It is an absolute abomination and the path straight to hell to be a 1diot thief who deceives people and does 419 on them (419 where he collects tithes for the miracles he will NOT deliver) to calls himself a pastor.

I'M NOT SURE IF THIS PASTOR HAS BEEN TO ANYWHERE BEFORE, EVEN MY PASTOR'S WIFE CALLS HIM BY HIS NAME IN THE PRESENCE OF EVERYBODY WITHOUT EVEN ATTACHING THE WORD PASTOR OR ANY TITLE TO IT AND MY PASTOR DOES THE SAME WHEN REFERRING TO HER, (AMERICANS THO)

[quote author=johnnyvid post=67317453]A pastor has told women that it is an abomination for them to call their husbands by his name or a pet name.
Pastor Chris Ojigbani, who calls himself a marriage and relationship expert, said a man is a woman's Lord and as such, she should never call him by his name or by a pet name. He said names such as "sweetheart, darling, even baby" should never be uttered by women in relation to their husbands. He was especially opposed to the use of "baby" and said it belittles a man. Lol. What an archaic man!
Pastor Ojigbani advised the female members of his congregation to refer to their husbands as "My King" and "My Lord". The use of ordinary names and pet names, he said, are as a result of wrong teachings.
As he preached, the female members of his congregation were seen nodding their head in agreement. After the video was shared online, a lot of people expressed support for his teaching but some pointed out that he calls Jesus by name though he is his Lord.
The pastor has now replied to those opposing his teaching.
He wrote:
It's amazing how many wives and unmarried women refused to accept the simple teaching in the video above where I taught wives how to become queen in their marriage.
In the video, I simply asked wives to make their husbands king if they want to become queen. And to do that, I explained you must respect him by calling him King or lord and by serving him food like a king. But it's so unfortunate that some of the women are arguing the teaching and insulting me as well.
After much consideration, I decided to ignore the insults and help you with further explanations. And I will like to start by asking a question. Is there anything wrong in asking a wife to respect her husband? Any woman who doesn't respect the husband is actually disobeying the word of God, which says that wives should respect their husbands (Ephesians 5:22). It's also interesting to note that any disobedience of the Word of God is a sin. If your husband doesn't treat you well, he has committed a sin and will have a question to answer before God on the judgement day.
So, if you disrespect your husband because he doesn't treat you well, you will also have a question to answer on the judgement day. It's also important you note that you should respect your husband unconditionally. You don 't respect your husband because he treats you well. In Christianity, respect is not reciprocal. In the world, respect is reciprocal but in Christianity, respect is sacrificial.
I also noticed that many wives commented they would never call their husbands lord. But the Bible tells us that Sarah called Abraham lord (1Peter 3:6). If Sarah called her husband lord, what makes you feel you are too big to call your husband lord? Apart from the fact that Sarah called Abraham lord, is there any other scripture that says the husband is the lord of his wife? Yes, Ephesians 5:22 says that you should respect your husband as lord. Verse 23 of the same chapter also says that your husband is your head just as Christ is the head of the church.
So, my teaching is scriptural! And I didn't write the Bible. The teaching is very clear and simple. Apart from the fact that the teaching in the video is scriptural, what wrong have I done to ask you to respect your husband? I didn't ask you to respect me, but to respect your husband. Some of you respect pastors so much but have no respect for your husband. Some of you don't call your pastors by their names but call your husband by his name. One lady even commented that she must call her husband by his name because she calls Jesus by His name.
Kindly check the scripture and you will find out that no disciple of Christ called Him Jesus Christ. Some may have referred to Him as Jesus when talking about Him to people, but when talking to Him directly, they called Him Master, Rabbi, Son of David, etc.
