridge, you will cross it



_{Definition of recalibrated-virgins (Obviously not keeping their body as a holy temple to God, but just for themselves) :- Virgins who have read every book and manual and watched every film and documentary about intimacy, and have had every hole in their body stuffed at one point or the other, and who are skillfully adept at licking, sucking, etc, but still have their veejay intact and undefiled, reserved solely for those they are gonna marry}

Busy_body:

_{Definition of recalibrated-virgins (Obviously not keeping their body as a holy temple to God, but just for themselves) :- Virgins who have read every book and manual and watched every film and documentary about intimacy, and have had every hole in their body stuffed at one point or the other, and who are skillfully adept at licking, sucking, etc, but still have their veejay intact and undefiled, reserved solely for those they are gonna marry}

Lol Brilliant!

ibkaye:

Lol Brilliant!

Busy_body:


If yu have kept yourself this long because you are just doing it for you, then read books and watch films about it, to learn some of the techniques you would be using on your husband, you can even, like a lot of recalibrated-virgins we have out there, allow your man or an impassionate bystander, volunteer to explore you and practise everything but penetration BUT if you are keeping yourself for God, stop thinking about it and let this thread die, otherwise you are committing fornication (which I think is a sin, from the little I know from the Bible sha)



From a religious viewpoint, the mind is a battlefield, so if you are a religious person doing this for God, and don't wanna score null-point for your effort, take your mind off it. When you get to that bridge, you will cross it



_{Definition of recalibrated-virgins (Obviously not keeping their body as a holy temple to God, but just for themselves) :- Virgins who have read every book and manual and watched every film and documentary about intimacy, and have had every hole in their body stuffed at one point or the other, and who are skillfully adept at licking, sucking, etc, but still have their veejay intact and undefiled, reserved solely for those they are gonna marry}

abegi . . .we all know everybody thinks about sex jo(even if they dont they should ). . .even if you're not doing it, it's what's in your heart that counts esp with God. . .

@poster
relax and learn. . .it's supposed to be fun. . .when y'all get married you'll have time to play catch-up. . .

You kept it for your man, girl, 100 thousand gbosa for you. be relaxed, when the time comes, the wild animal in you shall take over, no one taught Adam and Eve, so just be calm, you ain't the first virgin to get married and you won't be the last.

If your man does not appreciate you, let me know, I'm going to come give him some dirty slaps on your behalf [size=4pt]joke[/size]

netotse:

abegi . . .we all know everybody thinks about intimacy jo(even if they dont they should ). . .even if you're not doing it, it's what's in your heart that counts esp with God. . .

@poster
relax and learn. . .it's supposed to be fun. . .when y'all get married you'll have time to play catch-up. . .

wide of the mark son, wide of the mark

ibkaye:

Lol Brilliant!

Even that was too graphic for me ^{a whole mother of 19} to post, come and see the way my hands were shaking

netotse:

abegi . . .we all know everybody thinks about intimacy jo(even if they dont they should ). . .even if you're not doing it, it's what's in your heart that counts esp with God. . .

But seriously speaking, should they be thinking about it if they are saving themselves for God? What if they keep fantasising about what they are going to do with their bethrothed, and then end up not getting married to the same person? Abi how many times are they gonna sin by fornicating and going to beg God for forgiveness, since a sin is a sin?


I remember then when I became born-again, then would sin and every Sunday without fail answer the altar call for people who wanted to repent and be born-again and re-dedicate their lives to Christ, after dong this for a few months, the Pastor called me aside and told me I didn't have to be cming out every time i sinned, that I should just pray in my heart for God to forgive me This left me feeling so confused, [s]guess thats the reason i'm a backslidden Christian[/s]

Busy_body:

Even that was too graphic for me ^{a whole mother of 19} to post, come and see the way my hands were shaking

Liar

ibkaye:

Liar

Serious, my err. . . err . . . Mum mustn't even caught me online at this time, its way past my bedtime, she says when I am 14 years old, i can stay up as late as i want You are lucky they let you stay up this late even though you are still only 13

Busy_body:


Serious, my err. . . err . . . Mum mustn't even caught me online at this time, its way past my bedtime, she says when I am 14 years old, i can stay up as late as i want You are lucky they let you stay up this late even though you are still only 13

I am nothing of the sort young one

Now run along and get me a sandwhich

ibkaye:

I am nothing of the sort young one

Now run along and get me a sandwhich

One fit and ripped 15 year old butterface, is eying me up and wants me to spend a few days at his crib, so I will get you a sarnie if you can cover up for me and tell my mum I am spending the next 5 days at yours

ibkaye:

wide of the mark son, wide of the mark

sorry, i should have been clearer. . .everybody. . .except ibkaye!

