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Re: Morenike Toyin Folayan: I Divorced Because Of My Career by Nobody: 9:58am On Feb 22, 2018 |
Atlantia:Goalpost shifting. Your aunt if it's so... she's a useless woman. I am going to dig her lifestory out. 1 Like |
Re: Morenike Toyin Folayan: I Divorced Because Of My Career by darlenese(f): 10:01am On Feb 22, 2018 |
Lightening: well said , I don't see any difference bw she and one who Is childless , her children do not see her as their mother hence they dont reply her message until after two weeks . what A shame ! 1 Like |
Re: Morenike Toyin Folayan: I Divorced Because Of My Career by Nobody: 10:01am On Feb 22, 2018 |
Atlantia:Now that she's granted a public interview... I am free to involve 1 Like |
Re: Morenike Toyin Folayan: I Divorced Because Of My Career by naturalwaves: 10:01am On Feb 22, 2018 |
Atlantia:Failure is relative. By saying she is a failure, I was referring to the "home front". My opinion obviously cannot affect her because she is yet to see my opinion unless you send this link to her. So, that point of yours does not follow. Moreover, it is obvious she is depressed and has been affected by other opinions. Hence, the reasons for her rants and undertone regrets. Having said that, seems alot of you do not know what "independent " means. Even though she used the word "independent", the write up does not paint "independence ". It paints a picture of resentment towards one's family and that's the part you're turning a blind eye to and not analysing well. Moreover, how can you tell that she raised responsible children? Because they are in the UK? Or what?? Doesn't it even beg the question for you to say that she "raised" when she was never there? The only thing she seems to have done which we can attest to is the fact that the children came through her birth canal and even madd women are capable of this too. We do not even know the children's source of funding and I won't be surprised if her own money is meant for holidays and jamborees while the husband gives the children the best with his hard earned cash. So, my dear, she is a failure. I repeat! 2 Likes |
Re: Morenike Toyin Folayan: I Divorced Because Of My Career by Martin0(m): 10:03am On Feb 22, 2018 |
trustyshoess:ok |
Re: Morenike Toyin Folayan: I Divorced Because Of My Career by Belafonte(m): 10:05am On Feb 22, 2018 |
Xisnin: You have quite a few problems including, but not limited to, a severe lack of comprehension and a primarily acutely emtional response to relatively banal situations. Please, carry your rabies away from me. |
Re: Morenike Toyin Folayan: I Divorced Because Of My Career by Belafonte(m): 10:08am On Feb 22, 2018 |
monex: The human male species have kept quiet long enough, and it's time to speak out and fight for our own welfare. We do not deserve less than our female counterparts even though we constantly get the short end if the stick. My people are looking at me like " dude, what's the hold up?" But outchea, women aren't looking to be wives. They're all about getting as much attention and money they can get from numerous males. I deserve better than wiring the hoes that have populated the earth. |
Re: Morenike Toyin Folayan: I Divorced Because Of My Career by ejimatic: 10:08am On Feb 22, 2018 |
Everybody has a decision to make. Career or family? It is good however to blend the two together--children raised in a family where mother has no time and father is divorced may grow up to have no belief in family unity and togetherness-they tend to do things as they like imitating BAD example of their parents.Family unity should not be allowed to suffer BC of career which is temporary and frustrating at times., unlike family togetherness that endures forever |
Re: Morenike Toyin Folayan: I Divorced Because Of My Career by Nobody: 10:08am On Feb 22, 2018 |
Belafonte:She rabid..cos they're intimate. I suspect a same-sex couple situation 1 Like |
Re: Morenike Toyin Folayan: I Divorced Because Of My Career by Atlantia(f): 10:11am On Feb 22, 2018 |
Tollzara: As much as I respect your views, I have to disagree with a few points you made. Not everyone is cut out for marriage. Not every woman can handle being a mother. You raised a salient point when you talked about the responsibilities she had towards her children. I also agree that she should have stayed single if she knew she couldn't juggle a career along with the burden of raising children. Seeing as I'm not aware of her private affairs and she didn't divulge all the details of the divorce, I have no way of knowing what went on between she and her husband before their separation. There are several avenues to consider and calling her irresponsible and self-centred will change nothing. What I do not agree with is the name-calling. It's always easy for us to judge people and the decisions they make without having first-hand knowledge of what made them follow that path. 1 Like |
Re: Morenike Toyin Folayan: I Divorced Because Of My Career by Tex42(m): 10:13am On Feb 22, 2018 |
dominique:And how do u think she will raise her children differently when she chose her career over her family. She just indirectly told us that she never invested time in raising her children,she was never involved in their lives reason why they don't need her now. These kids probably started doing stuffs on their own at a tender age without their parents. And by this ur post, I'm sure u seek to glamorise a woman who walked out on her family and sought for a divorce not because of domestic violence or other reasons, but for the crazy fact that she wanted to be Einstein... What a selfish wife and mother. Hope u bounce ur family someday to become Elon... |