The previous week, I published a video, where I rebuked only husbands and many women applauded the teaching. But because the teaching in this video advises wives, the same women are angry. One of the women even commented that my teaching is an African teaching. Please note that there is nothing African about the teaching.
The teaching is directly based on scripture, and the scriptural references are Ephesians 5:22-25 and 1Peter 3:1-6. It will interest you to note that the teaching that supports equality of husband and wife is based on western culture. The Bible does not support equality of a husband and wife. It, however, supports equality of a man and woman, but not a husband and wife. It's different in marriage. A woman may be the head of a big organisation but her husband is still her head.
The Bible clearly says that the husband is the head (Ephesians 5:23). You can't be equal with your head. There is no scripture that supports equality of husband and wife. Rather western culture supports it. Unfortunately, there is a mixup of western culture and scriptural doctrines. Many people practise western cultures, thinking they are practising scriptural doctrines.
Having said this, I want you to know that I don't support the maltreatment of wives. God forbid! The teaching in the video was just to help wives become queen in their marriages. If you listen to the full message, you will see how I rebuked husbands. I actually rebuke husbands more because wives are weaker vessels. But I want you to know there is no other way of becoming a queen in your marriage apart from making your husband the king.
For you to become a queen, your husband must first become the king. The message has been tested and proven. It works! From the comments I read, it's obvious that some of the ladies are bitter against their husbands. And I will like to beg you to take it easy with husband. He may be maltreating you, but you are also not treating him well. If you give him his due respect, you will be happy. The problem is usually who will become nice first.
I know that some people wrongly teach you that you are equal with your husband. They are deceiving you. Such teaching makes so much sense but cannot be found in the Bible. Apart from the fact that the Bible says wives should respect their husbands, it's clearly better to respect than to disrespect a person. Do not see me as your opponent. God called me to help Christians, irrespective of one's church or denomination. That explains why I don't pastor a church. W
Ives, I beg you to be respectful to your husbands. Be submissive to your husband as the Bible teaches us. You can't be disrespectful to your husband and still pray to God. Any wife who disrespects the husband has no relationship with God. A man, on the other hand, who maltreats the wife has no relationship with God.
My teaching may be hard but it's the truth. We live in a time that people have itchy ears but I teach only what you should know. I don't teach what you want to hear but what you should hear. If your husband has annoyed you so much, please forgive him and have a fresh start with him. Put into practice my teaching, and your husband will make you his queen. You can't be happy in the marriage if your husband is not happy. Make him happy and become the happiest wife on earth. When I teach husbands, I rebuke them as well. But now, I am speaking to wives.
Respecting your husband does not mean you are a slave. Rather, it cements your relationship better. I also want you to know that you cannot modernise marriage.
Marriage is an old-fashioned institution and must be practised in an old-fashioned way. Any attempt to modernise it will destroy it. Jesus Christ said that if you put a new wine into an old wineskin, it will bust.
The marriage system has “busted” because we are attempting to practise it with new marriage doctrines. We must go back to the scripture and practise only scriptural doctrines if we want to restore our marriage system. I would have explained further to you but I feel that I have already said enough.
Watch the viral video below.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kNikk-X-O7E&feature=youtu.be. https://www.pressnewsng.com.ng/2018/05/its-abomination-to-call-your-husband-by.html?m=0[going through the b comments you will only but sympathize with men. Am never a fan of pastorprenuers but must say that I have no choice but to agree with Chris on everything he said. /quote]