Busy_body:

Even that was too graphic for me ^{a whole mother of 19} to post, come and see the way my hands were shaking

if i say amen it will become true o. . .

But seriously speaking, should they be thinking about it if they are saving themselves for God? What if they keep fantasising about what they are going to do with their bethrothed, and then end up not getting marries to the same person? Abi how many times are they gonna sin by fornicating and going to beg God for forgiveness, since a sin is a sin?

she said she's anxious, not fantasizing about it, if she tried to pretend as if it wasn't an issue to her she'd be a hypocrite, i'm not saying she should do it o!

I remember then when I became born-again, then would sin and every Sunday without fail answer the altar call for people who wanted to repent and be born-again and re-dedicate their lives to Christ, after dong this for a few months, the Pastor called me aside and told me I didn't have to be cming out every time i sinned, that I should just pray in my heart for God to forgive me This left me feeling so confused, [s]guess thats the reason i'm a backslidden Christian[/s]

kai. . .get thee behind me . . .sinner like you. . .i'm better than you, i only came out 09 3 times. . .God want's people that love Him enough to leave everything to Him, there's no one that doesn't sin(even though some of us do it more than others ), but that's y Jesus died innit?. . .God doesn't want people that are perfect, He wants ppl that are willing. . .too many of us think it's by 'not lying' or 'not stealing' or 'not sleeping around' that we'll get to heaven, na so e easy reach?. . .God sees your heart jo!

Busy_body:


One fit and ripped 15 year old bred, is eying me up and wants me to spend a few days at his crib, so I will get you a sarnie if you can cover up for me and tell my mum I am spending the next 5 days at yours

Lol, fit? You chav

And what if she comes to check?

Delinquent

netotse:

sorry, i should have been clearer. . .everybody. . .except ibkaye!

bang bang

netotse:


if i say amen it will become true o. . .

Chei, see this okobo, instead of you to start making plans how we are gonna do the deed starting from tonight, at least if you father 15 out of those kids, you try, instead you dey contemplate how to say Amen, psssffft

netotse:

she said she's anxious, not fantasizing about it, if she tried to pretend as if it wasn't an issue to her she'd be a hypocrite, i'm not saying she should do it o!

She said "too many thoughts are going on in my head [s]thoughts of his rippling muscles straining to come outta his shirt/thoughts of her straddling his back pouring warm massage oil . . . [/s]"  Abeg no corrupt me jare, I ain't even a teen yet

netotse:

kai. . .get thee behind me . . .sinner like you. . .i'm better than you, i only came out 09 3 times. . .God want's people that love Him enough to leave everything to Him, there's no one that doesn't sin(even though some of us do it more than others ), but that's y Jesus died innit?. . .God doesn't want people that are perfect, He wants ppl that are willing. . .too many of us think it's by 'not lying' or 'not stealing' or 'not sleeping around' that we'll get to heaven, na so e easy reach?. . .God sees your heart jo!

Why do you think I have been following Pastor Na2day of the Church of The Aladura Endtime Conception of Faith Ministries, bumper to bumper, of course with an holy and unblemished man like him as my husband, surely heaven is mine  

Okay seriously, God truly didn't come for the perfect and once one become born again, the transformation to be holier-than-thou is not gonna be instant, but a gradual process, but that does not mean one should repeatedly keep sinning the same sin over and over and over again na. Clearly that is a weakness which needs to be bound with the blood of Jesus

You kept it for your man, girl, 100 thousand gbosa for you. be relaxed, when the time comes, the wild animal in you shall take over, no one taught Adam and Eve, so just be calm, you ain't the first virgin to get married and you won't be the last.

