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Re: Serious Marriage Interference By In Law by chii8(f): 2:12pm On Jun 05, 2018 |
But, Acidosis is it proper for newlyweds to have family member around few months after wedding? Op,where was this guy before you married your husband? I lived with my husband's younger brother for a year after our wedding though(they have been living together beforehand),but he used to give us a lot of space and I also enjoyed his company too.(I managed those days because he was never in my way and vice versa). If I were you, I would just take time to study him and learn how to relate with him,as in look for his strength and ignore his weakness because he's not going to be there forever. Nigerian marriages is too tasking, our mothers were more patient. |
Re: Serious Marriage Interference By In Law by Acidosis(m): 2:25pm On Jun 05, 2018 |
Orchid45: These are serious allegations bro. The earlier you start understanding that women are generally hostile towards "strangers", the better. My point is this, OP's husband would probably have maintained same stance if that "intruder" was OP's elder or younger brother. |
Re: Serious Marriage Interference By In Law by Acidosis(m): 2:55pm On Jun 05, 2018 |
chii8:I'll say Yes and No. If a family member from a different state needs to pass the night in my house for an interview, I will allow him/her regardless of whether I just got married or not. But live in for as long as he/she wants? No I won't, especially when there are no extra rooms or food for guests. Way to go! You're wise ma'am. Nigerian marriages is too tasking, our mothers were more patient. I agree to be honest. My only concern is that the cycle will likely continue especially with the increasing cost of weddings. Just go on Instagram and see how photographers, decor pages, makeup artistes, etc, have proliferated the cyberspace. A photographer recently gave a friend a N298k quote for wedding photographs only! N298k to just take photos and get likes on Facebook or Bellanaija. I'm sorry to say this photography used to be one of the most ridiculed professions back in the days but what do we have today? The trend has changed. Makeup artistes are everywhere all looking for the next bride to charge their ridiculous painting fees. Of course, in-laws are fully aware, they know how much their 'buroda' spent on his wedding, they're aware their 'buroda' has never spent a quarter of the wedding expenses on the family so they lay the aggression on who? The sweet bride whose only crime was falling in love with buroda (frustration-aggression theory). Even if it isn't true, they believe their buroda has spent so much on bride price and engagement lists so someone got to pay. These have been the trend lately and it isn't going to get better as different forces seem to have hijacked the whole marriage concept. To change the trend, emerging and new generation parents must learn to imbibe in their children the right culture. |
Re: Serious Marriage Interference By In Law by Acidosis(m): 4:28pm On Jun 05, 2018 |
Look at what I found on Quora
All African families should reflect on this piece. Not only have we commercialized and radicalized the marriage concept, we have also made a merchandise of the whole idea of marriage. The negative foundation of marriage in Africa is the basis of your problem. |
Re: Serious Marriage Interference By In Law by babeosisi: 4:29pm On Jun 05, 2018 |
ahnie: I love your husband already. Everyman needs to set that boundary with his people from day one Mine did It didn't go down well with some but they respect it I'm glad he did The OP is talking about brother inlaw,the greatest pain in marriage often comes from sisters of the man especially an older unmarried sister The married ones will want to also control their brother''s home Thankfully I don't have that issue maybe distance helped so every time we meet it's a happy short reunion |
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