Hello nairalanders,I am in a dilemma of how to put my younger sister through not to live immorally.
We are muslims by birth.I became a christian last year and through my influence,she get converted to the christian faith as well(my dad is absolutely against this).As time goes on,to the best of my knowledge and understanding,I came to realize that the christian faith is likely not to be true.This prompted me to reluctantly consider Islam for few days.In the process of my giving in back to islam,she also deconverted from the christian faith and revert back to being a muslimah(as a result of me influencing her) to the happiness of my dad and his relatives.Without much ado,I am now irreligious but God conscious and moral.Now,since she is out of the christian faith,I dont want her to live immorally and i dont want her to be immersed in the muslim faith due to some reasons which is best known to me.I dont want her moral standard to be lowered or do away with.We were deeper life church members,I am thinking about encouraging her to be going to the church(eventhough this idea will be difficult to implement considering the reactions it will cause -from my dad,his relatives,and some neighbours of where we are living presently).We are presently not with my dad but my mum in Lagos,my mum is a cherubim & seraphim chirch member and she has been following her to church which I dont like.Should she be studying the bible and living by its moral teachings? because I think that her belief may affect how she will live.Everyone advise is needed thanks.

modified to correct some errors.

ok let me get this straight

From muslim to Christian from.christian to muslim again... and now ur sister from muslim to cherubim!!...

sorry oooh.... but I think u people should fix ur religious confusion first... no church or mosque or white garmennt can take u to heaven.

At this juncture i have to invite Nwamaikpe on this matter bcoz this one pass me.

this is the most fakest story ever concocted in nairaland.

bloodmoneyspita:
this is the most fakest story ever concocted in nairaland.

How did you arrive at the above ascertion bro?

CaptainG00D:
... no church or mosque or white garmennt can take u to heaven.

I know,thanks.

@hopefulLandlord,I saw you viewing this thread,any comment from you?

tundexweb:

How did you arrive at the above ascertion bro?

the story is fake but if it's not then the father is missing in your sister's life, if she had a good relationship with her father she won't become immoral.

The love a father shows to a daughter wont make her succumb to any man, the only person she should be asking advice from is her dad unless you are going to be playing the part of her father, she need someone to lead her and if her father isn't there from the beginning it will be hard for you to do the job

bloodmoneyspita:


the story is fake but if it's not then the father is missing in your sister's life, if she had a good relationship with her father she won't become immoral.

The love a father shows to a daughter wont make her succumb to any man, the only person she should be asking advice from is her dad unless you are going to be playing the part of her father, she need someone to lead her and if her father isn't there from the beginning it will be hard for you to do the job

Sigh!I think you misunderstand my post.To set things straight,she is not immoral but i THINK she may be in the nearest future which I will feel remorseful if that happens.since she is now out of the christian faith that can be guiding her morally,i am afraid that her good moral may be corrupt by external influences.This does not have anything to do with my father but me(as a brother that made her abandoned the christian faith and now having concern about what will be of her spiritually) seeking advice to avert the possibility of her living immorally.She does not know my experience,I am on a journey,I dont want to be the one that will make her tow my path,I am on a journey inside a dark tunnel with no end in view and full of uncertainties,I am currently irreligious and I will not like her to be irreligious so as not to make her life complicated,for her to live a righteous life and for her to be on a safer side -if it happens that the christian faith/belief is true(which I doubt it is).
What should I do now,should I leave her to live her life as she want,convince her to embrace the christian faith again cos i know it is good,or...?
Everyone is welcome to make a sensible contribution to the thread.

I am even feeling uncomfortable going on with this thread cos of its sensitivity and it being personal.

Cc.Wilgrea7, PastorAIO , AgentOfAllah , LoJ, Sarassin ,MizMycoli.Your contributions are needed,sirs and ma.

bloodmoneyspita:
this is the most fakest story ever concocted in nairaland.

On the contrary, I see a young man who is being sincere and trying to deal with the dissonance he feels.
He worries that his choices which his sister emulates might rub off on her wrongly.
He is worried that she might be unable to handle the liberation that comes with knowing that you are free to choose what you want to believe, and follow any brand of belief you want. He fears that that the inconsistencies he has found and convinced her about in both religions might well lead her into uncharted territories, and she might inadvertently lose sight of who she is, and never find out what she is called to be.