If your man does not appreciate you, let me know, I'm going to come give him some dirty slaps on your behalf   [size=4pt]joke[/size]

Busy_body:


Why do you think I have been following Pastor Na2day of the Church of The Aladura Endtime Conception of Faith Ministries, bumper to bumper, of course with an holy and unblemished man like him as my husband, surely heaven is mine  

your astuteness never ceases to amaze me, come closer jo, let me lay one on you. . .

Okay seriously, God truly didn't come for the perfect and once one become born again, the transformation to be holier-than-thou is not gonna be instant, but a gradual process, but that does not mean one should repeatedly keep sinning the same sin over and over and over again na. Clearly that is a weakness which needs to be bound with the blood of Jesus

spot on. . .thats why i bind you everyday and night. . .[size=5pt]shall we use the silk cords tonight hun?[/size]

ibkaye:

Lol, fit? You chav

And what if she comes to check?

I love my butterface boy, Brap brap, lol

ibkaye:


Delinquent

I am only following in your footsteps and trying to be a rebel like you so Mum would allow me to stay up late too

netotse:


your astuteness never ceases to amaze me, come closer jo, let me lay one on you. . .
spot on. . .thats why i bind you everyday and night. . .[size=5pt]shall we use the silk cords tonight hun?[/size]

Lay only one ke no, I would only come closer if you promise to lay your all and surrender all to me, as per e don tay and I am feeling ravenous and insatiable . . . 

Hey and i like/want it rough, so its leather bondage gear, not silk, you game?

Busy_body:

I love my butterface boy, Brap brap, lol



I am only following in your footsteps and trying to be a rebel like you so Mum would allow me to stay up late too

Much 'big ups'

Oh please, I'm an angel 

thanks everyone; you were all of immearsurable help.

MrCrackles:

Wetin abeg close that trap of yours before fly enters it

ibkaye:

Much 'big ups'

Oh please, I'm an angel 

You too "chop knuckle", when i grow up, i wanna be an angel like you too

kolopin:

thanks everyone; you were all of immearsurable help.

Yeparipa, oops, sorry, whats this thread about again



@ Netotse


Hurrry up and Get thee behind me can't wait/can't hold it any longer

busy body back off, okay ?

wtf

H2O2:

busy body back off, okay ?

wtf

Back off as in I should back off your Netotse I see no wonder So it was him you opened the EX thread for Where is my tatafo journal, this one na the must see/must read/must hear scope of the century

Sorry oh, Mr effeminate, I don back off, I can fight a girl physically over a man, but don't have the strength to fight a guy over a guy, na only mouth I get, i no get that kain power, abeg no vex, sorry for trespassing

[s]One question, what does it feel like to be with a man [/s]

e gba mi o . which kain calamity be this

Busy_body:


Back off as in I should back off your Netotse I see no wonder So it was him you opened the EX thread for Where is my tatafo journal, this one na the must see/must read/must hear scope of the century

he was talking about ibkaye jo. . .he doesnt want you to corrupt his 'angel' how could you even consider such? as punishment for the next one month i'll be wearing a chastity belt. . .arrant nonsense!

H2O2:

e gba mi o . which kain calamity be this

netotse:

he was talking about ibkaye jo. . .he doesnt want you to corrupt his 'angel' how could you even consider such? as punishment for the next one month i'll be wearing a chastity belt. . .arrant nonsense!

Don't cry babe, its okay to be bi-sexual/bi-curious/bi-whatever, be proud of yourself, no need to beat yourself up about it, and don't worry, your secrets are safe with moi


_{Another quezshun, who be the man or the woman in your relationship?}



[s]Kai, I would not have believed H202 bats for the other side and loves getting his groves on with netotse, but the way Netotse quickly dissappeared from this thread when his lover H202 appeared, hmmn, my lips are sealed [/s]

Busy_body:



Don't cry babe, its okay to be bi-sexual/bi-curious/bi-whatever, be proud of yourself, no need to beat yourself up about it, and don't worry, your secrets are safe with moi


_{Another quezshun, who be the man or the woman in your relationship?}



[s]Kai, I would not have believed H202 bats for the other side and loves getting his groves on with netotse, but the way Netotse quickly dissappeared from this thread when his lover H202 appeared, hmmn, my lips are sealed [/s]

Holy Ghost fire scatter that your keyboard. . .