This man's marriage must be very boring.

100% right. In fact,one of the best teachings by nowadays Pastors. Read your Bible very well and you will understand it

EasterDell:
He is making a fantastic point!

My King ... My Queen...

Simple love and respect. If you know, you know!

Please call me by the name you saw on the marriage registry and the one you scream when you're hitting it good, don't call by any silly Queen name and still be cheating on me and treating me bad.

Respect is not by name, it's by treatment. Treat me right and you can call me by my full name plus my ancestors name, and problem no go dey.

cutefergiee:
Ok.. Goin by wetin Dey happen nawadays for naija, I support him... Women especially in abuja call their pastors names like DADDY, PAPA, MASTER etc and d same women find it difficult to call person Wey pay money for ur head ordinary Lord or king �?? Den dats hypocrisy..

This is why we need to abolish bride price.

I will show this to my wife. She has been calling me my first name, if she doesn't change she will go to hell because the pastor with the key of the gate of hell fire says so.

omohayek:
Here we are in 2018, and in Nigeria we still have promoters of ignorance like this pastor charlatan, preaching retrograde nonsense about wives treating their husbands like masters or slave-owners, instead of regarding marriage as a union of equals. Of course, numerous idi.ots come out of the woodwork to cheer on the self-promoting religious fraudster instead of laughing him off the stage as he deserves.

Let me make myself clear: if you think it right that a woman should be cravenly subservient to her husband because some magical "holy" book says so, then either you have no sisters or daughters of your own to make you realize they are human beings just like yourself, with the same rights, or you are an amoral monster obsessed whose fragile self-esteem demands male domination, in which case all the Bible-quoting and church-quoting means nothing at all, and is merely for show. A wife should not be a personal servant or a slave who only lives to cater to a man's needs and desires.

It is a pity that we are wont to criticize everything. If you had read the Pastor's message completely, you would have understood the following:
1. The message is for a particular audience - Practicing Christians. It is not for you if you dont believe in the Bible. From your response, I guess you are not his audience, so you have no right or understanding to criticize what you dont know/ understand.
2. The pastor never advocated for a Master - servant relationship in marriage. He only advised that wives treating their husbands like Kings, makes them treated as Queens in return. Is a Queen a servant in her household? No. There is no Queen without a King. The man, the Bible says, is the head of the family.
3. The pastor also pointed out that man and woman are equals in the Bible unlike a husband and wife. It is common knowledge that in a union of equals, there would still be a head. Take the world stage as an example: even in the committee of heads of states, there is a head/Chair e.g CHOGM.
4. The Pastor stated that respect is sacrificial in Christendom and not reciprocal as is expected in the society. While advising wives to respect their husbands ( even more than they do Pastors), he admonished that though respect should be offered sacrificially, it usually breeds reciprocity from the husband. A wife being respectful and not subservient to the husband is good for a successful Christian marriage. Remember, Christianity is all about SACRIFICE, starting from the greatest of all- Jesus Christ's sacrifice for us on the cross of calvary.
5. Unlike you, the Pastor did not abuse/ insult anyone, not even those with dissenting opinions/voices. Please do take a cue from him. We need to make this world a better and more peaceful place for all.

Thanks and Shalom..

ibitzbarlow:


It is a pity that we are wont to criticize everything. If you had read the Pastor's message completely, you would have understood the following:
1. The message is for a particular audience - Practicing Christians. It is not for you if you dont believe in the Bible. From your response, I guess you are not his audience, so you have no right or understanding to criticize what you dont know/ understand.
2. The pastor never advocated for a Master - servant relationship in marriage. He only advised that wives treating their husbands like Kings, makes them treated as Queens in return. Is a Queen a servant in her household? No. There is no Queen without a King. The man, the Bible says, is the head of the family.
3. The pastor also pointed out that man and woman are equals in the Bible unlike a husband and wife. It is common knowledge that in a union of equals, there would still be a head. Take the world stage as an example: even in the committee of heads of states, there is a head/Chair e.g CHOGM.
4. The Pastor stated that respect is sacrificial in Christendom and not reciprocal as is expected in the society. While advising wives to respect their husbands ( even more than they do Pastors), he admonished that though respect should be offered sacrificially, it usually breeds reciprocity from the husband. A wife being respectful and not subservient to the husband is good for a successful Christian marriage. Remember, Christianity is all about SACRIFICE, starting from the greatest of all- Jesus Christ's sacrifice for us on the cross of calvary.
5. Unlike you, the Pastor did not abuse/ insult anyone, not even those with dissenting opinions/voices. Please do take a cue from him. We need to make this world a better and more peaceful place for all.

Thanks and Shalom..

You even got time answering this one?

I can bet you that all those commenting nonsense didn't either read the entire article or lack data to even watch thr video...

This pastor made sense.. no man in hes right sense will maltreat a woman who calls him my lord.. my king... The man will always be in cloud 9. But this girls won't understand...


I really don't comment on nairaland.. cus i have seen tomuch of senseless kids everywhere...

Quote me and thunder will rest for ur generations for ever...