Hi Tundexweb, does this remotely paint the state of your heart concerning her?

tundexweb:

Sigh!I think you misunderstand my post.To set things straight,she is not immoral but i THINK she may be in the nearest future which I will feel remorseful if that happens.since she is now out of the christian faith that can be guiding her morally,i am afraid that her good moral may be corrupt by external influences.This does not have anything to do with my father but me(as a brother that made her abandoned the christian faith and now having concern about what will be of her spiritually) seeking advice to avert the possibility of her living immorally.She does not know my experience,I am on a journey,I dont want to be the one that will make her tow my path,I am on a journey inside a dark tunnel with no end in view and full of uncertainties,I am currently irreligious and I will not like her to be irreligious so as not to make her life complicated,for her to live a righteous life and for her to be on a safer side -if it happens that the christian faith/belief is true(which I doubt it is).
What should I do now,should I leave her to live her life as she want,convince her to embrace the christian faith again cos i know it is good,or...?
Everyone is welcome to make a sensible contribution to the thread.

I am even feeling uncomfortable going on with this thread cos of its sensitivity and it being personal.

Uh ohhh..
I did not see this post before making my first contribution...
Nonetheless, it's good to know our thoughts are in sync...somewhat.

tundexweb:
...

Please don't take my words negatively, as I don't wish to offend you.

How old are you? How old is your sister?

Don't you think it is up to her to chose what she wants to do with her life, and what she wants to believe in?

Are you not tired to lead her to and fro? From muslim to christian, back to islam now she even follows your mother, you stand against it? Why should she follow your standards and your morality?

Please, stop controlling her life. What you are doing will force her some day to rebel, and it will be the end. You will lose her forever.

Why are you so possessive of your sister?

What type of nonsense is This?

Like you many have lost confidence in religion. However, no matter our religious position, we need to accept that humans cannot inherently do without religion. We are created to be spiritual and we cannot find true inner joy if we do not satisfy our spiritual need. (Sounds like we are doomed, right? Not at all)

God himself has made provison for us to satisfy this need. Our work is to look for him till we find him. And when we do find him, our lives would have meaning, we would find freedom from anxious worry and peace of God that excels all thought.

God is not far from each one of us (Acts 17:26, 27) If you search for him, he will let himself be found by you.” (1 Chronicles 28:9)


To help empathise with your feelings let me borrow this note:

IF YOU have been disillusioned with organized religion or have dismissed it as irrelevant, you are not alone. In fact, the number of people who are choosing not to be affiliated with organized religions is mushrooming.

Some have abandoned organized religions because they believe that such institutions breed hypocrisy and intolerance. Others find it too complicated to follow a structured form of worship. Still others feel that organized religion is nothing but a superfluous “middleman” between God and his worshippers. What does the Bible really teach about organized religion?

God’s Friends in Ancient Times

The Bible provides a clear description of the form of worship practiced by ancient patriarchs, such as Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob. For instance, on one occasion God said: “I have become acquainted with [Abraham] in order that he may command his sons and his household after him so that they shall keep Jehovah’s way to do righteousness and judgment.” (Genesis 18:19) Abraham was a friend of God and thus had a personal relationship with the Creator as an individual. But he also worshipped in the company of his household. Likewise, other patriarchs who were friends of God engaged in worship as a community, usually with immediate and extended family members as well as their servants.

In time, God required the ancient Israelites, and later the first-century Christians, to congregate for worship. (Leviticus 23:2, 4; Hebrews 10:24, 25) Those occasions for organized worship included singing, readings from the Scriptures, and public prayer. (Nehemiah 8:1-8; Colossians 3:16) The Scriptures also prescribed that a qualified body of men lead the congregation in worship.—1 Timothy 3:1-10.

The Benefits of Worshipping as a Congregation

Based on these Scriptural patterns, it is reasonable to conclude that today, too, God would expect his friends to worship him in an organized fashion. And there are benefits from worshipping God as part of a congregation.

For instance, the Scriptures liken the genuine worshipper to one who is traveling over a cramped road; and in another instance, to a runner in a race. (Matthew 7:14; 1 Corinthians 9:24-27) When running a long, hard race over difficult terrain, a runner may easily tire out and eventually give out. However, a runner can often push himself beyond his personal threshold if he has encouragement from others. Likewise, a spiritually-minded person can successfully maintain his relationship with God despite adversities if he has encouragement from other worshippers.

This explains the words at Hebrews 10:24, 25, where the Bible says: “Let us consider one another to incite to love and fine works, not forsaking the gathering of ourselves together.” In fact, the Scriptures state that true worshippers would render worship as brothers and sisters, united as a figurative body.

