I fell and committed this sin with my girlfriend on Tuesday 17/10/2017. Since then I feel so empty, like God is so far from me. To think I kept myself for 27 years but I allowed the Devil to control my thoughts, suddenly I started fantasizing about having sex. First it was lust, later it progressed to kissing and eventually I slept with her.

I'm 27 and this is the first girl I'm being with. I did not see the need to go into a relationship all this years because I have always believed as Christians, the sole purpose of being in a relationship should be marriage and since I did not consider myself ready then, I stayed away from girls.
I am actually looking at getting married next year which was the reason I decided to go into this relationship in the first place but I never expected it to lead me to sin.

I have asked God for forgiveness but I still feel guilty. I desire that close fellowship I used to have with God before I fell. Pastors in the house please help a brother get out of this.

The Bible says he that covers his sin will not prosper ( have peace, at rest, etc). The first step to forgiveness is always confession to God & repentance. And to repent is to have remorse over your action and then make a 360° turn from it. I'll make other comments but will be spread separately.

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We walk by faith and not by feelings,if you have genuinely repented,don't mind how you feel,but make sure you dont fall into such foolishness again.

First put that girl away from you and for conscience sake,confess to your Pastor or someone you respect,it will help take the guilt away.

You started the whole process by having a girlfriend. Ok,God will forgive you.Just cutoff from the girl, otherwise bet me before November ends you will get her pregnant.

niceprof:
We walk by faith and not by feelings,if you have genuinely repented,don't mind how you feel,but make sure you dont fall into such foolishness again.

First put that girl away from you and for conscience sake,confess to your Pastor or someone you respect,it will help take the guilt away.

Thank you sir for your wise words.

But I would like to ask is it compulsory I must break up with this girl? I truly love her and I have plans to marry her. The mistake I made is allowing her to sleep over in my house, I intend to set boundaries that will prevent future occurrence. Besides leaving her will leave her heartbroken and she will feel used.

niceprof:
We walk by faith and not by feelings,if you have genuinely repented,don't mind how you feel,but make sure you dont fall into such foolishness again.

First put that girl away from you and for conscience sake,confess to your Pastor or someone you respect,it will help take the guilt away.

Una don't dey confess to pastor too,
@OP better hurry and marry or I promise u ,u ll kpansh her again

If she loves you and knows your dedication to God ,she will in no circumstance allow you to sleep with her,she just exploited your weakness.
I had the same commitment,which my girlfriend knew and respected,but when i found out that she slept with another person mistakenly,according to her,that was the end of the relationship,today am married and not to her and yes i married as a virgin.The choice is up to you,if you value your salvation,whatever you do,if she still sticks around you,you will do it again and as soon as you deadens your conscience ,you will begin to see it no longer as sin,but fun.

coolguy4christ:


Thank you sir for your wise words.

But I would like to ask is it compulsory I must break up with this girl? I truly love her and I have plans to marry her. The mistake I made is allowing her to sleep over in my house, I intend to set boundaries that will prevent future occurrence. Besides leaving her will leave her heartbroken and she will feel used.

The prayer of forgiveness is like any other, and 1John 5:14 says "and this is the confidence we have in Him, if we ask anything in accordance with His will, He heareth us". So be confident, God has heard you, but don't go back to your vomit. There is no need to put her away, my advice to you is that you hasten up and get married, if not there is high propensity for you to fall into sin again. 1Cor 7:2.

coolguy4christ:

I fell and committed this sin with my girlfriend on Tuesday 17/10/2017. Since then I feel so empty, like God is so far from me. To think I kept myself for 27 years but I allowed the Devil to control my thoughts, suddenly I started fantasizing about having sex. First it was lust, later it progressed to kissing and eventually I slept with her.

I'm 27 and this is the first girl I'm being with. I did not see the need to go into a relationship all this years because I have always believed as Christians, the sole purpose of being in a relationship should be marriage and since I did not consider myself ready then, I stayed away from girls.
I am actually looking at getting married next year which was the reason I decided to go into this relationship in the first place but I never expected it to lead me to sin.

I have asked God for forgiveness but I still feel guilty. I desire that close fellowship I used to have with God before I fell. Pastors in the house please help a brother get out of this.

Is she this same girl that you said on your other thread that cheated on you and you are about to marry her now? You have no reason not to marry that girl, she is a good girl. Most girls of this Generation would call her Mumu for confessing the truth the truth to you.

Now, back to you. Demons have taken many Giants of Faith down by ever wispering to them that they are missing something sweet when that are not having sex, it's a big lie programmed by evil-controlled media since our birth. Also, the dependency on sense of feeling made us not to realize how powerful being Holy makes us become. If you know these Truths, you shall avoid lust(at thought level, long before it could manifest into reality) as you would never stand in front of a high speed Trailer. Read this:
https://www.nairaland.com/5508005/erroneous-expectation-caused-many-lose

And many have thanked God for this eye-opening thread: https://www.nairaland.com/5234204/why-most-christians-dont-capacity#79155152:

EternalBeing:
Is she this same girl that you said on your other thread that cheated on you and you are about to marry her now? You have no reason not to marry that girl, she is a good girl. Most girls of this Generation would call her Mumu for confessing the truth the truth to you.

Now, back to you. Demons have taken many Giants of Faith down by ever wispering to them that they are missing something sweet when that are not having sex, it's a big lie programmed by evil-controlled media since our birth. Also, the dependency on sense of feeling made us not to realize how powerful being Holy makes us become. If you know these Truths, you shall avoid lust(at thought level, long before it could manifest into reality) as you would never stand in front of a high speed Trailer. Read this:
https://www.nairaland.com/5508005/erroneous-expectation-caused-many-lose

And many have thanked God for this eye-opening thread: https://www.nairaland.com/5234204/why-most-christians-dont-capacity#79155152:

Yes she is the same girl. It will not be easy for me to forgive her. The painful part of the whole thing is she left me, I never wanted the relationship to end because I believed the issues we had then could be resolved.

Now she is back, not the same way she left but with baggage.