Bunch of lazy kids...

The bible also says that the man is the bread winner of the home.

It is high time we stop cherry picking verses in the bible to soothe our needs. How will a man want a woman to call him Lord if he doesn’t respect himself and be dragging her pay packet with her. Pastors in Nigeria should help rid the country of corruption by preaching to their flocks about illegal acquired wealth, taking and giving bribes, being contented. Etc

omohayek:
Here we are in 2018, and in Nigeria we still have promoters of ignorance like this pastor charlatan, preaching retrograde nonsense about wives treating their husbands like masters or slave-owners, instead of regarding marriage as a union of equals. Of course, numerous idi.ots come out of the woodwork to cheer on the self-promoting religious fraudster instead of laughing him off the stage as he deserves.

Let me make myself clear: if you think it right that a woman should be cravenly subservient to her husband because some magical "holy" book says so, then either you have no sisters or daughters of your own to make you realize they are human beings just like yourself, with the same rights, or you are an amoral monster obsessed whose fragile self-esteem demands male domination, in which case all the Bible-quoting and church-quoting means nothing at all, and is merely for show. A wife should not be a personal servant or a slave who only lives to cater to a man's needs and desires.

With all this your plenty grammar, I am already suspecting that you have a big problem.. your type is of those the bible refer to as "ever learning but never coming to the knowledge of the truth" .. Marriage is the oldest institution on earth , it didn't start in your time and have been successful over those years too
. don't get to the point where you start thinking you are now wiser than the billions of people that have passed through the earth .. my dear , there is nothing new under the sun.. it is only the knowledge of things that man is inventing that is constantly changing..