Three organized groups of people reach out to a single person
Should you dismiss all organized religion?
The Bible describes that body, or congregation, as being united by a bond of love and peace. For instance, Ephesians 4:2, 3 admonishes true worshippers to act “with complete lowliness of mind and mildness, with long-suffering, putting up with one another in love, earnestly endeavoring to observe the oneness of the spirit in the uniting bond of peace.” How could you comply with this admonition if your worship were independent and detached from other worshippers?

It is God’s will that instead of being a loose association of spiritually-minded individuals, true worshippers merge into a tight community of faith. The Bible exhorts worshippers to speak in agreement, to avoid divisions, and to be “fitly united in the same mind and in the same line of thought.” (1 Corinthians 1:10) Those words would make little sense if God wanted people to worship him only as individuals apart from one another.

Clearly, evidence from the Bible points to an organized form of worship as the kind that is acceptable to God. And the organized religion that the Scriptures describe, the one that God sponsors, can give you the support you require to be successful in satisfying your spiritual needs.—Matthew 5:3.

Granted, many organized religions today are guilty of hypocrisy and countless atrocities. Yet, this does not mean that you should repudiate all organized religion. There must be a religion on earth that is organized to show love to all people—a religion that is organized to educate others about God’s moral principles. Such an organized religion can help you to build genuine faith. The Bible provides the necessary clues that can help you to identify the kind of organized worship that is acceptable to God.

https://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/g201209/do-you-need-organized-religion/

Also read https://wol.jw.org/en/wol/d/r1/lp-e/102015403

Now it is easy to want to remain moral by ourselves without the help of religion, just as you want for your sister. But that is impossible. We cannot be truly moral without religion.

Another important question this raises is, How can I find true religion. These links to the ff articles could prove helpful

https://www.jw.org/en/bible-teachings/questions/organized-religion/

https://www.jw.org/en/bible-teachings/questions/which-religion-is-true/

Lastly, since you are trying to take what seems to be a parent role look at the following articles that teaches Parents how to educate children about sex that'll hepful to you.


https://www.jw.org/en/bible-teachings/questions/parents-teach-children-about-sex/

https://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/awake-no5-2016-october/teaching-your-child-about-sex/

tundexweb:
Hello nairalanders,I am in a dilemma of how to put my younger sister through not to live immorally.

MizMyColi:

Uh ohhh.. I did not see this post before making my first contribution... Nonetheless, it's good to know our thoughts are in sync...somewhat.

Good to know.Any advise for me?

LoJ:

Please don't take my words negatively, as I don't wish to offend you.

How old are you? How old is your sister?

Don't you think it is up to her to chose what she wants to do with her life, and what she wants to believe in?

Are you not tired to lead her to and fro? From muslim to christian, back to islam now she even follows your mother, you stand against it? Why should she follow your standards and your morality?

Please, stop controlling her life. What you are doing will force her some day to rebel, and it will be the end. You will lose her forever.

19 and 15 years old respectively.
I am afraid she might choose wrongly.
Actually,when I became a christian,I sensed the need to explain somethings to her and she accepted the faith voluntarily without any coersion or pestering from me.After gradually loosing believe in the christian faith due to the outcomes of my findings about the faith and sensing that Islam may be the true religion afterall,I reluctantly called her attention to some verses in the Bible that give credence to Islamic theology and she later accepted Islam.Now that I have come to the knowledge that both faiths and their holy books are possibly not to be from the creator of this universe.Since my stance on religious beliefs,especially that of the christian is on transition.That is the reason I am encouraging her(not compelling or commanding) to embrace the christian faith,atleast and to the best of my knowledge coupled with my experience,that will be better off(living righteously,morally and having love for people-wise) than being immersed in Islamic practise or cherubim practise.
And to the last paragraph of the above post of yours,I am not controlling her (no thanks to the use of the word INFLUENCE in my posts),I dont have hold on her,she is at times strong willed.
Lastly,your contribution is well appreciated,looking forward for your reply,thanks.


@Mizmycoli and others that care to know.I have not and not ready to tell her the errors and inconsistencies of both faiths,especially that of their books neither have I tell her that they are possibly man-made.What I have done so far is discrediting the christian theology of God and beliefs in favour of islam...

