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| What Are The Defects That Must Be Disclosed To A Potential Marriage Partner? by Rashduct4luv(m): 8:20am On Jan 17, 2018 |
Question: I have been suffering from a mental illness for several years. For a while, I have been praying regularly, reading Qur’an, remembering Allah (dhikr), giving charity and helping people a great deal, and I am much better, but I feel that the illness is still lurking. Is it obligatory for me to inform anyone who proposes marriage to me about that? Published Date: 2015-12-30 Praise be to Allah We ask Allah to heal you and grant you well-being. It seems to us that this illness is not real. If we assume that it is real, then we would say: if this illness would not have any impact on married life or on raising children, then there is no need to inform a prospective marriage partner about it. But if it does have some impact, in the sense that it may result in some problems after marriage that would prevent you from developing bonds of love and creating a tranquil home, then you must tell him about that, because concealing it would be a kind of deceit. It is proven that deceit is forbidden in general terms from the hadeeth of Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him), according to which the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Whoever deceives (people) does not belong to me.” Narrated by Muslim, 102. You should not pay any attention to imaginary things with regard to your illness. Most such things are tricks of the Shaytaan, and are aimed at preventing you from getting married and keeping yourself chaste. The basic guidelines with regard to informing a suitor about illness in the prospective wife are as follows: 1. if the sickness will have any impact on married life and will affect the wife’s ability to fulfil her duties towards her husband and children; 2. if it will be off-putting to the husband because of its appearance or smell; 3. if it is real and permanent, and is not something imagined or temporary that will disappear with the passage of time or after marriage. The scholars of the Standing Committee for Issuing Fatwas were asked: There is a young woman who is occasionally affected by periods of insanity, then it goes away again, and she goes back to normal for a period that may be long or short. Sometimes prospective suitors come to propose marriage to her, the family finds it difficult to arrange a marriage for her, because they do not know how to tell the prospective suitor about the situation and they are very hesitant, which leads to missing out on the opportunity to get married. Recently the family have decided that they would rather get her married to a person who has some kind of disability or other problem, so that it will be easier for him to accept her. Now there is a potential suitor who is infertile, and another who is the son of her paternal aunt, who has proposed to her and has stated that he is aware of her illness. But the problem is that the mother of this young man – i.e., the paternal aunt of the girl – has the same sickness, and when we asked the doctor what he thought about this marriage, he said that he did not recommend it, because the probability of having children who were affected by the same illness was great. My question is: what is the Islamic ruling on such a marriage? If it turns out that it produces a child who is also ill, will we have the ones who are responsible for that, as we would have played a role in bringing about this marriage? Please note that the possibility of producing children who are also ill is great. They replied: You should not prevent the girl from getting married, and you should give her in marriage to this man who has come to propose to her, and leave the matter to Allah. You should ignore the doctor’s advice which is based on probability, because marriage serves a purpose for both parties and protects the girl from the risk of spinsterhood, on condition that she agrees to marry the man of whom her guardian approves for her. Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Azeez ibn Baaz, Shaykh ‘Abd ar-Razzaaq ‘Afeefi, Shaykh ‘Abdullah ibn Ghadyaan, Shaykh Saalih al-Fawzaan, Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Azeez Aal ash-Shaykh. Fataawa al-Lajnah ad-Daa’imah, 18/194 They were also asked: If a girl has a problem in the uterus or with her menstrual cycle that requires treatment which may delay any chance of bearing children, should the suitor be told about that? They replied: If this problem is something temporary, something that happens to women then disappears, then it is not necessary to tell the suitor about it. But if this problem is a serious disease or it is not a minor, temporary problem, and the proposal comes when she still has this problem and has not been healed of it, then in that case her guardian must inform the suitor of it. End quote. Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Azeez Aal-ash-Shaykh, Shaykh Saalih ibn Fawzaan al-Fawzaan,Shaykh Bakr Abu Zayd Fataawa al-Lajnah ad-Daa’imah, 19/15 Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen was asked: There is a man who proposed marriage to a woman, but it is known that this woman has a physical defect, which is hidden and not obvious, and there is the hope that it may be cured, like leprosy and vitiligo. Should the suitor be told about that? He replied: If a man proposes marriage to a woman, and she has a hidden defect, and there are people who know about it, then if the suitor asks about her, it is obligatory to disclose it. This is quite clear. But if he does not ask, then he should be told about it because this comes under the heading of sincere advice, especially if it is something that there is no hope of it going away. But if there is hope of it going away, then this is easier. However there are things that may go away, but they go away slowly, such as leprosy for example – if it is true that it may go away, but up till now we know nothing to suggest that it may go away. So there is a difference between that which it is hoped will go away soon and that which it is hoped will go away later on. End quote. Liqaa’aat al-Baab al-Maftooh, 5/ question no. 22. https://islamqa.info/en/111980 4 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: What Are The Defects That Must Be Disclosed To A Potential Marriage Partner? by iamgenius(m): 12:00pm On Jan 18, 2018 |
JazaakaLlahu Khayran brother |
| Re: What Are The Defects That Must Be Disclosed To A Potential Marriage Partner? by chillychill(f): 12:09pm On Jan 18, 2018 |
Wow thankyou sir  |
| Re: What Are The Defects That Must Be Disclosed To A Potential Marriage Partner? by Ask4bigneyo(m): 9:57am On Jan 19, 2018 |
.. 1 Like |
| Re: What Are The Defects That Must Be Disclosed To A Potential Marriage Partner? by MBtz(m): 10:01am On Jan 19, 2018 |
Thanks for the amazing post |
| Re: What Are The Defects That Must Be Disclosed To A Potential Marriage Partner? by Godnifemi(m): 10:03am On Jan 19, 2018 |
chillychill: I am not a religion fanatic but I believe we all serve the same one God, (it all depends on the personality) but this I can say is that, as long as it's marriage and this is d person you would spend the rest of ur life with, better to come clean. Remember 2 is better than 1. 1 Like |
| Re: What Are The Defects That Must Be Disclosed To A Potential Marriage Partner? by OvaSabi1(f): 10:07am On Jan 19, 2018 |
As expected, most of the rulings relate to defects in women. As if man nor dey get defects wey dem dey hide. |
| Re: What Are The Defects That Must Be Disclosed To A Potential Marriage Partner? by iamgenius(m): 10:18am On Jan 19, 2018 |
OvaSabi1:The rulings also apply to men. |
| Re: What Are The Defects That Must Be Disclosed To A Potential Marriage Partner? by verygudbadguy(m): 10:22am On Jan 19, 2018 |
OvaSabi1:Truth be told, from time immemorial, men have always been favoured. During the early days of men sef, Solomon was allowed to have as many concubines as he wanted. I believe intending couples are supposed to bear all their minds to each other before taking the vow irrespective of how little the defect/issue may be. Cases of abortion, low sperm count should not be the only ones sef. Spiritual issues should be discussed too. Some men have traded their destinies for money in the name of Yahoo Plus while some ladies have done the same in the name of runs. Do not leave any stone untouched to avoid future kasala. 2 Likes |
| Re: What Are The Defects That Must Be Disclosed To A Potential Marriage Partner? by Pavore9: 10:22am On Jan 19, 2018 |
iamgenius: It should have been clearly stated so it would not have to be misinterpreted. |
| Re: What Are The Defects That Must Be Disclosed To A Potential Marriage Partner? by ibedun: 11:43am On Jan 19, 2018 |
Marriage contracted without full disclosure of defects is really asking for serious trouble. This question should be asked by the presiding imam or priest or elders. A marriage based on lies could be catastrophic to the female partner. 2 Likes |
| Re: What Are The Defects That Must Be Disclosed To A Potential Marriage Partner? by SweetyZinta(f): 1:05pm On Jan 19, 2018 |
Jazakumullahu khairan, May Allah make it easy for us |
| Re: What Are The Defects That Must Be Disclosed To A Potential Marriage Partner? by Tlake(m): 1:29pm On Jan 19, 2018 |
u should be truthful to ur husband and recite wabilah taofeek ilabilah 111 everyday insha Allah u Will get cured 1 Like |
| Re: What Are The Defects That Must Be Disclosed To A Potential Marriage Partner? by chillychill(f): 1:41pm On Jan 19, 2018 |
Godnifemi: Not in all cases walahi some men will use d tin against u before you know what is going on.. Some will use it to abuse u even web ure married seff.... The tin is if d tin wont disturb ur marriage n it will stop later(before the marriage)den dere is no nid of telling him or her. |
| Re: What Are The Defects That Must Be Disclosed To A Potential Marriage Partner? by Godnifemi(m): 1:52pm On Jan 19, 2018 |
that is why I said it depends on the personality, thank God u sed some men, before marriage I'm sure some water must have passed through the bridge, I mean there would have been situations that would make you wanna tell or not tell him, if he's worth being ur husband you should know before it turns out to be marriage things, I'm not a love advocate but this is just my own piece of mind chillychill: |
| Re: What Are The Defects That Must Be Disclosed To A Potential Marriage Partner? by Mhissgaga(f): 2:56pm On Jan 19, 2018 |
Your spouse should know everything about you before marriage....It's better to come out clean..No hidden secrets whatsoever... |
| Re: What Are The Defects That Must Be Disclosed To A Potential Marriage Partner? by chillychill(f): 5:44pm On Jan 19, 2018 |
Godnifemi: I get u man |
| Re: What Are The Defects That Must Be Disclosed To A Potential Marriage Partner? by Dreydoe(m): 6:54pm On Jan 19, 2018 |
Mhissgaga:spot on |
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