johnnyvid:
A pastor has told women that it is an abomination for them to call their husbands by his name or a pet name.
Pastor Chris Ojigbani, who calls himself a marriage and relationship expert, said a man is a woman's Lord and as such, she should never call him by his name or by a pet name. He said names such as "sweetheart, darling, even baby" should never be uttered by women in relation to their husbands. He was especially opposed to the use of "baby" and said it belittles a man. Lol. What an archaic man!
Pastor Ojigbani advised the female members of his congregation to refer to their husbands as "My King" and "My Lord". The use of ordinary names and pet names, he said, are as a result of wrong teachings.
As he preached, the female members of his congregation were seen nodding their head in agreement. After the video was shared online, a lot of people expressed support for his teaching but some pointed out that he calls Jesus by name though he is his Lord.
The pastor has now replied to those opposing his teaching.
He wrote:
It's amazing how many wives and unmarried women refused to accept the simple teaching in the video above where I taught wives how to become queen in their marriage.
In the video, I simply asked wives to make their husbands king if they want to become queen. And to do that, I explained you must respect him by calling him King or lord and by serving him food like a king. But it's so unfortunate that some of the women are arguing the teaching and insulting me as well.
After much consideration, I decided to ignore the insults and help you with further explanations. And I will like to start by asking a question. Is there anything wrong in asking a wife to respect her husband? Any woman who doesn't respect the husband is actually disobeying the word of God, which says that wives should respect their husbands (Ephesians 5:22). It's also interesting to note that any disobedience of the Word of God is a sin. If your husband doesn't treat you well, he has committed a sin and will have a question to answer before God on the judgement day.
So, if you disrespect your husband because he doesn't treat you well, you will also have a question to answer on the judgement day. It's also important you note that you should respect your husband unconditionally. You don 't respect your husband because he treats you well. In Christianity, respect is not reciprocal. In the world, respect is reciprocal but in Christianity, respect is sacrificial.
I also noticed that many wives commented they would never call their husbands lord. But the Bible tells us that Sarah called Abraham lord (1Peter 3:6). If Sarah called her husband lord, what makes you feel you are too big to call your husband lord? Apart from the fact that Sarah called Abraham lord, is there any other scripture that says the husband is the lord of his wife? Yes, Ephesians 5:22 says that you should respect your husband as lord. Verse 23 of the same chapter also says that your husband is your head just as Christ is the head of the church.
So, my teaching is scriptural! And I didn't write the Bible. The teaching is very clear and simple. Apart from the fact that the teaching in the video is scriptural, what wrong have I done to ask you to respect your husband? I didn't ask you to respect me, but to respect your husband. Some of you respect pastors so much but have no respect for your husband. Some of you don't call your pastors by their names but call your husband by his name. One lady even commented that she must call her husband by his name because she calls Jesus by His name.
Kindly check the scripture and you will find out that no disciple of Christ called Him Jesus Christ. Some may have referred to Him as Jesus when talking about Him to people, but when talking to Him directly, they called Him Master, Rabbi, Son of David, etc.
The previous week, I published a video, where I rebuked only husbands and many women applauded the teaching. But because the teaching in this video advises wives, the same women are angry. One of the women even commented that my teaching is an African teaching. Please note that there is nothing African about the teaching.
The teaching is directly based on scripture, and the scriptural references are Ephesians 5:22-25 and 1Peter 3:1-6. It will interest you to note that the teaching that supports equality of husband and wife is based on western culture. The Bible does not support equality of a husband and wife. It, however, supports equality of a man and woman, but not a husband and wife. It's different in marriage. A woman may be the head of a big organisation but her husband is still her head.
The Bible clearly says that the husband is the head (Ephesians 5:23). You can't be equal with your head. There is no scripture that supports equality of husband and wife. Rather western culture supports it. Unfortunately, there is a mixup of western culture and scriptural doctrines. Many people practise western cultures, thinking they are practising scriptural doctrines.
Having said this, I want you to know that I don't support the maltreatment of wives. God forbid! The teaching in the video was just to help wives become queen in their marriages. If you listen to the full message, you will see how I rebuked husbands. I actually rebuke husbands more because wives are weaker vessels. But I want you to know there is no other way of becoming a queen in your marriage apart from making your husband the king.
For you to become a queen, your husband must first become the king. The message has been tested and proven. It works! From the comments I read, it's obvious that some of the ladies are bitter against their husbands. And I will like to beg you to take it easy with husband. He may be maltreating you, but you are also not treating him well. If you give him his due respect, you will be happy. The problem is usually who will become nice first.
I know that some people wrongly teach you that you are equal with your husband. They are deceiving you. Such teaching makes so much sense but cannot be found in the Bible. Apart from the fact that the Bible says wives should respect their husbands, it's clearly better to respect than to disrespect a person. Do not see me as your opponent. God called me to help Christians, irrespective of one's church or denomination. That explains why I don't pastor a church. W
Ives, I beg you to be respectful to your husbands. Be submissive to your husband as the Bible teaches us. You can't be disrespectful to your husband and still pray to God. Any wife who disrespects the husband has no relationship with God. A man, on the other hand, who maltreats the wife has no relationship with God.
My teaching may be hard but it's the truth. We live in a time that people have itchy ears but I teach only what you should know. I don't teach what you want to hear but what you should hear. If your husband has annoyed you so much, please forgive him and have a fresh start with him. Put into practice my teaching, and your husband will make you his queen. You can't be happy in the marriage if your husband is not happy. Make him happy and become the happiest wife on earth. When I teach husbands, I rebuke them as well. But now, I am speaking to wives.
Respecting your husband does not mean you are a slave. Rather, it cements your relationship better. I also want you to know that you cannot modernise marriage.
Marriage is an old-fashioned institution and must be practised in an old-fashioned way. Any attempt to modernise it will destroy it. Jesus Christ said that if you put a new wine into an old wineskin, it will bust.
The marriage system has “busted” because we are attempting to practise it with new marriage doctrines. We must go back to the scripture and practise only scriptural doctrines if we want to restore our marriage system. I would have explained further to you but I feel that I have already said enough.
Watch the viral video below.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kNikk-X-O7E&feature=youtu.be. https://www.pressnewsng.com.ng/2018/05/its-abomination-to-call-your-husband-by.html?m=0

Wahala dey. As chauvinistic as they come, and na their type dey get women pass smh. When we say most women are confused...