IsaacBuchi:
Like you many have lost confidence in religion. However, no matter our religious position, we need to accept that humans cannot inherently do without religion. We are created to be spiritual and we cannot find true inner joy if we do not satisfy our spiritual need. (Sounds like we are doomed, right? Not at all)

God himself has made provison for us to satisfy this need. Our work is to look for him till we find him. And when we do find him, our lives would have meaning, we would find freedom from anxious worry and peace of God that excels all thought.

God is not far from each one of us (Acts 17:26, 27) If you search for him, he will let himself be found by you.” (1 Chronicles 28:9)


To help empathise with your feelings let me borrow this note:




Now it is easy to want to remain moral by ourselves without the help of religion, just as you want for your sister. But that is impossible. We cannot be truly moral without religion.





Lastly, since you are trying to take what seems to be a parent role look at the following articles that teaches Parents how to educate children about sex that'll hepful to you.


https://www.jw.org/en/bible-teachings/questions/parents-teach-children-about-sex/

https://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/awake-no5-2016-october/teaching-your-child-about-sex/

I agree with most of what you stated,thanks for your input.

tundexweb:

@Mizmycoli and others that care to know.I have not and not ready to tell her the errors and inconsistencies of both faiths,especially that of their books neither have I tell her that they are possibly man-made.What I have done so far is discrediting the christian theology of God and beliefs in favour of islam...

Your sister is 15 years old. She's already a young adult. You shouldn't insult her intelligence by giving her partial truths. Tell her your full truth and trust that she is, like you, capable of discernment. The only reason not to expose the flaws of all religions to her is if you sense that it will jeopardise yours or her relationship with your parents, especially if they are still financially responsible for you both. Otherwise, hiding the truth from her isn't protecting her, it is damaging her!!

Bear in mind that you are probably not the only person with whom your sister interacts in her daily existence, so just as you have influence on her, so do many other people. Ultimately, you cannot stop her from becoming/doing whatever she is going to become/do. As her brother, the best guidance you can give to your sister is helping her to realise that with or without religion, there will always be consequences for every action. So she should ask herself what the consequence of anything she wants to do is before she does it. Other than that, you are mostly powerless over how she turns out, and you will be far more relaxed if you didn't try to project your own moral compass on her just because she is your sister.

Live and let live!!

This is funny. You want to mold your sister into what YOU WANT, while you have been doing what SUITS YOU---you actually didn't care about your dad's wishes or feelings when you chose to convert to Christianity, and it was by your own discretion that you also went back to Islam, and now through your OWN WILL, you've become irreligious---all these while that you've been dancing around, you keep inviting your sister to the dance floor, making her follow your dance steps.

You wanted to be yourself, wanted to be left alone, but didn't want the poor girl to experience the same privilege. It would please you to have the power to steal away her mind and operate her like an android.

This is so wrong! You have no right to mold your sister into what you wish----so that you can look at her like a mirror and see yourself in her. You have no right to make her into a "mini-me". Let her live her life, learn things about reality, and have her own experiences that would shape her future self.

The only time you have any right to interfere with the direction of her growth and the choices she make is when she's doing things that can cause harm to others or destroy the peace of society.

She's not your property, neither is she a means to your own end. Let her be. She doesn't have to be like you. And don't try to make her.

Tozara:
This is funny. You want to mold your sister into what YOU WANT, while you have been doing what SUITS YOU---you actually didn't care about your dad's wishes or feelings when you chose to convert to Christianity, and it was by your own discretion that you also went back to Islam, and now through your OWN WILL, you've become irreligious---all these while that you've been dancing around, you keep inviting your sister to the dance floor, making her follow your dance steps.

You wanted to be yourself, wanted to be left alone, but didn't want the poor girl to experience the same privilege. It would please you to have the power to steal away her mind and operate her like an android.

This is so wrong! You have no right to mold your sister into what you wish----so that you can look at her like a mirror and see yourself in her. You have no right to make her into a "mini-me". Let her live her life, learn things about reality, and have her own experiences that would shape her future self.

The only time you have any right to interfere with the direction of her growth and the choices she make is when she's doing things that can cause harm to others or destroy the peace of society.

She's not your property, neither is she a means to your own end. Let her be. She doesn't have to be like you. And don't try to make her.

Thank you jare, it's so annoying reading this.

How do I stop my sister from being immoral?

What the hell does that mean? What does he mean by immoral?

