I'm having an issue that concerns my elder bro. he has an history of battering. from his first girl to this present one he's planning to get married to. I have advised and told people to advise but not doing much good. I want to tell my mum but something is holding me back,, she went through same battering with my dad only enjoyed her marriage for 5 years and she is not strong at all health wise when you tell her something bad it breaks her down so telling her this I don't know what will happen. yes broken home but I have a wife since we have been dating till now I have never broken a strand of her hair. my brother is handsome and kind and sweet and ladies love him easily. this last one hit me the girl called and told me how he almost strangled her and she ended up in the hospital. I want to arrest my brother because this girl wouldn't do it, now she said she will report me to my mum and bail him. don't worry he's super handsome and extremely nice so the girl loves him so much. please what do I do? he's my only brother. just two of us and I love him to the bone but I don't want him to kill someone's daughter

get him a gud cane n flog him like SARS when he is sleeping

You can report but i doubt he ll change and neither will his gf leave his violent ass
My brother is like that, seceral times i spoke with him against his behaviour but he feels his stature and fobe boy looks will cover his excesses
I once sent his wife money to start something when he panel beat her.....love shack her and they spent it together

2nd time i intervened was when she said she cant cope again, i was happy as i had already expressed my view to all that she should leave because he clearly wont change.....and its better for us all so we wont hv to deal wt a murder case in the near future.....i sent her a huge amount to rent a place.....few weeks after, aunty has returned to the love of her life.....and i have turned to "home wrecker ".....the person that dont want her to be a Mrs....afterall i am inside my own hubbys house yet i dont want her to remain inside husbands house.

Nothing they didn't label me as when they settled.....na siddon look mode i kuku de till it happened again and i just played deaf and dumb...aunty come say me i dont care about my sil or my nephew and nieces welfare or that of rheir mother


Bottomline is, some people see dv as a norm and not a reason to end a marriage or relationship

keepingmum:
You can report but i doubt he ll change and neither will his gf leave his violent ass
My brother is like that, seceral times i spoke with him against his behaviour but he feels his stature and fobe boy looks will cover his excesses
I once sent his wife money to start something when he panel beat her.....love shack her and they spent it together

2nd time i intervened was when she said she cant cope again, i was happy as i had already expressed my view to all that she should leave because he clearly wont change.....and its better for us all so we wont hv to deal wt a murder case in the near future.....i sent her a huge amount to rent a place.....few weeks after, aunty has returned to the love of her life.....and i have turned to "home wrecker ".....the person that dont want her to be a Mrs....afterall i am inside my own hubbys house yet i dont want her to remain inside husbands house.

Nothing they didn't label me as when they settled.....na siddon look mode i kuku de till it happened again and i just played deaf and dumb...aunty come say me i dont care about my sil or my nephew and nieces welfare or that of rheir mother


Bottomline is, some people see dv as a norm and not a reason to end a marriage or relationship

I just tire o. but if he continues like this something bad might happen. I don't want to be in my house one day and police will come and arrest me and my wife. me will just deny him

48noble:
get him a gud cane n flog him like SARS when he is sleeping

I wish I was older... I will do triple of that

It's not your headache per se! You bit is to speak firmly and clearly with both your brother and the girl on the issues at hand. Whether they accept or not is another matter entirely but let it be on record that you spoke out against it.

Inform your mum for information purposes if she intervenes he may listen to her.

I feel this is not ur mother's case. I feel ur fears should be 4 d girl he wants to marry. have a sincere chat with her, if she feels he's ok for her. pls stay off their case.

I will advice your mum call your brother and talk to him sincerely, now that everything is still fresh...I dn't want to come and read, my brother's wife[b] stabbed [/b]him, when his was sleeping...This is getting too rampact this days.

You are gonna have to forgive me for laughing. Haba! Handsome woman beater beat woman, he almost strangled her but she's making excuses for him. Ain't we all our own life definers? Biko tell your mom. How very shameful that your brother would do what your daddy did to your mother to women. Did he not feel bad seeing that? It is well. Pls tell her, she may be able to still make a better man out of him now and save lives.

keepingmum:
You can report but i doubt he ll change and neither will his gf leave his violent ass
My brother is like that, seceral times i spoke with him against his behaviour but he feels his stature and fobe boy looks will cover his excesses
I once sent his wife money to start something when he panel beat her.....love shack her and they spent it together

2nd time i intervened was when she said she cant cope again, i was happy as i had already expressed my view to all that she should leave because he clearly wont change.....and its better for us all so we wont hv to deal wt a murder case in the near future.....i sent her a huge amount to rent a place.....few weeks after, aunty has returned to the love of her life.....and i have turned to "home wrecker ".....the person that dont want her to be a Mrs....afterall i am inside my own hubbys house yet i dont want her to remain inside husbands house.

Nothing they didn't label me as when they settled.....na siddon look mode i kuku de till it happened again and i just played deaf and dumb...aunty come say me i dont care about my sil or my nephew and nieces welfare or that of rheir mother


Bottomline is, some people see dv as a norm and not a reason to end a marriage or relationship

You are too nice. I hate seeing all the injuries, blood and damaged properties because people have decided not to use words alone when negotiating a distress. I don't get involved after the first occurrence. I wouldn't even bother with that SIL if I were you. Na from clap dance dey start.

Go to the internet, I believe u can see some photos of people that killed their girl friends / wife(s) when they went a little too far . Print some of the pictures out... also print the stories as many as u can and hand it over to him to see.. ...

Tell him that u love him so much that don't want him to end up like any of those guys..that prisons is where people like that ends up.. . that u won't like visiting him in the prison because u know he is better than that.. ..

if he argues that it will not happen to him, tell him that those people also felt the same..that it's a matter of taking it a little bit far that it will happen.. tell her how your mother will fill should such a thing happened..

Let him know that it's the last time u will ever mention this again...U don't have to involve your mum knowing her health condition

just a heart to heart chat.. no yelling, no shouting just brothers having decent conversation...
Also find out what trigger his outburst..and how he can control it... Though I doubt if any of this were permanent solutions ..He grew up in a toxic environment I guess and he thinks it's a norm..he needed to be deprogrammed and get reprogrammed..

keepingmum:
You can report but i doubt he ll change and neither will his gf leave his violent ass
My brother is like that, seceral times i spoke with him against his behaviour but he feels his stature and fobe boy looks will cover his excesses
I once sent his wife money to start something when he panel beat her.....love shack her and they spent it together

2nd time i intervened was when she said she cant cope again, i was happy as i had already expressed my view to all that she should leave because he clearly wont change.....and its better for us all so we wont hv to deal wt a murder case in the near future.....i sent her a huge amount to rent a place.....few weeks after, aunty has returned to the love of her life.....and i have turned to "home wrecker ".....the person that dont want her to be a Mrs....afterall i am inside my own hubbys house yet i dont want her to remain inside husbands house.

Nothing they didn't label me as when they settled.....na siddon look mode i kuku de till it happened again and i just played deaf and dumb...aunty come say me i dont care about my sil or my nephew and nieces welfare or that of rheir mother


Bottomline is, some people see dv as a norm and not a reason to end a marriage or relationship

pls dont interfere again you have done your best already

iphi:
I just tire o. but if he continues like this something bad might happen. I don't want to be in my house one day and police will come and arrest me and my wife. me will just deny him

Its a very sad situation.more sad if eventuslly they get married and have kids and he evntually strangles her to death,he'd go to prison while the kids a re dumped at your place.

What pains me most a re girls who see this voilent signs and yet goes on with them