Re: Morenike Toyin Folayan: I Divorced Because Of My Career by Nobody: 10:16am On Feb 22, 2018 |
Tex42:Whaat Dominique ke? Bounce her family? She nor fit. |
Re: Morenike Toyin Folayan: I Divorced Because Of My Career by ivanalimi: 10:19am On Feb 22, 2018 |
dominique:she knew she couldn't not completely balance family and career together .she had to leave one and focus on the other.she chose her career and she is NOW regretting because her children don't even regard her as anything. don't confuse itself. she cannot choose her career and at the same time be totally involved in her children's lives. again , dont confuse urself |
Re: Morenike Toyin Folayan: I Divorced Because Of My Career by shugamummy: 10:19am On Feb 22, 2018 |
Sorry Ma,But your head that was too full is beginning to clear up. First after divorce, did you stay celibate? CAPITAL NO!!!!!!!. Now another man was inserting and logging out right? OBVIOUSLY YES!!!!!!!!!! Alright, Now that you are too old and you are wishing to have your children and possibly grandchildren flock around you,are you regretting? REGRETTABLY YESSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!. Hold on, by the time your own parents are dead and you can no longer assist yourself to even get water from the pot, do you feel you need your kids around you then? I DEFINITELY WISH AND DO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Madam, you are a professor of N.O.N.S.E.N.S.E.....its your life,live with it...Dont ever mention you are even trying to send any whatsapp messages to those innocent kids, before thunder go.... I hate it when women enjoys life and allow their kids to suffer and later come and sing regret songs... 1 Like |
Re: Morenike Toyin Folayan: I Divorced Because Of My Career by ivanalimi: 10:20am On Feb 22, 2018 |
naturalwaves:if she dies today sef the children might not even come to her burial. what a pity |
Re: Morenike Toyin Folayan: I Divorced Because Of My Career by Martin0(m): 10:21am On Feb 22, 2018 |
trustyshoess:eh |
Re: Morenike Toyin Folayan: I Divorced Because Of My Career by Atlantia(f): 10:22am On Feb 22, 2018 |
naturalwaves:You're right..Failure is relative. So you'll forgive me if I don't agree that she should be labelled as one. I take exception to the UK comment and I'll throw the question back at you. Why do you think they aren't responsible? You analysed the write-up perfectly and I'm sure you observed the tone of regret. She regrets not 'treating' her children differently. I use the word 'treating' because you might end up misconstruing my use of the word 'raising' like you did earlier. It takes a strong person to own up to their mistakes and that's what you don't seem to realise. She doesn't regret choosing her career over her home... That's what you have a problem with. We do not know the children's source of funding and we would be wrong to assume that she has not contributed one way or the other to their upkeep. Holidays and jamborees? How do you come up with these things? Stop making assumptions based on sentiments. |
Re: Morenike Toyin Folayan: I Divorced Because Of My Career by lorhema(f): 10:26am On Feb 22, 2018 |
Enoquin: Agreed. But as people age their attitudes and desires undergo some changes. Earlier she really wasn't available to her children.Their dad was. Now she would like more interaction with them but they don't need what they didn't get when they were young. That is the real story. That's why parents who bond with their children when they are young don't have to look for them later in life. |
Re: Morenike Toyin Folayan: I Divorced Because Of My Career by Atlantia(f): 10:26am On Feb 22, 2018 |
donstan18: You ask all this questions and it pains me to say that I can't answer them...Why you ask? Because I'm not her. It wouldn't be right to make any assumptions because we simply do not have all the details. Making so much out of a comment she made on an interview is a complete waste of time, if you ask me. Like I said while replying a previous mention. It's so easy for us to judge the decisions people make when we don't have firsthand knowledge of what made them follow that path. |
Re: Morenike Toyin Folayan: I Divorced Because Of My Career by Atlantia(f): 10:28am On Feb 22, 2018 |
angels09:I encourage you to do so. Please dig out the lifestory of this useless woman. |
Re: Morenike Toyin Folayan: I Divorced Because Of My Career by Lightening: 10:29am On Feb 22, 2018 |
orientation666: Thanks honey. |
Re: Morenike Toyin Folayan: I Divorced Because Of My Career by Jokerman(m): 10:32am On Feb 22, 2018 |
trustyshoess: Sadist.... hope you won't turn lesby later on due to lack of love from a man |
Re: Morenike Toyin Folayan: I Divorced Because Of My Career by donstan18: 10:33am On Feb 22, 2018 |
Atlantia: Not like I'm tyna force answers out from you, i'm questioningly highlighting the reasons why she should be faulted and blamed for breaking her home just for career, she should have focused on the career before going into marriage. Furthering on your motion of judging people's decision, are we both to believe that no one deserves to be judged or faulted by people, even if he/she did a wrong thing, are we? |