People to love to try and control every aspect of someone's life under the disguise of I just want to help you. I care about you.
Mtchewwwww

Carrying his sister from one religion to another and now attempting to control what she does. Creating fake problems, "I think she may be immoral in the future", just to seek for ways to tighten his hold on her, while hiding under the cover of "caring" brother. Mtcheww

Your sister is not an idiot. Not a fool, not a robot that needs to be programmed on how to live her life,

Let her live ffs,

Sheesh, try and tell her what you know is good or bad or right or wrong and why you think it is, (logical arguments and reasons, not, "because I'm your elder brother and i said so" ) let her know the consequences of everything, and let it end there, and after doing that, leave her alone to live. Bear in mind that she may not see what you see as wrong to be wrong and so do it anyway, that's OK. She is not you. And she will make mistakes, it's part of being a human being, it's OK too.

LoJ:

Please don't take my words negatively, as I don't wish to offend you.

How old are you? How old is your sister?

Don't you think it is up to her to chose what she wants to do with her life, and what she wants to believe in?

Are you not tired to lead her to and fro? From muslim to christian, back to islam now she even follows your mother, you stand against it? Why should she follow your standards and your morality?

Please, stop controlling her life. What you are doing will force her some day to rebel, and it will be the end. You will lose her forever.

I couldn't agree more.

I couldn't agree more.

AgentOfAllah:


Your sister is 15 years old. She's already a young adult. You shouldn't insult her intelligence by giving her partial truths. Tell her your full truth and trust that she is, like you, capable of discernment. The only reason not to expose the flaws of all religions to her is if you sense that it will jeopardise yours or her relationship with your parents, especially if they are still financially responsible for you both. Otherwise, hiding the truth from her isn't protecting her, it is damaging her!!

Bear in mind that you are probably not the only person with whom your sister interacts in her daily existence, so just as you have influence on her, so do many other people. Ultimately, you cannot stop her from becoming/doing whatever she is going to become/do. As her brother, the best guidance you can give to your sister is helping her to realise that with or without religion, there will always be consequences for every action. So she should ask herself what the consequence of anything she wants to do is before she does it. Other than that, you are mostly powerless over how she turns out, and you will be far more relaxed if you didn't try to project your own moral compass on her just because she is your sister.

Live and let live!!

Daeylar:


Thank you jare, it's so annoying reading this.

How do I stop my sister from being immoral?

What the hell does that mean? What does he mean by immoral?

People to love to try and control every aspect of someone's life under the disguise of I just want to help you. I care about you.
Mtchewwwww

Carrying his sister from one religion to another and now attempting to control what she does. Creating fake problems, "I think she may be immoral in the future", just to seek for ways to tighten his hold on her, while hiding under the cover of "caring" brother. Mtcheww

Your sister is not an idiot. Not a fool, not a robot that needs to be programmed on how to live her life,

Let her live ffs,

Sheesh, try and tell her what you know is good or bad or right or wrong and why you think it is, (logical arguments and reasons, not, "because I'm your elder brother and i said so" ) let her know the consequences of everything, and let it end there, and after doing that, leave her alone to live. Bear in mind that she may not see what you see as wrong to be wrong and so do it anyway, that's OK. She is not you. And she will make mistakes, it's part of being a human being, it's OK too.

FINITO. Nothing to add.

Some people can be very annoying motherfucking CONTROL-FREAKS!

Treating a 15-year old girl like an automaton. Haba. That's so absurd.

How has your day been?

Tozara:
FINITO. Nothing to add.

Some people can be very annoying motherfucking CONTROL-FREAKS!

Treating a 15-year old girl like an autamaton. Haba. That's so absurd.

How has your day been?

Been good dear, and yours?

Tozara:
This is funny. You want to mold your sister into what YOU WANT, while you have been doing what SUITS YOU---you actually didn't care about your dad's wishes or feelings when you chose to convert to Christianity, and it was by your own discretion that you also went back to Islam, and now through your OWN WILL, you've become irreligious---all these while that you've been dancing around, you keep inviting your sister to the dance floor, making her follow your dance steps.

You wanted to be yourself, wanted to be left alone, but didn't want the poor girl to experience the same privilege. It would please you to have the power to steal away her mind and operate her like an android.

This is so wrong! You have no right to mold your sister into what you wish----so that you can look at her like a mirror and see yourself in her. You have no right to make her into a "mini-me". Let her live her life, learn things about reality, and have her own experiences that would shape her future self.

The only time you have any right to interfere with the direction of her growth and the choices she make is when she's doing things that can cause harm to others or destroy the peace of society.

