Lothario:
you can never please a woman

crackhaus:

You're right, but are you gay? I didn't think so.
Do you want kids? I think so.

So you do need a man. It's isn't such a bad thing

KevinDein:
TBH, based on the stories I hear from my female colleagues, with regards to their contributions to the "home", I think we men, especially in "modern" Africa where women take part in the corporate lifestyle in addition to their domestic roles, are getting the better end of the deal. I won't swap our "stress" with theirs,

It's tough for some of these ladies, guys.

(and I hate taking sides with women on nairaland)

Intrepid01:


Yea true....but the Nigerian definition of Feminism is the ability of a lady to initiate confrontation, exhibit over-confidence and show huge disrespect on every subject matter of discourse with a Man....just for self satisfaction, thinking antagonism is tantamount to Independence.

I know for years Men have lauded it over Women, as the Head of the House....but going overboard in a bit to correct the wrong notion isn't the way forward.

The truth is Men too do many things at home that are always over looked....but in the end I pray we all end up with people we share similar views on home management with...cos at that time the size of the boobs n yansh or size of the dick n pack of muscles won't matter anylonger....it will be a world of open realities...

tunjilana:
even when she does my money is my money and your money is our money from the earnings of the so called work she is working ?

davour:
Bro I can really relate your story to my cousin, he couldn't handle d pressure anymore then he ran to my house and stayed for one week, I had to take a week sick leave .. All we did was to bring beer, make noise, play ps3 and bet9ja

crackhaus:

Your last paragraph is the crux of that post. Everything else above that? Well....

bukatyne:


Konga

trustyshoess:

Yes you're right, I'm not gay.
Yea I want kids in future but if I don't find a man who's values match mine, I'd rather remain single forever.
It's the 21st century, there are sperm banks, if my maternal instincts make me desire kids that badly, I'll visit one or adopt 2 or 3 children seeing as there are already so many kids in the world who need parents to love and care for them. Simple

crackhaus:

That issue of depth again.

You do not want to be single forever, no healthy well-balanced human really wants to be single forever.
People just say that, you're just saying typing that

trustyshoess:

That's what you think. You're free to make any assumptions you like, I've said my piece.

RuthDaniels:
I understand you perfectly. I've seen more than enough comments from some feminists on nairaland that sometimes make me question their sanity / humanity. But I have been made to realize that while some do not understand what feminism entails, some see it as a way to express their pent up anger and frustrations. Matters that should be discussed with no gender discrimination all greased with forced sentiments. And I wonder where Fairness has gone to.

Lol, How can I oppose that fact when just yesterday my younger brother offered to fix a bulb in the house without me asking? I got the bulb but he collected it to have it fixed, How much more the other males in the family? Lol I can't even on a generator neither have I ever washed a car, it's the guys job. .I believe we form our perspective from what goes on around us, so you must understand if some oppose to this thread Your prayer is the most important for us all.

crackhaus:

I wasn't expecting you to just so easily agree with my "assumptions" either.

I just intended to make you think about it, like really think about if you can actually stay single forever.

bukatyne:


Yes.

In a traditional marriage, a husband brings the resources aka money while the wife brings the time aka doing things to keep the home that's why most things men do in the home requires money while most things women do requires time.

Actually, you are either spending time or money in this life.

Back on course, when a wife works full time, she doesn't have the time to do 'her duties' hence the added stress. Afterall, if I am a housewife, what is cooking, cleaning and running the home? I can decide to sleep/watch movies/ visit friends/etc for 3 days and use the remaining 4 days to do all I need to do in the home....

However, if I work say 8am - 5pm, leave home 6am to beat traffic and get home by 8:00pm, I have in reality spent 6am - 8pm outside (14hrs out of 24hrs) outside the home which I cannot use to do anything at home because I am not there. Also remember that as you are fagged out after a long day, I am also fagged out.

If I get home and start making dinner or doing something else or my weekends when I should rest for the next week, I am carrying much more burden. And in reality, most wives do not do me & my husband alone because the husband is not capable to finance the home alone and they want to 'contribute to the home'.

Irrespective of the model, a working wife does much more hence a number of people advocate wives should stay at home or they get helps.

KevinDein understands this.

KOPT55:
Only a man who doesn't know his worth will become a maid in his own home.

If there is anything that I don't joke with, it is my time. I don't entertain any unplanned demands on my time
because I consider those to be a waste.

Most women intentionally pretend to be clueless in order not to do any work. I won't even entertain that crap. I will only settle down
with an action-woman, a go-getter. No one has time to be babying another grown-ass human.

Since we are all about equality in these day and time, people have to get their shit done.

Men, please ensure your wife or partner is capable. Believe me, there are no damsels in distress.

Most women can do the things they are always on men's neck for unless said thing is too heavy or something.

trustyshoess:

Uhm, men get breast cancer too so...

mayorkyzo:
and what percentage of men gets breast cancer compared to women..and prostrate cancer affects men alone...

crackhaus:

You're right, but are you gay? I didn't think so.
Do you want kids? I think so.

So you do need a man. It's isn't such a bad thing

Danhumprey:
Uhhhmmmmm.........hello? I just sent you a message on facebook. Please,do reply. It is urgent.

JoyceMeyersFan:

And hope you do your own things too, like wash and iron your clothes, take care of your children when their independent mum isn’t around, go get yourself water from the fridge, tidy your own room, etc

Saintmary:

She might need the man's copulation products, maybe not the man himself. Whatever works for everyone

JoyceMeyersFan:

And hope you do your own things too, like wash and iron your clothes, take care of your children when their independent mum isn’t around, go get yourself water from the fridge, tidy your own room, etc

crackhaus:

Lol @copulatuon products, what a way to put it. Just say sperm.

Well the point is, she ended up needing sperm which only comes from a man. And every time she looks at the child she bore from that random sperm, she must be grateful to the man who provided it and have some respect because he made her happy when he didnt have to.

Without him, she would have had no pregnancy, let alone the kid borne from it.

Saintmary:

it's nice to see you guys highlighting your usefulness in procreation. don't forget, if the lady pays for it, she doesn't need to feel indebted.