Noteasilybroken:
Hello Family. I had to create this new moniker as this is personal to me. I got married four years ago but separated from my husband about two years ago because of domestic violence. We had no children in the two years of marriage. I would have started the divorce proceedings but lost my job last year and not so buoyant to get a lawyer. I had everything going on for me. I got a job a year after service and was paid well. Got married at 25. I am 29 now and I feel so sad. I don't know if i should call it depression but I feel sad within my soul. How could everything just crash? How do people have the courage to start over? I have been applying for jobs but nothing has come yet even though I have five years experience. I do not want to break down. I am trying to be strong. I used to be strong and intelligent but I am not sure I can say that now. Please I just need advice from my nairaland family.

post=69035272:
You lost THE job you had later?
You didn't talk about that part.

post=69035215:
BE STRONG.
YOU HAVE A BRIGHT FUTURE AHEAD OF YOU.
THINGS WILL TUEN AROUND FOR THE BEST SOON.
PLEASE HOLD ON.

crackhaus:
You got out of a violent marriage with no kids produced to keep connecting you to him or to reduce the number of suitors who would have had reservations about dating a single mom, and you're depressed?

You're a winner my friend.

Noteasilybroken:

Thank you so much.

Noteasilybroken:

I got a job before I got married. I lost it last year. Spent five years on the job.

Noteasilybroken:
Hello Family. I had to create this new moniker as this is personal to me. I got married four years ago but separated from my husband about two years ago because of domestic violence. We had no children in the two years of marriage. I would have started the divorce proceedings but lost my job last year and not so buoyant to get a lawyer. I had everything going on for me. I got a job a year after service and was paid well. Got married at 25. I am 29 now and I feel so sad. I don't know if i should call it depression but I feel sad within my soul. How could everything just crash? How do people have the courage to start over? I have been applying for jobs but nothing has come yet even though I have five years experience. I do not want to break down. I am trying to be strong. I used to be strong and intelligent but I am not sure I can say that now. Please I just need advice from my nairaland family.

crackhaus:

Unless you spent five years there and learnt nothing, then you have no problem.

Keep applying for jobs IN PERSON, not sending CV through the internet or through people - go to places and show them you know what you're doing.
Meanwhile, I hope you're a beautiful woman.. at least you can't say raising kids has stressed you out and made you look like akpu wey dem soak for water.

Dress up and look good, let there be an air of confidence about you and people will naturally be drawn to you. You're still less than 30years of age with five years experience in one steady job, that's prime candidacy most HRMs look out for.

You'll be fine, just get your mind right.

effnepa:
Where do you live, big city? Do you have friends & family, do you like mingling with them or do you like quiet? What do you do during the day? Do you sleep well. Can you move to a different environment?

The psychologists say the amount of human connection we have determines how healthy we are. Good luck.

bukatyne:


Why are you depressed?

Search yourself well.

Is it guilt that you had a hand in the breakdown of your marriage?

Regret that despite your sacrifices it didn't work out?

That you are currently not financially bouyant?

That you are now single?

One evening, just think through yourself truthfully and try to pin point what the issue is.

Then you work towards resolution because if what is eating you up is the fact that you are jobless and you are attending dates in search of another husband, you will still feel depressed and vice versa.


Goodluck and stay strong.

post=69035811:

YOU are welcome.
It will end in praise!

boldx:

Isaiah 54vs 1 (New Living Translation)
"Sing, O childless woman, you who have never given birth! Break into loud and joyful song, O Jerusalem, you who have never been in labor. For the desolate woman now has more children than the woman who lives with her husband," says the LORD.

KanwuliaExtra:
Life is tough, no guarantees in any aspect. You have to be tougher.

No job? A failed marriage? Only 29?

You are too young to give up.

Think less and act more! Depression is real.

Ademat7:
*never promise things will be easy but you need to rise above your level of input
*join a social group or a unit in your place of worship(you will meet cheerful people)
*teaching helps too(teach someone anything you know)

lordOM:
My story is worst than yours but I have told myself that I cant give up.Depression creeps in slowly than you will recognise but very hard to fight off.Tell yourself it's late to fail,get closer to your family,confide in God and tell him your problems,do things that make you happy and lastly start looking for jobs aggressively.

I have been in your shoes and I know it's not easy but I am gradually coming out of it.If you need a friend to talk to,i'm available.

Noteasilybroken:

Thank you so much. I won't give up.

Noteasilybroken:
Thank you so much. I would take your advice. Thank you.

Noteasilybroken:

I am already looking inwards from tonight. Thank you very much.

KanwuliaExtra:
Life is tough, no guarantees in any aspect. You have to be tougher.

No job? A failed marriage? Only 29?

You are too young to give up.

Think less and act more! Depression is real.

realtalk19:
U still have a chance to start afresh. U are lucky no kids involved. I had same experience and am left with 2 cute blessings I appreciate each day. It's not easy for me as a single mum but I feel happier and lucky to be alive. If I can move on and look good then u too can.

Snap out of ur depressed state, package ur CV and be positive in all ur thoughts that u wil get a job. U can't stay indoors and expect a job or a nyc looking prince charming to locate u. U nid to engage in activities that wil kip ur mind occupied from worrying.

Some lady didn't live to tell the story or av d opportunity you have. When u hear some people's domestic violence story then u Wil thank God for surviving' through it.

Wish u all the best