She's not your property, neither is she a means to your own end. Let her be. She doesn't have to be like you. And don't try to make her.

QED

Daeylar:

Been good dear, and yours?

It was fine too.

AgentOfAllah:


Your sister is 15 years old. She's already a young adult. You shouldn't insult her intelligence by giving her partial truths. Tell her your full truth and trust that she is, like you, capable of discernment. The only reason not to expose the flaws of all religions to her is if you sense that it will jeopardise yours or her relationship with your parents, especially if they are still financially responsible for you both. Otherwise, hiding the truth from her isn't protecting her, it is damaging her!!

Bear in mind that you are probably not the only person with whom your sister interacts in her daily existence, so just as you have influence on her, so do many other people. Ultimately, you cannot stop her from becoming/doing whatever she is going to become/do. As her brother, the best guidance you can give to your sister is helping her to realise that with or without religion, there will always be consequences for every action. So she should ask herself what the consequence of anything she wants to do is before she does it. Other than that, you are mostly powerless over how she turns out, and you will be far more relaxed if you didn't try to project your own moral compass on her just because she is your sister.

Live and let live!!

This is well appreaciated,I will take it in to consideration,thank you very much for your input.

Tozara:
This is funny. You want to mold your sister into what YOU WANT, while you have been doing what SUITS YOU---you actually didn't care about your dad's wishes or feelings when you chose to convert to Christianity, and it was by your own discretion that you also went back to Islam, and now through your OWN WILL, you've become irreligious---all these while that you've been dancing around, you keep inviting your sister to the dance floor, making her follow your dance steps.

You wanted to be yourself, wanted to be left alone, but didn't want the poor girl to experience the same privilege. It would please you to have the power to steal away her mind and operate her like an android.

This is so wrong! You have no right to mold your sister into what you wish----so that you can look at her like a mirror and see yourself in her. You have no right to make her into a "mini-me". Let her live her life, learn things about reality, and have her own experiences that would shape her future self.

The only time you have any right to interfere with the direction of her growth and the choices she make is when she's doing things that can cause harm to others or destroy the peace of society.

She's not your property, neither is she a means to your own end. Let her be. She doesn't have to be like you. And don't try to make her.

I am very grateful for this,thanks bro.

tundexweb:
I am very grateful for this,thanks bro.

You're highly welcome, bro.

Daeylar:


Thank you jare, it's so annoying reading this.

How do I stop my sister from being immoral?

What the hell does that mean? What does he mean by immoral?

People to love to try and control every aspect of someone's life under the disguise of I just want to help you. I care about you.
Mtchewwwww

Carrying his sister from one religion to another and now attempting to control what she does. Creating fake problems, "I think she may be immoral in the future", just to seek for ways to tighten his hold on her, while hiding under the cover of "caring" brother. Mtcheww

Your sister is not an idiot. Not a fool, not a robot that needs to be programmed on how to live her life,

Let her live ffs,

Sheesh, try and tell her what you know is good or bad or right or wrong and why you think it is, (logical arguments and reasons, not, "because I'm your elder brother and i said so" ) let her know the consequences of everything, and let it end there, and after doing that, leave her alone to live. Bear in mind that she may not see what you see as wrong to be wrong and so do it anyway, that's OK. She is not you. And she will make mistakes, it's part of being a human being, it's OK too.

Firstly,I appreciate your input and I will definitely put it to consideration.

Let me chip in this here,the morality I am thinking that it will be good for her not to sway away from especially considering what will be of her eternal destination(if there will be judgement in the afterlife as the bible painted) is that of the biblical standard and that of the said sayings of Jesus.
English is not my first language,this might make my expression andfeelings unambigous,I pray you do not misconstrue my use of words...

tundexweb:

Firstly,I appreciate your input and I will definitely put it to consideration.

All right.

Let me chip in this here,the morality I am thinking that it will be good for her not to sway away from especially considering what will be of her eternal destination(if there will be judgement in the afterlife as the bible painted) is that of the biblical standard and that of the said sayings of Jesus.
English is not my first language,this might make my expression andfeelings unambigous,I pray you do not misconstrue my use of words...

All right, I didn't understand that's why I asked, thanks for explaining,

Well, you said you are not a Christain, why can't you let her choose if she wants to be a Christain or not?
If she wants to follow the biblical standard or the sayings of Jesus?

I think you just let her choose and not make choices for her on what she should sway away from or not, she be moral without Christianity,
She should choose if she wants to follow biblical standards or not, it's her choice really.