EsotericMonk:
Pastor who doesn't know and understand the bible is worse than a boko haram terrorist. Bible says "be not many masters (teachers) cos you would be judged by a more severe judgement."
I know its pastors like him who believe than any other sex position apart from missionary position is sin cos bible said "and he laid with her"
Even "My Lord" is a pet name. Some use pet names like "My King", "My Prince", " Olori", "Princess"

Doggy will take you to hell pastors

Alejoc:
Advancement of the already well established male order......



Abeg!

Advancement of which male order. Remember this was how the wives of old addressed their husbands in bible. However he also said if the husband likes the wife to call him him "baby", no wahala. So i see no fuss about his speech.

If it is not in the scripture the man should shut the fok up

MarieSucre:


This is why we need to abolish bride price.

I support u on dt one.. Lets take d campaign to the southeast... Mk Dem free all dose cute fine babes for men

yemi15:


Doggy will take you to hell pastors

My brother leave them alone, doggy sef is becoming old school .
Pls don't ask me which one is new school, abeg I am in church

The teachings are purely scriptural. Let's learn.

sorom4:
So many people have abused that position in the name of pastor

sarah called Abraham Lord. What'd your stupid point exactly

Always chasing irrelevant issues...every pastor want to say something

Onye ara n' uche ya so

Leonbonapart:
sarah called Abraham Lord. What'd your stupid point exactly

the same Sarah gave Abraham a side chic

Ok na
my king, my lord ;What of My God
Puleez,,,,the not calling him by name is not a problem but the My Lord is something else pls; Baby or Sweet heart is the best loving name you can call your spouse; If u introduce formalities in the marriage, there will be rigidity and arbitrality pls, Thats all

EsotericMonk:

My brother leave them alone, doggy sef is becoming old school .
Pls don't ask me which one is new school, abeg I am in church

Na spoon or on your shoulders na? That one na straight to lake of fire not hell by these pastors . You Pastors should fix up your lives ni asha M.I.

Katier00:
I agree with your teaching sir, my husband is my lord and king but taking seven out of ten pieces of meat in the pot to serve him because he is a king is a no for me. Filling his plate with food because a king must not finish his food is ridiculous. Unlike you my source of income no be tight, I work to get money so I can't come and be wasting food for this buhari administration in the name of forming an imaginary kingdom

Lmao

Please, tell the man you will be marring not me, I don't marry your types.

... Too much bitterness plz

No offence taken or given. Just my own humble opinion.

MarieSucre:

Please call me by the name you saw on the marriage registry and the one you scream when you're hurting it good, don't call by any silly Queen name and still be cheating on me and treating me bad. Respect is not by name, it's by treatment. Treat me right and you call me by my full name plus my ancestors name l, your and problem no go dey.

chukxie:
I didn't read all that gibberish!

I read it.
The pastor made a lot of valid points.
However, I do not agree that it is an abomination to call one's husband other names than King or Lord.

Printerscanner:
I will show this to my wife. She has been calling me my first name, if she doesn't change she will go to hell because the pastor with the key of the gate of hell fire says so.

Lmfao.... ahahahahaha

yemi15:


Na spoon or on your shoulders na? That one na straight to lake of fire not hell by these pastors . You Pastors should fix up your lives ni asha M.I.

Hahahaha ur head is there. Some like the Man-Missionary or other variants of the cowgirl are getting more popular. Same for the one on my dp.
Abeg lemme run before them mods coman ban person for derailing

Dear pastor, in as much as you've made some sensible points there, respecting my husband against all odds is a No No for me. The book of Ephesians 5 is very clear on this subject. Husband love, and wife submit, hence love precedes submission. But you make it seem as though I should respect my husband no matter what. How would I respect a man who doesn't care if I exist or not? He earns my respect by loving me, it's as simple as that. As the head of the family, he has to lead by example. God is not an author of confusion.

EasterDell:
Please, tell the man you will be marring not me, I don't marry your types.

... Too much bitterness plz

No offence taken or given. Just my own humble opinion.

Calling someone by their birth name is now bitterness. You men are so funny. lmaooo children on the internet. Why don't you go and make it official in the name registry council na