Re: Morenike Toyin Folayan: I Divorced Because Of My Career by Nobody: 10:35am On Feb 22, 2018 |
Jokerman:I don't think you know what a sadist means so here you go: sadist ˈseɪdɪst noun a person who derives pleasure, especially sexual gratification, from inflicting pain or humiliation on others. So explain how I'm a sadist 1 Like |
Re: Morenike Toyin Folayan: I Divorced Because Of My Career by Jokerman(m): 10:40am On Feb 22, 2018 |
trustyshoess: Sadism is a matter of perspective.... from mine, thou art, due to what you wrote.... |
Re: Morenike Toyin Folayan: I Divorced Because Of My Career by Atlantia(f): 10:42am On Feb 22, 2018 |
donstan18:I understand perfectly. You've highlighted the reasons why she should be faulted for breaking her home. I still don't agree with those reasons because we don't have all the details. No matter... The problem here is this - We have different opinions of the word 'wrong'. You believe that she's wrong to have chosen her career over her home, trying to convince you otherwise would be fruitless. We're at an impasse... |
Re: Morenike Toyin Folayan: I Divorced Because Of My Career by Lagbaja01(m): 10:45am On Feb 22, 2018 |
those kids are not proud of their mother.....despite all of your achievements in life, ur children do not even wanna thread your part.....madam prof is still proud of that hui?? Well, you can be a prof n still be ignorant especially when you are arrogant. |
Re: Morenike Toyin Folayan: I Divorced Because Of My Career by Nobody: 10:45am On Feb 22, 2018 |
Jokerman:LMAO it's not a matter of perspective. It is what it is. You can't change the meaning of a word to suit you smh 1 Like |
Re: Morenike Toyin Folayan: I Divorced Because Of My Career by naturalwaves: 10:46am On Feb 22, 2018 |
Atlantia:Okay. Forgiven! Atlantia: I do not think they aren't responsible. What I meant was that, we do not have the necessary yardstick to say maybe or not they are responsible. There is no observable evidence that we can use to say that and if you are going by the fact that one of them is married, that doesn't mean such person is responsible. After all, their mum got married and wasn't responsible. Atlantia: Okay, she regrets. Cool. Atlantia: Okay, claps for her. Atlantia: She regretted not being able to balance the two. That's what you failed to see underneath. The home front and an academic career are not mutually exclusive. That's what I actually have a problem with. I have a problem with the fact that she couldn't strike a balance or a near balance. Atlantia: I didn't say she didn't contribute or anything like that. I said " I won't be surprised ". So, didn't make any assumptions. |
Re: Morenike Toyin Folayan: I Divorced Because Of My Career by donstan18: 10:46am On Feb 22, 2018 |
Atlantia: We mustn't have all the detail. Our opinions should come as regards to what she, the woman told press. Now, from what she said, do you think she did right? |
Re: Morenike Toyin Folayan: I Divorced Because Of My Career by Tollzara(m): 10:51am On Feb 22, 2018 |
Atlantia:Exactly. Marriage is not a must. Everyone has the opportunity to make choices and decisions----whichever one they make, they should be ready to face the responsibilities that come with it. You should know the level of your competence, and the extent of your capabilities, so you would be in no delusions about what you can do, and make your choices accordingly. If it so happens that you judged yourself wrongly and made a decision that turned out to be a mistake, you wouldn't be justified in saying you're proud of the mistake and make no apologies for it. Admit you were wrong----no one is above mistakes----and move on. She didn't train her children to be "independent". She obviously trained them to disregard her and put her at the bottom of their priority list. No one should be proud of that. So, yes, if she knew she couldn't handle being a mother, she shouldn't have become one. "KNOW THYSELF". Seeing as I'm not aware of her private affairs and she didn't divulge all the details of the divorce, I have no way of knowing what went on between she and her husband before their separation.Yeah. I'm not judging her concerning the divorce. I was only asking questions and considering scenarios that would make it valid to call her irresponsible, which are not necessarily true, since I have no idea what happened. Don't mind me. What I do not agree with is the name-calling. It's always easy for us to judge people and the decisions they make without having first-hand knowledge of what made them follow that path.True. But we can only judge based on the information she provided. Except the claim is being made that we should give her neither horns nor halos, since we're oblivious to the details, which I wouldn't contest. But it's basic human nature to make judgements based on perceptions and appearances----and we can't be 100% rational 100% of the time. So maybe people should stop washing their linen in public, if they aren't out to make clear revelations. Afterall, she's passing a message across in some way. |
Re: Morenike Toyin Folayan: I Divorced Because Of My Career by Atlantia(f): 10:52am On Feb 22, 2018 |
donstan18:If we are to base our opinions on what she told the press then it's not for me to say whether she did right or wrong. That's the point I've been trying to make right from the beginning. |
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